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About me
I started because I hated the expectations placed on women and felt my body was wrong. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, thinking it was the only solution. I eventually realized I had just traded one set of stereotypes for another and that my natural female body was never the problem. My issues were really with society's rigid boxes, not my sex. I regret changing my body and now believe the healthiest path is to be an unapologetically masculine woman.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I hated the expectations placed on me as a woman. I never felt like I fit into that feminine box. I didn't want to wear dresses or makeup, and I felt a lot of discomfort with my body, especially during puberty when I developed breasts. I saw them as a symbol of everything I was supposed to be but wasn't. I thought that if I couldn't be a "proper" woman, then maybe I wasn't a woman at all.
For a while, I identified as non-binary, but that didn't feel like enough. The pressure and the internal discomfort were so strong that I started to believe I was actually a man. I think a lot of this was influenced by what I saw online. The communities I was in presented transition as the only real solution for anyone who didn't fit a gender stereotype. It felt like a way to escape the person I was supposed to be.
I ended up taking testosterone for about two years and had top surgery to remove my breasts. At the time, it felt like a relief. I was finally taking action against the body that felt so wrong. But the relief was temporary. I started to realize that I hadn't solved the underlying problem; I had just performed a different kind of conformity. I had traded one set of stereotypes for another. I began to see that my issues were more about hating the stereotypes forced on me, not my body itself. The surgery and hormones just solidified the idea that my natural body was incorrect.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed now. I believe there is no such thing as a "masculine" or "feminine" essence. They are just toxic stereotype boxes. A woman is an adult human female, and she can look and act any way she wants. She can have short hair, not shave, wear men's clothes, and still be a woman. The concept of "passing" is sexist because it implies there's a right or wrong way to look like your sex. Transitioning, to me, ended up reinforcing the very stereotypes that caused my distress in the first place. It’s like trying to cure an addiction by using a different drug.
I do have regrets about my transition. I regret that my first response to discomfort was to change my body instead of challenging the rigid ideas about gender that made me uncomfortable. I regret that I permanently altered my body. I see now that my feelings were a mental health issue rooted in low self-esteem and a rejection of sexist norms, not a sign that I was born in the wrong body. The simplest and healthiest solution would have been to learn to be unapologetically myself, to punch anyone who gave me shit for it, and to cut off anyone, including family, who couldn't accept me.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began feeling intense discomfort with my body and female social expectations. |
| 17 | Identified as non-binary after being influenced by online communities. |
| 19 | Started identifying as a transgender man and began taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 23 | Stopped taking testosterone and began to detransition after realizing my issues were with gender stereotypes, not my sex. |
Top Comments by /u/Hotwheelsoverfem:
Hugging you because I 100% blame irresponsible parents. At 15 your hormones are all out of whack and I don’t think any teenager really knows who they are. Sorry instead of them helping you figure out who you are they just immediately went to the most extreme. You’ll find someone eventually.
I disagree with that. How someone feels it’s always relevant. The fact of the matter is is that trans culture has taught us that if someone doesn’t “feel right” in their own body that automatically means that they must change their body rather than try to figure out why they feel the way they do. The simplest reality is if you feel dysphoric due to your body that means that you have a mental health issue that you need to work on. Extreme mutilation and chemical alteration should not be the first treatment for somebody who hates the way they look. If Anything it’s solidifies that their body is wrong and they must change it and I feel like that is just as toxic a saying that they are uncomfortable in their natural body.
Do you feel uncomfortable in your body? Do you feel like your body isn’t yours?
Or do you just fantasize about being a woman? Transitioning isn’t supposed to be some quirky trendy thing that you do to be different.
Transitioning is a treatment for a severe mental disorder.
Which also means that you are not ever going to be a woman. When you transition you will become a trans woman. A trans woman and a biological woman are very different.
Transitioning is a trendy fad for fixing mental illness the same way way back when smoking cigarettes was a trendy fad for losing weight.
Little research was done but it’s propaganda and fed to humans as something good and healthy for your body when in reality at the time nobody knew or they were hiding the real detrimental effects to the body.
