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About me
I started questioning my identity as a girl at 14 because I hated how my body was changing and felt I couldn't live up to being a woman. I was put on testosterone at 19 after everyone affirmed my feelings without question, even when I had doubts. I realized I was just trying to escape my depression and self-hatred, and that living as a man felt like a lie. I detransitioned at 22 and am now learning to accept myself as a female. I'm angry at the professionals who rushed me into this and am finally embracing womanhood on my own terms.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was around 14. I was a girl who felt lost and out of place. I didn't fit the image of what I thought a woman should be, and I hated my body, especially when I developed breasts during puberty. I felt like I stood out in a bad way. Looking back, I think a lot of it was internalized misogyny—I believed that to be a woman, you had to be a certain way, and since I wasn't that, I must not be a woman at all. I also struggled with really low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety, and I now see that my desire to transition was a form of escapism from dealing with those real issues.
I started identifying as a trans man in my teens. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by the friends I had at the time. Everyone around me, including the doctors and therapists I saw, just blindly affirmed what I said. I told them I had doubts, but they told me that was normal and pushed me towards medical transition anyway. I was diagnosed with "other gender identity disorders," not even outright transgender, but they still recommended hormones. I started testosterone when I was 19 and was on it for three years.
Being on T did some things I thought I wanted at the time, like lowering my voice and giving me more body hair, but it also gave me terrible acne and made me feel like I was living a lie. I was always having to explain myself to people—at the doctor's office, filling out forms, even with friends. I'd have to say that awkward line, "I'm not actually a woman, but my documents say otherwise." It was exhausting. I realized there's no such thing as truly living as the opposite gender; you can only ever be a trans man, not a man born male. I was just pretending.
My family was never really supportive of my transition. They never acknowledged my trans identity and kept calling me 'she'. I thought I was fighting them, but in a way, they were waiting for me to come back to myself. When I finally told them I was detransitioning, that I no longer wanted to call myself a man, they were understanding and supportive. My mom was happy to have her daughter back.
I detransitioned at 22. The biggest reason was that I finally understood my problems weren't about gender. They were about trauma, low self-worth, and a messed-up view of what it means to be a woman. I worked through my issues and realized I could be a woman without having to fit into a stereotype. Womanhood isn't something you earn or feel; it's just a fact. I was born female, and that's that. I don't need to change my body to be myself.
I have a lot of regrets. I regret ever taking testosterone. I regret not listening to my doubts. I'm angry at the doctors and therapists who didn't try to help me love myself but instead sold me hormones as a cure-all. It makes my blood boil that they let this happen to me, a confused kid. I'm dealing with some permanent changes, like a deeper voice and body hair, but I'm learning to accept them. I'm lucky I didn't get any surgeries.
Now, I'm learning to embrace being a woman. I'm rediscovering my style, experimenting with clothes and a little makeup, and it feels like I'm reclaiming a part of myself I'd rejected. It's exciting. My advice to anyone questioning is to give yourself time. If there's even a small chance you can learn to accept your body as it is, pursue that. Transition should be an absolute last resort.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social construct. There's no right way to be a man or a woman. You don't need to "feel" like a gender; you just are. The whole idea that you can be born in the wrong body doesn't make sense to me anymore. I think a lot of people, especially young girls, are transitioning for the same reasons I did—internalized misogyny, self-hatred, and a desire to escape—and I believe many of them will eventually detransition.
Age | Event |
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14 | Began to feel intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body. Started to question my identity. |
14-19 | Identified as FTM (female-to-male). Socially transitioned and used a male name and pronouns with some people. |
19 | Started testosterone (HRT). |
22 | Stopped testosterone and began my detransition. |
22 | Came out to my family and close friends as detransitioning. They were supportive. |
Top Comments by /u/Hot-Pen-8804:
the anger is valid. everyone tells you it’s a good idea. nobody ever questions it or tries to help you love yourself the way you are. “you can’t treat gender dysphoria” well you can’t if you don’t even try. and you can’t even tell anyone it might not be the solution because you’re always ignored and everyone starts yelling at you that your case doesn’t prove anything because there are people who don’t have regrets. detransitioners just don’t exist and it’s their fault. it’s fucking sick. i’m so tired of it. i’m so sorry for what you’re going through. if you ever want to talk you can reach out to me. best of luck and many hugs for your sweet soul. we will eventually heal.
