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About me
I started identifying as trans at 16 after being heavily influenced by online communities, hoping it would solve my deep discomfort with my female body. I took testosterone for two and a half years, but it only made me feel more self-conscious and like I was living a lie. After stopping, I went through a horrible period of unexplained pain and had to drop out of college. I now see my transition was an attempt to escape deeper mental health issues and poor self-esteem. Today, I focus on my art and exercise, accepting that I was born female and finding peace without medical intervention.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a really difficult time in my life, and looking back, I see how many things I was struggling with that got mixed up with my identity.
I started identifying as trans when I was pretty young, around 15 or 16. I spent a lot of time online, especially on Twitter, and I think I was heavily influenced by what I saw there. It felt like I had found a community that understood me, but now I see that a lot of it was escapism. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body during puberty; I hated my breasts and my curvy figure and felt like they were all wrong for me. I had a lot of depression and anxiety, and very low self-esteem. I think transitioning felt like a solution to all of that discomfort.
I ended up taking testosterone for about two and a half years. I thought it would fix my problems and make me feel at home in my body, but it didn't. When I started college, I began to feel like everyone was just pretending to see me as a guy. I became incredibly self-conscious, convinced people were staring at me, and it got so bad that I skipped class constantly and eventually had to drop out for a year. I couldn't bear the feeling that I was living a delusion and that everyone was just playing along. It's impossible to actually change from female to male, and I felt like I was lying to myself and being lied to.
Coming off testosterone was also a horrible experience. About a month after I quit, I developed excruciating pain that lasted for three or four months. Doctors had no idea what was causing it, and it was some of the worst pain I've ever felt. Thankfully, it just went away on its own and never came back, but it was a scary and isolating medical mystery at the time.
I have a lot of regrets about my transition. I blame the healthcare professionals who enabled me without ever really questioning why I was doing it or if I was in a good headspace to make such permanent decisions. I see now that I was in a very poor mental state, and that chasing transition was a way to cope with deeper issues. I don't think medical transition is the right solution for most people, and I believe the reasoning behind it is often harmful and based on a fantasy.
Now, I try to focus on taking care of myself and avoiding things that upset me. I stay away from pro-transition media because it just makes me angry and frustrated. Instead, I pour my energy into art, music, and exercise, which has helped me a lot. I've also seen how some groups try to exploit detransitioners for their own political goals, and it makes me sad. We're vulnerable and hurting, and that makes us easy targets.
My thoughts on gender now are that you can't change your sex. I was born female, and that's a biological reality. I think a lot of our struggles with our bodies are because of unrealistic societal expectations, and we need to find ways to feel comfortable with ourselves without resorting to irreversible medical procedures.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15-16 | Started identifying as trans, heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 18-19 | Stopped testosterone after 2.5 years. |
| 19 | Experienced severe, unexplained pain for 3-4 months after stopping T. |
| 19 | Started college but dropped out for a year due to anxiety and self-consciousness about my appearance. |
| 19 | Began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Inevitable_Theory256:
I feel the same way. Especially when I look back at old photos of me when I identified as trans. I still looked so feminine, I have baby face and a curvy figure that never went away. Literally everyone was constantly lying to my face. I feel like I was living in a delusion and everyone just played along. It is impossible for a man to become a woman and vice versa. Peddling a lie to people and acting like it’s the whole-hearted truth is just cruel.
Did I somehow write this post from the past? I literally had so many of the exact same experiences, including with Twitter at a young age. I also detransitioned after starting college and I completely agree that part of it was because I felt like everyone was just pretending to think I was a guy. I ended up dropping out for a year because I skipped class so much, couldn’t bear having those thoughts of people staring at me.
All of this to say what you’re going through, 10000% normal and others have experienced it as well. I really hope everything goes well for you <3 If you ever want to talk feel free to message me!
I totally understand the anger and frustration. The only thing that has truly worked for me is not consuming that kind of media. I really try to avoid anything and everything pro-transition. In reality there is nothing you can do to stop those trans parents from castrating their child and it is very upsetting so the best thing to do is just unplug and let it go. There’s no sense in making yourself miserable over something you can’t control. Take care of yourself first and foremost.
