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About me
I was born male and started taking estrogen at 24, believing it was my only path to happiness. I eventually realized that trying to "pass" as a woman was an impossible game that only made me feel more insecure. Letting that all go was a huge relief, and I decided to embrace being a man again. I am now confident and content, finally free from obsessing over my gender. I don't regret my journey, but I am angry at the culture that pushed me toward it instead of offering real help.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and confusing one. I was born male and for a long time, I believed I was supposed to be a woman. I started taking hormones because I thought that was the only way I could ever feel good about myself and finally be accepted. I was miserable and I kept thinking if I just stuck it out, everything would eventually click into place.
But it never did. The big turning point for me was realizing that "passing" was a fool's game. I could never win it, and the constant effort to appear feminine just made me feel more insecure and vulnerable. I came to understand that I was simply envious of the ideals of both genders, but I didn't realize how much I actually valued being a man until I had given it up to live what felt like an awkward trans existence.
Letting that all go was a huge relief. I decided to embrace being male again—a man, a guy, just a regular part of the two human sexes. Detransitioning and accepting my biological sex allowed me to finally stop obsessing over gender in that intense, self-focused way I did when I was living as trans. I enjoy having control over my life again. I behave how I want to, which is generally masculine. I might have some feminine behaviors, but I realized I don't enjoy acting on them around other people anymore; it only made me feel vulnerable. I feel much more confident and content now being masculine and projecting masculinity.
I don't really have regrets about transitioning because it led me to this understanding of myself. However, I do have strong thoughts on the culture that pushed me toward it. I think a lot of people, including kids, who go down the trans road are incredibly emotionally invested in their "transness" and just want validation. You can't expect doctors to gatekeep or flat-out oppose their patients, especially when the broader culture, particularly leftist political ideology, demands that we "validate everyone, never cause anyone emotional pain or discomfort EVER." I believe the real problem is this popular culture of "you can be anything you want to be" that has influenced so many people my age. The responsibility shouldn't be solely on doctors; it should be on parents to lead and on society to question these ideologies instead of being terrified to criticize them.
Now, I just live my life as a man. I still deal with feelings of envy, but it's directed at other men who are better than me in some way, not at women anymore. I get angry about double standards, like judgment and shaming from women directed at men for gender-related things, but overall, I'm in a much better place.
Here is a timeline of my transition and detransition events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 24 | Started taking estrogen hormones. I thought it was the solution to my misery. |
| 28 | Realized "passing" was an impossible game and decided to stop hormones. |
| 28 | Detransitioned and began embracing being male again. This was when I truly accepted myself as a man. |
| 29 | Felt fully settled into my male identity, confident and content with projecting masculinity. |
Top Comments by /u/Intrepid-Bad1344:
I am a 5'9" man and I still suffer at times from short man syndrome. And subconsciously I look down on shorter males. For example if some guy who was taller and bigger than me was giving me shit, I would of course get mad, but I am sure I would get more pissed off if a shorter guy than me did the same thing.
They see it as a person who doesn't know their rightful place.
Correct. My dad is like 5'5"-5'6" and hes developed unfortunate habits of interrupting frequently, and I think its due to constantly being talked over and dismissed due to his size. When you are a giant there is no need to interrupt, everyone perks up and listens.
What you are identifying is natural hierarchy of mating selection and value.
Men who are handicapped by height, frame, simple appearance, penis size are forced to Maximize their personal qualities such as humor, "provider status" (this one is increasingly being eroded as women can make just as much money as men these days), having fun social connections.
I'm not going to go into it all, its too complicated, but lets just say that "feminism" will never remove peoples innate preferences for things like tall, hung, dominate men.
Humans will always respect genetic success more than anything. If a 6'6" man packs on muscle, people are impressed. If a 5'5" man packs on muscle, people think hes a "try-hard". When women say things like "I don't like muscular guys, I like "NORMAL" guys." What they mean is "I don't like guys who cover up their deficiencies, I like picking tallish, wall-framed men, who don't need muscles to show they are superior genetically than other men".
But I was miserable, thought if I could just keep going and keep sticking it out with the hormones that eventually I'd feel good and feel accepted.
I felt similarly. But once I realized that passing was a fools game, I "let it all go" and embraced being male again.
I suppose I don't have advice about "ignoring gender", personally, I embraced being male and being masculine again. And I enjoy having control over my life again, and I behave how I want to, which is generally masculine. I have feminine behavior, but I realized I don't enjoy being feminine anymore, especially around other people, it only makes me vulnerable, and I feel much more confident and content being masculine and projecting masculinity.
I think no one can tell you how to behave or how to think about gender because we are all different and our past experiences will determine whether we can be comfortable being masculine vs feminine.
For me, detransitioning and accepting myself as a man, a guy, a male, a regular ol' other half of the two human sexes... has allowed to me to forget about gender, at least in the self obsessive way that I did when I was going through my trans feelings and identity informed by transgender type thought processes.
Personally I feel sorry for the doctors. They will take all the pressure. I am a different type of doctor, and people always want to blame doctors when the majority are just trying to do what their patients want.
Fact is majority of people, including children, who go down the trans road, want to be trans, they want validation that they are trans, and they are incredibly emotionally invested into their "transness".
You cannot expect doctors to gatekeep these identities or flat out oppose individual patients. Its asking too much of people to go against the current leftist culture of "validate everyone, never cause anyone emotional pain or discomfort EVER! Or you are evil".
I think ALL the information needs to be out there.
Frankly though, this may offend some FtMs, I have noticed a trend of former FtM detransitioners to be very reactionary and blame others and everyone for their decisions to transition and take on a trans identity. Moreso than MtFs.
In my opinion its not right to blame doctors for this current culture of validation. It feels very much to me like a scapegoat, rather than addressing the real problems in POPULAR culture that have promulgated the trans trend, and all the "be anything you want to be" bullshit that has informed Zoomers and millenials.
Look I am just a dentist giving my perspective. I get tired of people blaming healthcare professionals for massive political social waves like "transgenderism".
Children to lead? How about the motherfucking parents lead? Why are all these parents letting their children transition and foisting all the responsibility on doctors to figure out who is a "real transgender" and who is "an abused girl transitioning because of misogyny". Why are schools promoting transgender identities? Why are leftist politicians terrified to offer any criticism of trans ideology?
To behave otherwise is to risk one’s professional reputation, perhaps even one’s job
Exactly. If detransitioners don't change the CULTURE, the practical applications will not change.
Culture is UPSTREAM of policy.
But that would require questioning leftist political ideology. And we all know that good feminists... don't do that.
I was simply envious of the "ideals" of both genders. But I did not realize how much I missed about being a man, until I gave it away to live an awkward trans existence.
Now I deal with feelings of envy towards men who are better than me in some way. Definitely an issue I have regardless of my gender. I am not envious towards girls/women/females anymore. But I do get angry when double standards involving gender are thrown in my face. Such as judgement and shaming coming from women directed at men for gender related things.
It depends on why you are not getting strong erections. After a month, I would worry a little bit if you cannot achieve a strong erection in a totally relaxed environment with proper mental stimulation.
I would also due certain checks, like is your ejaculate white again. Eventually I would get a hormone panel to check your testosterone levels