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The user shares specific, personal medical details (e.g., T from 13-16, IUD, irregular periods, weight gain before surgery) and complex emotional reflections that are consistent with a genuine detransitioner/desister's experience. The language is natural, passionate, and contains the nuanced anger and regret common in the community.
About me
I was a young girl who started medically transitioning at 13 because I was deeply uncomfortable with my body and struggling with depression. My medical care felt rushed, and I had top surgery and took testosterone before I could truly understand the consequences. After stopping hormones at 16, some of my body changed back, but I’m left with permanent alterations and concerns about my health. I’m now exploring legal options and seeking better therapy to deal with my regrets. I’ve learned that my transition was a misguided solution to problems that weren't really about my gender.
My detransition story
My whole journey feels like a series of decisions I wasn't fully equipped to make. It started when I was really young, around 13. I was a girl who was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I hit puberty. I hated my breasts and felt completely disconnected from the changes happening. I also struggled with depression and anxiety, and looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were tangled up in that. I found a lot of my identity and community online, and I definitely feel like I was influenced by what I saw there.
My mom was supportive, but in a way that was too quick to agree with everything. She used to ask me if I would ever regret transitioning, and I’d always promise her I wouldn't. But the truth is, I really didn't have a full concept of what I was saying yes to. I think she thought she was acting in my best interest, but my medical care was way too affirmative and rushed. Now I feel like I have to protect her feelings, which is a messed-up position to be in.
I was on testosterone from age 13 to 16. When I was 13, I also had top surgery. I was clinically obese at the time, and the surgeons initially said I needed to lose 20 pounds for safety. I didn't lose the weight; I actually gained some. But they operated on me anyway. Now I look back and think, no wonder my surgical results are a bit wonky. More than that, it’s terrifying—I could have died from complications, and I wonder how they would have handled a dead 13-year-old trans kid.
After I stopped testosterone at 16, my body changed back a fair bit over the next year. My body fat redistributed, giving me a slimmer waist and fuller hips again. My body hair lightened and grew slower, though I still have some hair on my stomach and upper lip. I got my period back soon after stopping, and it was about the same as before. Oddly, my skin was actually better on testosterone; it got worse after I stopped.
I still have my ovaries, and every doctor has told me I'm not infertile, but I'm starting to question how accurate that is. I have an IUD now which has stopped my periods. Before the IUD, my periods were very irregular. I plan on getting my fertility properly tested when I can.
I'm working with a therapist now, but I might need to switch to someone who is more equipped to handle detransition topics. I'm also currently contacting attorneys. From the conversations I've had, it sounds like I might have a legal case, especially since I was transitioned as a minor.
As for my thoughts on gender now, I think I was trying to escape the discomfort of being a girl and the challenges of growing up. I don't know if I have a solid answer for what gender is, but for me, transitioning was a solution to deeper problems like depression and body issues that weren't really about gender at all. I do have regrets. I regret the permanent changes to my body and that I wasn't given more time and better therapy to understand myself first.
Age | Event |
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13 | Started testosterone. |
13 | Had top surgery. |
16 | Stopped testosterone. |
17 | Body fat redistribution and body hair changes mostly complete. Period returned. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Initial-Community-10:
Definitely, it's a fucked up dilemma to give to a parent. She definitely thought she was acting in my best interest and being supportive, but my care was way too affirmative. She definitely senses something, it's been hard to be honest but I plan on biting the bullet. ty for the prayers.
I still have ovaries, and have been told by all doctors I am not infertile (now questioning the accuracy of what I've been told), so currently am on an IUD which has halted my menstruation. prior to the IUD I had very irregular periods. I plan on getting tested when I can.
Thank you so so much, I'm definitely going to save that article and possibly send to some family; I feel obligated to protect her feelings, she used to ask me if I would ever regret or resent, I'd always assure her I wouldn't, even though I really didn't have a full concept of what I was saying.
I have a great therapist, but might be switching soon as she is unequipped in the subject.
Another concern that I don't think merits another post; I was clinically obese, very high percentile, and initially was told I'd need to lose 20 lbs before they'd operate on me. I didn't. I gained if anything, they still operated.
Like, no wonder my result is a bit wonky?? Also uh I could've died?? I wonder how they would've handled a dead 13 y/o trans kid and hide that from the media.
There's definitely some cases underway, especially for those transitioned as minors, Chloe Cole comes to mind.
I am currently contacting attorneys regarding this as well, have yet to meet personally but it sounds like I may have a case from the amount time they're putting into my info.
There really should be more resources regarding this. I was on T from 13- 16. It's been a while, I don't remember the best but, personally, within 6 months- 1 year off T I had seen my body fat about fully redistribute in a more feminine way again, noticeably slimmer waist/fuller hips, however I had lost and gained much weight so its hard to gauge as well.
I can't speak on boobs/I had top surgery before going off T, however I think I did have a tiny bit of tissue regrowth
My body hair lightened and slowed in regrowing within that first year, however there are some spots hair hasn't stopped growing in (stomach, upper lip), it's just not as coarse.
I got my period back soon after stopping T. I wouldn't really say it was worse. The same as it was before hormones.
Personally I had better skin on testosterone, by about 3 months my skin texture started changing.