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Reddit user /u/IBmajor's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 16 -> Detransitioned: 19
female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
regrets transitioning
escapism
depression
influenced online
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
only transitioned socially
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  • Deep, specific knowledge of endocrinology, medical procedures, and detransition effects.
  • Consistent perspective focused on the physical health risks of testosterone for female bodies.
  • Personalized engagement with other users' questions and concerns.
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About me

I started feeling uncomfortable with my female body as a teenager, especially when my breasts developed. I believed this discomfort meant I was transgender and began a social transition, planning to take hormones. My own research into the permanent health risks of testosterone, like heart disease and infertility, made me realize I couldn't go through with it. I've since detransitioned and found peace as a masculine woman without any medical changes. I regret how close I came to making permanent decisions based on anxiety and online influence.

My detransition story

My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was uncomfortable with my body during puberty, especially developing breasts. I hated them and felt like they didn't belong on me. I had a lot of anxiety and depression, and looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were tied to low self-esteem and a general discomfort with growing up. I spent a lot of time online, and I was influenced by what I saw in certain communities. I started to believe that my discomfort meant I was transgender.

I began my transition socially, asking people to use a different name and pronouns. I thought about taking hormones and even researched top surgery extensively. I was convinced that changing my body was the only way to feel better. I was so focused on the idea of becoming someone else that I didn't stop to question if this was really the right path for me. I think I was using transition as a form of escapism from my other problems.

What stopped me from going through with medical transition was my own research. I have a background in medical topics, specifically endocrinology, and I started to really look into the effects of testosterone on a female body. The information I found was terrifying and it wasn't being discussed in the supportive online spaces I was in. I learned that testosterone has serious and permanent health complications. It can cause damage to the reproductive system, often requiring a hysterectomy, and it increases the risk of stroke and heart disease. I read about the permanent voice changes and male-pattern baldness. I realized that long-term, no one really knows the full effects of putting a female body on testosterone for decades.

This knowledge made me pause. I saw friends encouraging each other to get risky, permanent surgeries, and it felt strange. I had to ask myself whose interests were really at heart. I decided that I couldn't go through with it. I started to explore other ways to be comfortable with myself. I realized it was okay to be a masculine woman, to cut my hair and wear men's clothes, without needing to change my body permanently.

I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I only transitioned socially, and I eventually detransitioned. I don't regret exploring my identity, but I deeply regret that I ever got so close to making irreversible changes. I regret that I was influenced so heavily online and didn't get non-affirming therapy that might have helped me work through my underlying issues like anxiety and low self-esteem first. My thoughts on gender now are that we need to be much more careful. We need to be honest about the real, serious health risks and the permanent changes, especially for young people. There are no do-overs.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

My Age Event
14 Started feeling intense discomfort with my body and breasts during puberty.
16 Began identifying as transgender online and started a social transition (new name/pronouns).
17 Researched testosterone and top surgery heavily, influenced by online communities.
18 Conducted deep research into endocrinology; decided against medical transition due to health risks.
19 Stopped identifying as transgender and detransitioned socially.

Top Comments by /u/IBmajor:

17 comments • Posting since January 9, 2020
Reddit user IBmajor explains the higher prevalence of female detransitioners, citing that testosterone is more damaging to the female body than estrogen is to the male body, listing risks like heart attack, stroke, and the need for a hysterectomy.
76 pointsApr 23, 2020
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In addition to the cultural and psychological issues others posted, testosterone is much more damaging to the female body than estrogen is to the male body. Estrogen is neuro-protective, while testosterone raises blood pressure, heart attack risk, stroke risk, male pattern baldness, will require a hysterectomy, increases risk of ovarian failure, etc.

Reddit user IBmajor explains why testosterone is more dangerous for female bodies and why MtF surgeries lead to fewer detransitions.
31 pointsFeb 20, 2020
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Testosterone has much more significant and dangerous effects on the female body than estrogen on the male body. Testosterone is a main reason why men, on average, die younger than females. It raises your risk of stroke, heart disease, kidney failure. On the female body it also has serious effects on their reproductive system. Hysterectomies are generally required after a few years on T. It also has fast and powerful effects on voice and hairline.

In addition, there is no real "bottom surgery" for females. Doctors have started to try, but the results are nowhere near as advanced as MtF. I think MtF, post surgery have a really low chance to detransition because you took "the last step" so to speak. Since there are no testes, they'll also never produce their own natural hormones anymore either. Also, implants are more expensive and invasive to remove. Gyno (breast growth) is also relatively permanent and requires surgery to remove.

Reddit user IBmajor explains the discrepancy in how medical institutions treat testosterone use for female bodybuilders versus FtM transitioners, noting that bodybuilders use lower, cycled doses of less androgenic steroids.
19 pointsMar 5, 2020
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Similar situation here. I really wish FtM transitioners would look at the research on androgens on the female body. There are thousands of pages of literature on what steroid cycles do to the female body. The crazy thing is that dosages used by female bodybuilders are LOWER than what many teenage FtM transitioners use. They also cycle, rather than cruise for decades and use less androgenic steroids like Anavar.