Another outlet that has helped me - art, music, and exercise. Find something you can poor energy into that will boost your dopamine and clear your mind. Sending good vibes <3
I think some detransitioners are being taken advantage of, in a way. A lot of us are very hurt & feel very, almost like emotionally neglected? Unheard? Unseen? And I think that having this supercharged positive response to sharing testimonies and histories with medical transition is almost overwhelming at first. I can easily see how a detrans person gets caught up in the fanaticism. I think it’s also hard to see ulterior motives sometimes. I actually used to think that these people you mentioned were helpful, like the right-wingers, and then slowly I was like “wait literally the only thing we agree on is medical transition is bad but otherwise these are horrible people”. Surface level they are super sweet and almost love-bomb detransitioners, give them these opportunities to publicly speak, and that’s appealing for the reasons I listed above. Def makes me sad, I think its exploitative (although not every case) and ultimately I do think that pairing the movement to reform/end gender ideology to conservative right-wing Christian groups is a mistake
Feels weird to have a healthcare professional who supports transition here, like I 1000% blame healthcare professionals for a lot of my transition and to have you talking about prescribing other people T, just super weird. What’s the “right reason” to start T? Just have to say it was very uncomfortable reading this
Omg I have never heard of this before but I think I experienced the exact same thing when going off T! First started a month or less after quitting T (after being on for 2 1/2 years). For maybe 3-4 months I had excruciating pain, drs had absolutely no idea why - eventually it just went away. It was so so painful that when it went away I didn’t even question it, I was just so happy! That’s crazy, I have never heard/seen someone else mention this. I thought it was a random medical mystery but looking on Google this really looks/sounds like what I was experiencing. I haven’t experienced it again since that one time and thank God for that because again it was excruciating.
I agree with you. I think the reasoning behind trans surgeries is also what makes them so harmful. Nobody can transition from male to female or vice versa. It literally is not possible. It’s fantastical thinking and often people make these decisions in an extremely poor headspace - a lot of people feel like “once I have xyz surgery I will be closer to my goal of becoming a woman/man” (which is untrue) and a lot of people are also very suicidal, depressed, when chasing this goal. Like those pics of FTMs in the hospital bed post mastectomy covered in self harm scars. It’s awful. Context truly matters when it comes to these surgeries.
I’d like to also point out that a lot of women, if not all women, that have plastic surgery do so because of unattainable and unrealistic beauty standards. Women are taught by society that our value comes from our looks. Photo editing & social media make the ideal body type look effortless & I think it’s so easy to internalize “I don’t look like the ideal body, so something must be wrong with me”. I’m sure for men as well this is the reason for things like leg lengthening surgeries and penis… did you say injections? 💀 Regardless the “why” in these surgeries matters.
But even then, getting a boob job does not cause sterility, it does not remove your body’s ability to breastfeed or function as it would naturally. Implants can be removed. Other cosmetic surgeries as fillers, they can also be removed or they gradually fade. They’re not permanent. Hell even tattoos can be removed! A mastectomy or castration? That is permanent. It does change the body’s ability to function naturally. Very different!
I also think about how, if everyone has free will and should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies, doesn’t that like… collapse the entire notion of community and society we have right now?? Like if I wanted to kill myself (which I don’t, this is just an example), I have bodily autonomy and I can do what I want, right? So nobody should stop me and nobody should care. Like how far does “bodily autonomy” truly go? If I want to amputate my arm, I have bodily autonomy right? But obviously that all sounds ridiculous. It is curious to think about.
Any time I have weird customer interactions, I just tell the manager or ask someone else to complete the transaction.
I had a guy doing something similar where he’d come in, act super weird while I was taking his order, then stare at me while I made it and he’d sit inside the store and literally just stare at me. On multiple separate occasions he approached me in the parking lot as I was either walking to my car or having a smoke break. Like knocking on my car window to try and talk to me as I’m trying to leave work smh. Some people are just a little unhinged!!
So in this case I wouldn’t worry too much about the gender identity aspect and id focus on the fact that this guy sounds like a weirdo (and might be on something). So yeah def tell a manager if you can and maybe have a male coworker walk you to your car, I ended up having to do that for a while and at least in my case everyone was happy to help so don’t be afraid to talk to your coworkers if you feel scared!!!
I really hope that it clears up for you as well. I wish I had some helpful advice! Regardless I’m glad you made this post because it is great (in a weird way!) to know that I’m not the only one who dealt with this. I wonder how/why T would cause this?! Clearly drs have no clue what’s going on or what to do! Again I hope it clears up, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this