Cross dressers, sissy boys, Dykes and butch lesbians were all fine and dandy until this trans culture came to life. Now we’re injecting people who just like to be flamboyant or non-feminine with hormones because we would rather them be the other “gender” than just accept they are being themselves.
I have a male BDSM Dom and he is absolutely dominant towards me but he is also bisexual and is into cross dressing. He would never take hormones but he makes a very cute girl and a very handsome man naturally. But I can almost guarantee you that if he went to a therapist over it they will tell him that he’s trans and then shove a bunch of girl hormones in him and fuck his brain chemistry up.
Now I’m not saying that people can’t transition. I just think the whole concept of putting children on puberty blockers and just making it the first treatment idea after 1 to 3 months of therapy is ridiculous. It’s like when I was a teenager and they didn’t wanna diagnose me with anything and were telling me that I was suffering from teenaged angst but we’re also putting me on schizophrenic medication “just in case”. They were treating something without even really knowing what was wrong. Should we really tell somebody to go put themselves on hormones, castrate themselves and cut off their breasts just because they’re uncomfortable in their bodies should that really be the first choice? Isn’t that just solidifying to them that the way they were born naturally isn’t right? Seems toxic.
There is no such thing as “masculine” or “feminine” just toxic gender stereotype boxes people force themselves into to appease others rather than themselves. Not every woman wears dresses, shaves their legs and armpits and wears make up. That is just your most stereotypical and toxic version of what you perceive a “woman“ to be. You have no idea what it “feels like to be a woman“ therefore you have no idea if that’s what you want. You have never been hairier or with more muscle so you can’t say you would hate it. It’s like claiming to love and want a food even though you’ve never tried it.
If you’re a dude and you put on “woman’s” clothes. That makes them your clothes. Wearing “woman’s” clothes doesn’t make you a woman it makes you a person wearing clothing they like.
When you begin to convince yourself and question whether or not youre “trans” just because you don’t and fit into a stereotypical gender box you are further solidifying those gender stereotype boxes to begin with.
Those toxic gender stereotype boxes are why the whole concept of “gender dysphoria” started to begin with. Rather than just end the toxic gender stereotypes we further solidify them by telling someone that if they don’t fit into their box they have to belong to the other. Going so far as to convince them to get chemical and surgical alteration on their natural bodies all because they don’t fit into a stereotype.
This is why being transgender is inherently toxic because trans women and trans man teach people that if you don’t fit into your correct box based on society’s view of you you are wrong and if you try to fit in the other box it implies that how you fit into that other box is the “one true way” of being in that box. Aka being more “manly or feminine” than someone else just because they don’t follow your beliefs on what’s man or woman should be.
When you think about whether or not you want to transition do you also believe that the women who have shorthair and don’t shave should transition because they don’t fit “traditional femininity”. If not why do you feel that way about yourself because you don’t “fit” into your gender box?
Well I mean if you think about it the entire concept of transitioning is enforcing the toxic gender stereotypes that gave you the gender dysphoria to begin with. You wouldn’t shoot more gunpowder heroin to get over your black tar heroin addiction. If you don’t fit into one gender box, which by the way who gives a fuck if you do or don’t.. Why would you think you would fit into the other gender box?
Why not just take the simplest solution and be unapologetically yourself?? Then punch anyone in the face who gives you shit. Or just cut them off if they are family... or both if they are family.
Transitioning thrives on telling people that they aren’t actually who they are but that they can still be that if other people tell them they are. (The toxic concept of passing)
It’s all toxic it’s the same thing as calling the person with anorexia fat when they aren’t. If a person is struggling with their identity you don’t further it by telling them that their identity is wrong.
You got this dude it’s gunna be tough. It takes time. I remember when I shaved my head bald (I’m a woman) I cried but then I began to like it the more it regrew now I don’t even give a fuck about wearing wigs and I still only have about 2.5 inches of (very curly) hair. Yeah I look like a “dyke” even though I’m straight but I don’t give a shit what others think of me anymore. Fuck it
Being yourself without worrying about fitting into a disgusting toxic and stereotypical gender box. It’s literally THAT easy.
The concept of “passing” is sexist and toxic in itself. It implies that women who don’t “pass“ aren’t actually women or are bad women and it’s the same thing with men.