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About me
I’m a man who started transitioning because I had a weak sense of self and was fascinated by femininity. I got completely obsessed with online communities and took hormones, which gave me permanent breast growth I hated. I had surgery to remove it, which finally let me feel comfortable in my own skin again. Now that I'm older, my mind has settled and I've completely lost interest in that entire identity. I still regret the time I lost, but I'm just focused on moving forward and building a confident life as a man.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and complicated one. It really started from a place of having a very weak and unstable sense of who I was. I never felt like I fit in with a typical male identity, whether gay or straight. I was also really fascinated by female bodies and the whole aesthetic of being feminine and genderbending. I think a big part of it was that my brain hadn't fully matured yet, and I was drawn to how feminine people were desired.
I spent a huge amount of time online, completely obsessed. I was on trans Reddits, forums, and 4chan every single day, researching things like facial feminization surgery. It consumed my thoughts. Looking back, I think I was a vulnerable person who got sucked into an online world that offered a clear, if drastic, solution to my confusion.
I did take hormones for a while, which led to me developing breast tissue. That was a permanent change, and I hated it. I didn't feel comfortable in my skin at all with them. So, after I realized transitioning wasn't for me, I had surgery to have the breast tissue removed. I was lucky; the scars are tiny, under my nipples, and no one ever notices them, not even lovers. Besides that, there might be some minor permanent changes like skin texture or fat distribution, maybe a bit of retained youthfulness, but nothing major. I consider myself very fortunate that the physical evidence of my transition is so minimal. It made it easier for me to move on.
Letting go of the identity itself was a process. I went from being completely obsessed with all things trans to having zero interest. It didn't happen overnight, but now I'm just not interested in those topics anymore. My focus has shifted to other things about people and the world. My sense of self has finally stabilized now that I'm older and my brain has matured.
I do have some regrets about the whole process, mainly about getting caught up in something so extreme without a solid foundation of who I was. I regret the time and energy I wasted. But I don't regret the surgery to reverse the breast growth; that was necessary for me to feel like myself again. I still struggle with some things, like developing a confident demeanor as a man. I'm somewhat passive, which isn't always attractive, but I'm working on it.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens / Early 20s | Began feeling confused about my identity and became heavily involved in online trans communities. |
| Early 20s | Started taking estrogen hormones. |
| Mid 20s | Developed permanent breast tissue from hormones and became very uncomfortable with my body. |
| 26 | Had surgery to remove the breast tissue. |
| 26 (after surgery) | Began to feel comfortable in my skin again and lost interest in the trans identity. |
Top Comments by /u/Intelligent-Scar8042:
FTM and mtf experiences are different and so are the detrans experiences. It’s definitely easier for me to “let it go” when the only evidence of my transition are two tiny scars under my nipples from breast tissue removal that no one notices, even lovers apparently.
If there were irreversible changes then my experiences would also be changed.
I do consider myself lucky in that sense.
These things are complicated but primarily it was having a weak, unstable sense of identity, feeling like I didn’t “fit in” as a man gay or straight identity wise. Combined with being enamored with mtf bodies and esthetics and genderbending, and how people desired feminine bodied people. I believe my brain had not fully matured, where as now it is definitely fully matured and my identity has stabilized.
I mean I used to go on trans reddits and forums and 4chan and everything under the sun every single day. Researching ffs and other things like that. Every day. Now, never. I would say that I no longer find any of it interesting. I’m more interested in other things about people and the world now. Just saying, you can go from obsessed to uninterested. It does happen. Not over night though.
She doesn’t sound like a tru trans. Sounds like someone who got sucked into the online trans cult which sucks in vulnerable people with weak identities.
If you and her family “support” her she will use that support as much as possible to shield her from the consequences of her decisions. Guess what it’s a lot easier to play at being trans when you have a nice soft warm gf to fk at night and cuddle and hide from reality. What’s your partner going to do when you break up with them and they are alone ?
Glad you can relate. Ya I still struggle developing my sexiness as a man. I am not a naturally feminine male (a surprisingly large number, majority? of M and F transitioners really lack the natural comportment of the gender they attempt to become), but I am somewhat passive which is not attractive to women. I have the looks but find the demeanor a challenge.
Breast tissue was permanent so I had surgery to remove it. I didn’t really feel comfortable in my skin again until I had the surgery and recovered from that and got in shape. Possibly skin texture/fat distribution there are some permanency - Maybe some retained youthfulness but nothing extreme.