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The user's perspective is highly specific, emotionally charged, and internally consistent over time. They share detailed personal experiences (e.g., detransitioning after being groomed online at age 12, stopping SSRIs on a cousin's advice) and express nuanced, albeit strong, political opinions that align with a genuine, passionate detransitioner's viewpoint. The language is natural and varies in tone from angry to analytical.
About me
I started getting groomed online when I was 12, and people sent me porn while telling me transition was the answer to all my problems. I lived as a girl for two years but was miserable, constantly anxious and hiding in bathrooms to cry. I now see I was just an uncomfortable kid with low self-esteem, and the online communities I was in made everything worse. I detransitioned in eighth grade after a reality check, realizing I had been following a harmful ideology. Today, I'm living as a male, focused on my future and recovering from the mental anguish of that time.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was really young, around 12 years old. I was just a kid looking for an escape from my own head and I found it online. I was groomed. People online sent me sissy porn and told me that all my problems would be solved if I just transitioned. I didn't have a strong sense of self and I was looking for answers anywhere I could find them. I latched onto the idea that I was born in the wrong body because it gave me a clear path and a new identity. It felt like a solution.
I socially transitioned. I started using a new name and pronouns. I didn't take hormones or get any surgeries, but I lived as a girl for about two years. During that time, I was miserable. I was so anxious about using public bathrooms that I would barely drink water all day at school just to avoid it. I remember one time I had to hide in the men's room just to cry because I was so overwhelmed. My entire friend group at the time was other trans and queer kids, and it felt like we were all in this bubble together, reinforcing each other's beliefs.
Looking back, I see now that a lot of what I was feeling was a deep discomfort with puberty and a general low self-esteem. I hated the changes happening to my body, but I think a lot of kids feel that way. I was also struggling with depression. The online communities I was in didn't help; they just told me to push further into transition. They made it seem like any doubt was just internalized transphobia.
I developed a porn problem because of the groomers sending me that sissy stuff. It messed with my head and became a real addiction. I've since worked to repress it because I see it as a cancer to the brain. It's not healthy and it warps your view of yourself and other people.
My detransition happened around the time I was in 8th grade. I was talking to my cousin about the SSRI medications I was on, and he, who was only 15 himself, said something about them rewiring my brain. I looked up to him, so I went cold turkey off all my meds. I don't recommend that—he wasn't a doctor—but around that same time, I also detransitioned. It was like a switch flipped, and I started to get my life together. I realized I had been following an ideology without really thinking for myself.
I don't believe in transgenderism anymore—the idea that people are born in the wrong body. I think it actually reinforces gender stereotypes. A lot of people who transition are just gender non-conforming and feel pressured to change their bodies to fit in. I also see a lot of internalized homophobia in the community. It feels like the movement has been taken over by a loud, extreme minority that is often dysfunctional and chronically online. They've created this environment where you can't even question things without being called a bigot.
I have regrets. I regret the time I lost and the mental anguish I put myself through. I regret getting sucked into an ideology that separated me from reality. I don't hate all trans people, but I am fed up with the ideology. It feels like glorified misogyny and homophobia sometimes, especially with things like autogynephilia (AGP), where men fetishize the idea of being a woman in a really misogynistic way.
Now, I just see myself as a male. I'm trying to move on with my life, focus on my studies, and build a future for myself. The whole experience made me more conservative in my political views, but I try to think things through for myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Groomed online, introduced to sissy porn and trans ideology. Began social transition. |
| 12-14 | Lived socially as a transgender girl. Struggled with severe anxiety, depression, and bathroom use. |
| 14 (8th Grade) | Stopped taking SSRIs cold turkey after a conversation with my cousin. Detransitioned around the same time. |
| Present | Living as a male, working on recovering from the experience and building a healthy life. |
Top Comments by /u/Ill-Profile-9945:
Alright, you’ve enraged my inner debate bro. Time to be fun at parties.
”Transgenderism” as described many time before that it’s a nothingburger of a term
When I say trangenderism, I mean belief of transgender people. Like, the belief that people actually being born in the wrong body.
More that the patriarchy REEEEEEKS in there
This, my friend, is a nothingburger point. What does that mean? Genuinely, I’m confused.
being trans breaks the norm of the current binary system
I would say it does quite the opposite, actually. It enforces the binary system by deciding what traits are considered male or female. Lots of people think they are trans because they are GNC (which is actually breaking the binary system), and because they don’t conform to the “gender roles” of their given sex, they decide to transition to conform to the roles of the other sex.
