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About me
I started transitioning as a teenager because I was deeply unhappy and uncomfortable with being a girl. I began testosterone at 18 and loved the changes at first, but I grew to hate the side effects and the constant effort to pass. After removing transphobic people from my life, I realized my body was never the problem; it was how I saw myself and let others define me. I stopped hormones at 21 and have since embraced being a woman with a chosen name, Kyle. I’m now at peace, learning to exist in my body without letting my gender define my worth.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated, but I feel like I’ve finally found a place of peace. Looking back, I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a place of deep unhappiness with myself, not necessarily with my body itself.
When I was a teenager, around 15, I first came out as non-binary to my friends. A year later, at 16, I came out as a trans man to my parents and at school. I started using a new name and he/him pronouns. I was a kid who had always been gender neutral and had more masculine interests, and I felt really uncomfortable around other girls. I felt like I had more in common with guys. I had a boyfriend at the time who didn't react well when I first came out, which was hard, and we eventually broke up.
My biggest focus back then was on passing. I hated my body, especially my breasts, and my dysphoria felt all-consuming. I fought with my parents a lot because I wanted to start testosterone, but they wouldn't let me until I was an adult. The minute I turned 18, I started testosterone. At first, I was so excited. I loved the changes. I loved being seen as a guy, and I felt like I was finally becoming who I was supposed to be. People mostly just thought I was a very young guy or a late bloomer, and I was happy with that.
But after a while, maybe a couple of years in, I started to get sick of it. The side effects of testosterone were really getting to me. My hair started thinning, I always felt sweaty and stinky, I became more aggressive, and I hated giving myself the shot every week. The initial excitement wore off, and I was left with the reality of the medication.
A big turning point for me was when the openly transphobic people were finally out of my life. Once I wasn't constantly having to defend my identity against them, I had the mental space to really think. I realized that I had been putting myself in another box. I had been so focused on transitioning and passing that I never processed other trauma in my life. I started to question why I thought my natural body was so wrong. I thought, why do I need a deep voice or surgery to be me? I just want to exist in my body. My breasts don't define me. I came to the conclusion that there's actually nothing wrong with my body; the problem was how I saw it and how I let other people's perceptions control me.
I decided to stop testosterone cold turkey when I was about 21. It was rough; I was extremely moody for a while because I'm really sensitive to hormonal changes. A few months later, I went for a physical to make sure I was okay, and thankfully there were no obvious health concerns.
Telling my family was scary, but it brought us closer. They were worried that they had failed me by being supportive of my transition. I told them that wasn't true—their support was what gave me the freedom to figure out that transition wasn't for me. I learned so much about myself through the process.
I don't regret transitioning because it was a necessary part of my journey to self-acceptance. But I do regret some of the permanent changes, like the facial hair. I’ve started laser hair removal on my face, and after just a couple sessions, with the shadow less visible, I feel a lot more confident. My body changed a lot after stopping T. It took about a year for my fat to redistribute and for my face to become rounder and my body curvier. My voice also softened noticeably. I kept my chosen name, Kyle, because I hate my birth name. I told my family they can call me Kyle or not use a name at all; it’s disrespectful to use a name I don’t want. So now I'm just a girl named Kyle.