true, i’m trying to stay respectful towards individuals because there’s no reason to hate them, but somehow i no longer feel safe around the trans women i know, even though i know they wouldn’t hurt anyone, it’s just uncomfortable. but i hate the community itself, it’s one of the most delusional and sick spaces that have ever existed.
misogyny, often internalised, and stereotypes that make you think you don’t count as a woman if you don’t do these things. that’s when you start believing you’re not one and figure out that you must be a man. if many women transition because of this reason, many of them are sooner or later going to wake up and detransition.
i absolutely hate it. even more when i think it’s not only activists but also all the doctors that allow it to happen and it makes my blood boil. the whole transition thing is an experiment, but not the type they imagine. it’s a lab rat kind of experiment, with the outcome unknown. but of course you will be a real man/woman/nonbinary, whatever you decide for yourself; as if it was a choice to make.
i agree with everything you said, especially forcing new gender identities on women who are just non conforming to stereotypes. you’re immediately trans but not yet aware of it nonbinary. and conversely, you have to be nonbinary to be a gender non conforming woman. it’s so stupid to me, seeing so many of my female friends come out as nonbinary because they like to wear a masculine outfit from time to time. you literally have to assume a different identity to do what you like.
i’d add to the misogyny part that more and more people use phrases like “people with vagina” (or any other female organ) instead of just saying women. people with uterus, people who are pregnant, because men can get so very pregnant. it honestly feels like taking away the womanhood from women.
if someone calls me a cis woman i’m fine with it, but i personally don’t use it. i call myself a woman, that’s enough. i don’t find it offensive but i want to separate myself from this ideology.
you have the right to not like this term. i feel like they came up with it only to feel better with them having to add “trans” every time they talk about their gender.
none of the people who love you will judge you, i promise you that. they will be happy to have you back, that’s all i can say! when you matter to someone they don’t care if you were right or wrong because it’s totally irrelevant to this happy news! and also, as time passes, you’ll notice that you want to live your life for yourself, rather than keep up a fake identity to protect your honour. it is quite embarrassing, but many people come to the point that they can’t do this anymore, and tell everyone about their reclaimed identity. i couldn’t be happier honestly, i’m so glad i told everyone - no one has judged me (two people were weird about it but they were my friends so no big deal, i don’t talk to them anymore) and i tell you, my mom was so happy and moved when i told her that i learned to love myself in ways i had never thought i could. i spent 8 years in this brainwashed state, luckily i already graduated so i don’t need to explain it to my teachers. still, it would me much easier for me to do if i never took hormones. and while i’m still mourning my old self, i feel so much better interacting with other people, because i can finally be myself. changed, hurt and grieving, but it’s still me. i hope it goes well for you, good luck and welcome back!
on one hand, it’s not my business. if transition has ever helped anyone, good for them. on the other, i don’t think anyone could possibly be born in a wrong body and even if that’s the case, you can’t change it in the way you’d like to. i don’t like the idea that it’s incurable. it’s not curable because no one is trying. i don’t know how any of these procedures can be called “medical” or “healthcare”. but i never mention that to trans people, i don’t want to make anyone feel bad and honestly most of them are not even willing to listen to such things.
you already are a man. you don’t need to be a walking stereotype. instead, focus on becoming better as a person generally. not saying that you’re not, ofc! because you’re probably amazing. it’s just tiring and pointless, trying to fit in and be like others. you’re good the way you are.
of all places, you decided to say that it’s “statistically unlikely to regret” here? have you not seen a single post of people dealing with regret so big that it affects their lives? that’s so insensitive. all the people here are a solid proof that it’s not “statistically unlikely”. and why do i care what people do with their bodies? because the last thing i want is to see another person suffer in the same way as me.