Wow. Thank God you kept your mind open. The trans cult seeks out 'fertile soil' to spread their doctrine. That fertile soil is always lonely, depressed, gender non-conforming people who are longing for a way to feel at home. Young teens are ripe for the picking, b/c that is the age of confusion anyway. The more people they convert to their religion, the more validated they feel, b/c if everyone suddenly started finding alternate ways to feel at home in their own skin, the whole trans house-of-cards would weaken and collapse.

But this story is about you. You fit their outreach demographic, their fertile soil. Yet you kept your mind open enough to let the truth seep in once you read that post. Good for you. Your experience is so important. Perhaps someone is reading your story right now and will be saved from regret as you were.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Survivors guilt is taking hold of you. Your mother too. Please be kind to yourself. You did not know his thoughts, his intentions. He knew you loved him and were there for him. But life was still too hard for him. I'm so sorry he got mixed up in this trans mess. That is the fault, not you.

Jesus Christ of America, my daughter could have written your experience (except for the internal male body feeling.)

Even as a young child she HATED pink and dresses. All thru elem school and middle school she loathed girly girls and always chummed around with guys. Major tomboy. She started 6th grade with scraggley hair she refused to style or pin back, baggy Tshirts and hiking boots. She was/is outspoken with a dominant personality, and once knocked a boy down for making a girl in her class cry. (He never bothered any girl after.)

Now she is a vivacious and driven young woman who wears clothes from both sides of the isle, and is a creative and driven career woman, dating a guy who is her equal in the relationship and not her 'boss.'

She is freaking thankful that she grew up b/f this gender confusion started. If she had thought, at that (awkward for everybody) puberty stage that she could opt to 'become a guy' she has no doubt she would have jumped on board the train. BUT she skirted that and grew out of the awkwardness of adolescence into the kickass woman she is today.

Please, in the name of all that is holy, please wear whatever you want, and rock whatever personality you want to, but please leave your perfectly healthy body free of synthetic hormones and disfiguring surgeries. Step back and realize you can be/do whatever floats your boat, in the body you have now.

If you think about it, personalities aren't really "male" or "female" ...personalities just ARE. And clothes are only considered male or female b/c we say they are. Why should you be a slave to all that culturally manufactured shit. Just... you do you and to hell with labels and to REAL hell with the medical community profiting off of people's discomfort with their meat suits.

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Sorry... I just saw so much of my daughter in you, that Mama Bear got pissed at the world. Take care, love.

You are stronger than you realize. You broke free of the delusion that sucked you in, and that is incredibly brave. Be as patient with yourself as you can, and forgive your younger self who did the best she could with the information she had.

Inside of you, there is still purpose and promise. Focus on that... the way forward. Focus on the strength of the 'you' who found her way out, who loved herself enough to fight her way to the surface. Connect with people who love you for who you are. Do something incredibly kind for someone else today-- that always brings me joy.

This movement is so counter to the concept of 'body positivity.' This movement contends that the mind is never wrong. That dysphoric thoughts and feelings outweigh reality, are constant (not subject to change) and are to be valued and considered above all else.

The most dangerous part of this movement is that the medical community (including insurance and pharma) jumped on board.

I mean think about it... any person who gets any sort of body modification (breast augmentation, face lift, lipo suction, etc) does so b/c they have feelings of dysphoria about their physical body and want their body to match the ideal in their head. Why isn't ALL of that covered, and accepted by society as something the person NEEDS to feel right in their body? There is so much cognitive dissonance in this movement!

I doubt she is calling her daughter's social scene 'stupid' to her daughter's face. She's venting how she feels about it here, sure. But she's posting here a lot about her daughter's situation BECAUSE she wants to tread lightly and not alienate her. She made that pretty clear in an earlier post.

Personally, I'd be scared shitless if my daughter was that age and caught up in this mania. I'd be venting my true feelings too, if I found one of the few outlets that would even allow my true thoughts.

Take my vote for 'dress how you want!' ...that's a social custom thingy and is literally just fabric on your skin. You can remove it at the end of the day, no harm no foul. Hormones and surgery... permanent and risky as hell! (Those are the things you'll likely get consensus on here on this sub.)

Them: "I told you so!"

You: "Well obviously not convincingly. Maybe you should work on your delivery."

"I told you so" is a really crappy thing for people to say under any circumstance, and I loathe it. It's such an egotistical thing for people to think that they were more 'in the know' about YOUR life experience than you were. They want to take credit for being on the right side of YOUR history, and absolve themselves of any blame, as if this is more about their reputation, than your pain. I'm sorry you even have to entertain the thought that those words will fly at you. I hope knowing that only self-centered, small-minded people throw that at you, will help somewhat.

The sentence that says "...many young adults are beginning to express regret for these irreversible medical interventions..." is linked to this subreddit!

I went to The Kelsey Coalition website and found it quite refreshing. There is hope and sanity in the future! Here is their "About Us" page: https://www.kelseycoalition.org/about-us

how is that the therapists fault?

Because therapists have a responsibility to act in the best interest of the client. The therapist was dishonest in working the system to make the letter fit-- knowingly putting inaccuracies in there. The therapist acted in bad faith, cut corners, mislead... just when an accurate accounting of the situation from a professional was required in order for the surgery to be deemed acceptable.