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The user's comments are highly specific, consistently focused on the niche topic of AGP (Autogynephilia), and offer personalized advice that reflects a lived experience. The language is natural, varied, and shows development of thought over time, which is not typical of bot behavior. Their passion and specific perspective align with a genuine, albeit very focused, detransitioner or desister.
About me
I started having sexual fantasies about being a woman as a teenager because my strict religious upbringing made me feel guilty for being attracted to girls. I mistook that arousal for a sign I was truly female and almost pursued medical transition to make the fantasy real. I finally realized these intense feelings were a coping mechanism that flared up when I was lonely or unhappy. By focusing on real life through friends and hobbies, the need for that escape faded. I now live happily as a man, understanding I never needed to change my body to be myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a young teenager, around 13 or 14. I was raised in a very religious household, and I developed a kind of obsessive thinking about not sexualizing real women. It felt like a sin to have those thoughts about girls, so my brain found a loophole: I started to sexualize myself instead. I would imagine myself as a woman in a sexual way. I never watched porn, but this fantasy life in my head became very powerful.
I didn't know what this was at the time. I just knew it gave me a strong feeling that I later learned people call "gender euphoria." But for me, that feeling of euphoria was actually just arousal from engaging in a sexual fantasy. It was my brain's way of getting a dopamine hit. It became an addiction, a way to escape. It felt more intense than anything else, like a drug that completely took over my mind.
This went on for years. I started to believe that these feelings meant I was actually a woman inside. I thought about transitioning. I looked into hormones and surgery because I thought that was the only way to make the feeling stop or to make it real. I see now that I was trying to use transition to affirm the fantasy, to make the idea of being female a physical reality.
What helped me finally start to understand this was realizing that the desire was strongest when I was bored or unhappy. When I started to engage in real hobbies, exercise, and make friends, the intensity of the feelings went down. I was craving slow-release dopamine from real life, not the fast hit from the fantasy.
My thoughts on gender now are that you don't have to change your body to be yourself. You are enough just as you are. For me, that's as a man. I don't have to meet anyone's expectations but my own. I'm working on improving myself by reading, finding real-life role models, and exploring the world.
I deeply regret ever believing that I needed to transition. I am so glad I never took hormones or had any surgery. I think what I needed, and what a lot of other men like me need, is good, non-affirming therapy. Therapy that helps you understand the root of these feelings, which for me was linked to religious obsession and unmet needs, not to a true female identity. Recognising that my feelings were a sexual paraphilia and not a gender identity was the key to moving forward and knowing I didn't need to change my body.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started experiencing autogynephilic (AGP) fantasies as a religiously-motivated loophole to avoid sexualizing women. |
| 14-18 | The AGP feelings intensified, mistaken for gender dysphoria and a sign I was transgender. |
| 19 | Researched medical transition (hormones, surgery) as a potential solution. |
| 20 | Realized the "euphoria" was arousal from a sexual fantasy, not a female identity. Began to understand AGP. |
| 20 | Started engaging in hobbies, exercise, and building a social life, which reduced the intensity of the desires. |
| 21 | Concluded that transition was not necessary and began to identify as a man again. |
Top Comments by /u/Ionlyregisyererdbeca:
I watched a really great video from a physiologist who was talking about how AGP will do certain things to 'affirm'. Ie an AGP male who is straight will go after a male romantically in order to 'affirm' their 'femaleness'. I think this falls in a similar bucket considering the observation that this person doesn't seem to actually care about the baby itself, more the idea that giving birth affirms 'femaleness'.
As someone who is recovering from AGP, it's a complicated issue with very little support, stemming from unmet needs as a child.
There is no excuse for poor behaviour but for some perspective; AGP is one hell of a drug, it really takes over your mind more than OCD does.
Males with AGP need good, non-affirming therapy, simple as that.
I know you put in a caveat but there are plenty of AGP in this sub that are desperate for help and are none of those traits listed.
I would agree that those that circum to the trans rhetoric are certainly as above, but I think that's a reflector of trans culture rather than AGP itself.
Feeling euphoria is actually just arousal from engaging in a sexual fantasy.
Recognising this will help you move forward knowing you don't need to change your body.
In my own personal experience AGP was reinforced due to religiously obsessing over NOT sexualising actual women as an early teen and instead thinking as myself in a sexual way as a loophole.
I have never consumed porn either.
I assume most of the aggression comes from them thinking Thier delusion might actually be a delusion.
I understand, a lot of people here have been in the same scenario as you. I would suggest seeing a therapist that can view things objectively.
Your brain is craving dopamine and you can get that from dressing up.
You may notice that the desire decreases when you start engaging in hobbies and start exercising; Finding slow release dopamine activities.
You don't have to do anything, you already are a man. You don't have to meet anyone's expectations but your own.
When it comes to improving yourself, read books and find some role models that you look up to. Make friends with many different types of people, explore the world etc.