I don’t think you responded to a single actual point of mine, other than the definition of transgenderism. From what I can see, all of your arguments are strawmans.
I may be a compromised source on this since I am definitely more right wing, but this line of argument is really dumb. Like, I could literally say “oh that sub is filled with sissy left wing degenerates” or some shit, and try to discredit them that way. It just literally gets you nowhere, because it can be applied just as easily to the other side, and all it does is create unneeded tension.
Also, even if it was a right wing sub, you can’t bear to hear someone out on the other side? Or try to disprove their arguments? You just have to ‘win’ by calling them mean and hateful? IDK it’s just so fucking stupid.
I understand the want for kids- like I’ve thought about teaching my children their ABC’s, or playing catch with my boys in the backyard or something.
These people don’t want kids, they want to be pregnant, which is something that will probably never happen for them. They just describe female qualities with their dick in their hand and explain how they want it.
In an online community I enjoy looking at, someone who is now ex-communicated for many reasons recently started an AGP onlyfans account. Someone who previously knew this guy IRL said “I was once walking with him in the park, and he saw a mother with her baby in a stroller, said that caring for your children is a feminine trait, and that he has that trait.” First off, caring for your children is a basic human trait? Like, humans, whether male or female, have a natural instinct to protect and care for their children? The friend wasn’t aware of the AGP at the time, but yeesh.
They get any gratification doing something based on what they think a woman is, which is extremely misogynistic, because who are they to decide what a woman is??
It’s fucking gross.
It’s amazing how quickly they went from “sexuality isn’t a choice” to “sleep with me or you’re a bigot”.
Totally agree!!
Yaoi and Yuri are both forms of media that specifically involve intimate relationships between either gay men or lesbian women. i know both of them are usually written/created by the opposite sex of what they’re writing about, but i think it’s better when gay men or lesbian women write/draw them, because it’s an actual accurate representation of their fantasy as opposed to homosexuals being fetishized by the opposite sex.
mate i was fucking twelve. i have to take responsibility? really?? for being groomed online? the fuck?
i feel like this only applies to people who transitioned 25+ due to a fetish they had, which is a surprising amount of the MtF/MtFtM community, but still. i didn’t “want this”. i wanted an escape, and found myself in a worse situation than ever, but i was told that all i needed to do was transition faster and everything would be okay, and i trusted them. is my practically pre-pubescent mind at fault for that?
side note: this feels like that one video of hollywood stars fake crying and saying “i take responsibility”.
i’ve felt very similar, because it just is glorified misogyny, misandry, and homophobia and yet being pushed by the group that wants equality for all, no matter the gender or sexual orientation. men’s and women’s spaces are being invaded by people who aren’t… well, male or female…
i don’t think many hate all trans people, but i do believe many are fed up with the ideology and believe it is fake.
however, it seems many are waking up to this fact. i’m pulling these numbers directly out of my ass, but i would say probably 75% of non-chronically online people think the same, and maybe 35% chronically online people don’t believe in trans ideology.
it’s quite strange, because it feels like almost everyone who supports this movement is chronically online, completely dysfunctional in society, a NEET (not in employment, education, or training) or multiple/all of the above.
quite a lot of LGB (including myself) are starting to wake up and are trying to “divorce” the TQA+ (the “I” or intersex is fine). so much of trans ideology is blatant homophobia, and when LGB stand up against it, we either “have internalized homophobia” or are revoked of our own “bi/homosexuality status” completely.
so to answer your question, i absolutely do get upset about trans-related things.
“Like the more and more I run into people the more and more i’m against trans people”
felt. after detransition, my ex-entire friend group (mostly trans and queer identified people) at my school always called me by my trans name and she/her, almost in a taunting way.
I developed it when I was trans (because of groomers sending sissy shit), but I fully repress it now. It’s only okay if like a partner is aware of it and plays into it, but even then, it’s iffy. I’ve learned that it’s just a fucking cancer to the brain honestly.
Yeah… IDK why people aren’t allowed to have differing political views anymore.
Like for example in America, if you look at the 2024 election maps, almost everywhere is red except for big cities. And, of course, the republican candidate was elected. However everyone online and irl seems like the only correct political views are extreme left leaning. Maybe I just hang around the wrong crowd 🤷♂️
It happens one on one too.
that’s fucked… don’t get me wrong- i don’t have exactly “politically correct” views on trans people, but i wouldn’t say detransitioning is inherently transphobic, and i’ve never talked about trans issues beforehand with anyone that i’m venting to.
idk… like we can’t even be talked about :(