I sometimes hate being a woman, but I realize now that it's purely because of how people choose to see and treat women. I gave that power over me, and it was all-consuming. Now, I'm exploring femininity from a much healthier place. I sometimes wear skirts and makeup, but I know that being gender non-conforming isn't just about clothes. It's about your interests, your personality, and how you live your life. My goal now is just to be me, with my gender and body being irrelevant to my worth.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Came out as non-binary to friends. |
| 16 | Came out as a trans man to family and school; started using a new name and he/him pronouns. |
| 18 | Started testosterone. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone ("quit cold turkey"). |
| 21 | Had a physical check-up a few months after stopping T. |
| 22-23 | Facial hair laser removal sessions began. |
| 23-24 (Present) | Living as a detransitioned female, using the name Kyle. |
Top Comments by /u/Impressive-Life785:
I don't know if there was really a moment, but sometimes I don't really know what "actually trans" is. I did have dysphoria, I really did feel like I should of been a boy because in all reality I was uncomfortable around girls and had more in common with the guys i was surrounded by. I was a moderately gender neutral child with lots of masculine interests and later I was a very out trans teen. I wasn't allowed to get on hormones until I was an adult but socially was out as trans at school and went by my chosen name and he/him when I was 16 after I came out to my parents. Friends had known since I was 15 when IDed as enby then a trans man. I didn't come out due to negative reception from my at the time boyfriend who I later broke up with. My parents and I fought about me wanting to be on hormones a lot because I felt like I wanted to pass and I was miserable and I hated my body. I felt so dysphoric it was all consuming and everything came about passing, then I got on T and passed a little better and a lot of ppl just thought I was a very young guy with hormones issues or a late bloomer. And I kind of loved being a guy. I did. And when I got on hormones I was hyped. I was excited and loved all the changes at first, but after awhile I got sick of it. My hair started falling out, I always stunk, I was more aggressive, I hated doing my shot. Honestly when people stopped being transphobic to me is when I realized I didn't want it. I don't trust the people who were transphobic to me 100% and I still think they suck. But once those people were out of my life and I felt like I got the space to think I realized I was just putting myself in a box. Like why is my body wrong how it is and I also just.. think I needed to deal with my other trauma. I focused so much on my transition I don't think I really processed my life. I just think there is nothing wrong with my body and I don't know why i think i needed surgery to be me because at the end of the day... i just want to exist. my boobs don't define me or any other part of me. I don't need a deep voice. I just.. want to be me in my body and not have to go through the negative side effects of t and working towards self love has felt healthier than what i was doing. i sometimes hate being a woman but it is purely based on how ppl choose to see me bc of it,,, and the power i gave to that was all consuming. i just want to be me. gender irrelevant. body irrelevant.
Please do what you think is best for you. Follow your own happiness and if you decide one day to detrans please don't think you will never pass (thoughts like that prolonged me to not detransition and led to more problems but we are different ppl so). Hope your journey goes well and regardless of what you do just be true to you :) Much love to you
I think in my case at least I just have explored femininity from a much healthier lens so that in turn has made me more likely to wear skirts + makeup. But in all honesty, i think just looking gender conforming doesn't necessarily make them gender conforming. There are a lot of ways to be gender nonconforming that is not just based around what clothes people wear. Interests, hobbies, careers, personality, all these things can contribute to someone being gender non conforming.
I quit cold turkey but I don't know if that was best for me. I just went in for a physical a few months after to make sure I was medically alright without any obvious concerns. I was extremely moody getting off t but im super sensitive to hormones when it comes to those things :/
Your body will change after you are off t for awhile and your hormones balance. I would also just let your voice change with time, mine softened noticeable off HRT and my breast size changed (and got more "plump" i guess???). Just take your time and do what steps you are comfortable with.
Much love.
I don't think there is anything wrong with being a "blocky" girl and often so many of us were soo young when we started so hrt so it feels unfair to compare ourselves to our younger selves. I defiantly have an angular face and strong jawline but I don't think those are just manly qualities. I think the mindset that we have to look a way to be something is kind of the thing that got us in this mess so just give your body time and take it easy.
I don't think you should detransition based on not passing. I think you should detransition if you feel like it is not the right decision for you. Asking a bunch of people if you pass on the internet isn't really going to solve your issues with if you want to detrans or not. I find a lot more peace with self acceptance because I was transitioning to be a pretty boy/because I felt like an ugly girl. I would think my face was such a waste on a woman and silly things and I don't know why I did that to myself.
Do what you please but just be kind to yourself and dont force yourself to do something you don't want
My family was mostly worried I thought they failed me and I said "No, affirming me was the right decision and it is why I now know this is not for me" I got the freedom to choose my name and figure out a lot about myself. I think I was not transitioning for the right reasons and I am glad I realized and I learned a lot. I just was honest with my family and I think it has brought us even closer.
Hi! I was on t for around 3 years, i however got SUPER hair. I have gotten laser on my face (actually barely started, 2nd session is in a few weeks) and with my shadow not very visible anymore I feel a lot more confident. Give your body time, it took me a few years off for my fat to redistribute but I defiantly got curves and my overall appearance and skin softened.
You can change your name as much as you want. It is your right. I hate when my family calls me my birth name and even though I detransitioned I kept my name as Kyle. It is cute and is unisex technically and I told my family it is my name and they either call me it or dont call me any name at all. If u don't want your birth name you don't have to allow anyone to call you it. It is disrespectful of them. If u want a unisex name you can have it and you can tell everyone you are sticking with it and would like everyone to respect that
I decided to keep using the chosen name I picked when I transitioned rather than go back to my birth name because I hated my birth name. My name is gender neutral though very male skewed so I do get comments (mostly positive) but I just found it easier to just keep it so now I am just a girl named Kyle. I think you just can do what you want.