It’s incredible that reputable universities and hospitals will list all the dangers and risks from testosterone use in female bodybuilding and then completely disregard all research, dangers, and risks when writing about the transgender community.

Reddit user IBmajor explains the lack of reliable data on surgical regret rates, citing limited sample sizes, self-selection biases, and a lack of long-term follow-up for HRT, SRS, and mastectomies.
14 pointsJan 9, 2020
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Nobody really knows regret rates for any sample of patients, this includes HRT, SRS, mastectomies, etc. The studies that have been done are based on extremely limited sample sizes, with many self-selection biases and a serious lack of long-term follow-up.

Please do as much research as you possibly can from patients, doctors, and others in the community. There’s no do-overs on this one.

Reddit user IBmajor explains their perspective as a medical professional, stating that they share knowledge about hormonal effects often absent from main transgender forums to help users weigh mental health benefits against physical health risks.
13 pointsFeb 20, 2020
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Some of us are in the medical profession and focus on endocrinology and know that the vast majority of transgender forum activity is full of misinformation and rosy interpretations of data. I like share my knowledge about hormonal effects on the body that isn't typically heard on the main transgender forums. I generally come at the topic from a body health preservation standpoint and allow the poster to decide whether the mental health benefits of transitioning outweigh the physical.

Reddit user IBmajor explains how to get hormone bloodwork (Testosterone & Estradiol) in the US without a doctor's visit for under $100, and comments that OP's voice still sounds female.
13 pointsFeb 13, 2020
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If you’re in the US you can go get bloodwork. You don’t need to see a doctor as long as you live near a Labcorp or Quest.

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Get a hormone panel that includes Testosterone and Estradiol. They’re under $100.

Edit: your voice still sounds female to me.

Reddit user IBmajor advises a person exploring their gender identity to embrace masculine expression but warns of permanent physical effects from testosterone and binders.
12 pointsJan 15, 2020
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It’s 100% okay to explore your masculine side or to cut your hair/ dress in traditionally boy clothes. So many women do that! Call yourself Vince if you like the name!

Please be careful with hormones. They’ll have permanent effects very quickly. Look into how many women want their voice back on this sub or how many develop male pattern baldness that takes years (if ever) to recover from. Long term nobody knows the side effects of putting the female body on testosterone for 20+ years.

Also you may want to read about the women with permanently diminished lung capacity from use of binders!

Explore your sexuality and identity. That’s part of what university is about! Just be sure to take care of yourself and your health.

Reddit user IBmajor explains why they believe more FtMs detransition, citing the severe long-term health risks of testosterone on female bodies, including damage to reproductive organs and increased risk of heart attack and stroke.
11 pointsJan 31, 2020
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I think it’s also because testosterone does much more damage to a female body than estradiol does to a male body. Long term testosterone use in females can cause uterine, ovarian, and Fallopian tube damage, which is why many doctors request FtM transitioners get hysterectomies. It also increases the risk of heart attack and stroke. I think most FtMs that detransition do so because of the side effects of testosterone.

Reddit user IBmajor comments on an FTM user's upcoming top surgery, advising caution, questioning the encouragement from friends, and urging consideration of loving one's body and the surgery's permanence.
10 pointsJan 23, 2020
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Like another poster said, you sound 100% female. That's not to tell you how to live your life or what you want to be known by. Just letting you know what I thought.

Having a double mastectomy is a major surgery. It's totally normal to have second thoughts and, on some level, it is strange that your friends are encouraging you to have a permanent and risky procedure that, unless your dysphoria is so bad that you're suicidal, really is unnecessary. Testosterone is already effecting your organs and brain in so many ways. You're in uncharted medical territory long term. Please be careful and consider other ways to love your body as it is before resulting to surgery.

I know this sounds obvious, but whenever you're being encouraged to remove body parts in order to be a part of a community you really need to take a step back and think about whose interests are really at heart. You have someone who loves you. There are many many people who will accept you no matter how you look or what gender you present as. Do what's best for YOU. Picking up the phone to postpone the surgery is easy compared to regretting your decision, having medical complications due to surgery, or the realization that even after removing your breasts you still don't truly feel like a man.

Reddit user IBmajor explains that long-term estrogen and testosterone blockers can cause permanent hypogonadism, but outlines treatment options like TRT, Clomid, and HCG to restore function, improve mood, and potentially regain fertility.
9 pointsMar 6, 2020
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You probably are permanently hypogonadal. How long were you on estrogen and testosterone blockers? Anything over a few years and your HPTA has a very low chance of coming back naturally.

BUT there is a lot that endocrinologists can do to make you feel better, treat hypogonadism, and probably even bring back fertility. Treatment options include testosterone-replacement therapy, clomid, and Hcg. Look into those drugs and go see a doctor! You don’t have to live like this! Low T causes all sort of depression, mood changes, fat gain, etc. You’ll feel 100x better after treatment.