This story is from the comments by /u/IsntthatNeet that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "IsntthatNeet" appears authentic and consistent with a real detransitioner's perspective. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or inauthentic.
Key points supporting authenticity:
- The user shares detailed, personal experiences with detransition, including specific timelines (e.g., five years on HRT), physical changes, and emotional struggles.
- Comments reflect nuanced, internally consistent views on dysphoria, transition limitations, and social challenges, which align with common detransitioner narratives.
- The user acknowledges the complexity of the issue, avoids extreme or caricatured positions, and often recommends therapy and careful consideration—consistent with genuine engagement.
- Language and tone are natural, varied, and contextually appropriate, showing human-like reasoning and emotional depth.
While detransitioners can be passionate or angry, this user's tone is generally measured and reflective, focusing on personal experience rather than broad polemics. The account does not exhibit patterns typical of bots or trolls, such as repetitive phrasing, incoherent arguments, or agenda-driven propaganda.
About me
I was born male and felt a deep, constant discomfort with my body from a young age. When puberty hit, that feeling became unbearable, and I started transitioning in my late teens, which gave me hope and saved my life for several years. Eventually, I realized that medical transition couldn't change my fundamental biology, and I became fixated on its limitations. I detransitioned because living as a male seemed simpler than chasing an unattainable ideal, even though my dysphoria never went away. Now, I live as a man, managing the same old pain but without the hope that transition once offered.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition has been long and complicated. I was born male and from a very young age, I felt a deep and constant discomfort with my body that I now understand as dysphoria. It wasn't about hobbies or stereotypes; it was a profound feeling of wrongness about my physical self. As a kid, I didn't have the words for it, and the only exposure I had to trans people was negative, from shows that painted them as bizarre sideshows. This actually made me reject the idea for a long time, and I was even transphobic myself because of it.
The dysphoria became unbearable, especially during puberty. I felt like I was built like a "gorilla" and hated everything about male development—the body hair, the voice, the way males age. By my teens, I was severely depressed and suicidal. Discovering that transition was a real option, through my own research and not from any outside influence, was what pulled me back from the edge. It gave me hope for the first time.
I started medical transition in my late teens. For a while, it was the happiest I’d ever been. Hormones (HRT) helped a lot initially. I felt like my life could finally start. I made real friends, felt like a romantic relationship was possible, and for the first time, I wasn't constantly planning my own death. I socially transitioned and lived as a woman for several years.
But eventually, I hit a wall. I became obsessed with the limitations of medical science. HRT and surgery can’t change your bone structure, your past experiences, or give you a functional reproductive system. I realized that no matter how well I might "pass" in clothes, I would always be a male trying to look female, and there would always be glaring reminders of that reality. I started fixating on everything that was still "wrong" and couldn't be fixed. I spent a lot of time arguing with anti-trans activists online, which just made me more aware of these limitations. The hope I had felt started to feel pointless.
I detransitioned around five years ago, not because I stopped being dysphoric or discovered some underlying trauma, but because I decided that what transition could offer was too superficial for me. If I was going to be miserable and stressed about my body anyway, I figured I might as well live as a cis male and at least get the social privilege that comes with it. I didn't see any other options that had a lower risk of regret.
Detransitioning was rough. I lost friends who saw it as a form of self-harm. Some people were supportive, but others were just happy I wasn't "one of those people" anymore. My dysphoria never went away; if anything, it got worse. I feel like I'm just waiting out the clock until I die. I often think about retransitioning, but I know that starting again at my age would be even less effective, and the thought of facing those limitations again is crushing. I feel like I wasted my youth.
I don't really have regrets about transitioning in the sense that I think it was a stupid decision. At the time, it saved my life. The alternative was suicide. But I do regret that medical technology isn't advanced enough to actually solve the core problem for someone like me. My thoughts on gender are that it's a social construct built on top of biological sex. You can't change your sex, but you can change how you present yourself to the world. For some people, that's enough to alleviate their distress. For me, it wasn't.
I benefited from therapy before and during my transition, but I wish I had had more help exploring the limitations of transition itself. I think anyone considering it needs to have a brutally honest understanding of what it can and cannot do, and to work through their feelings with a professional, especially if they have doubts.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Childhood | First memories of intense discomfort with my male body (dysphoria). |
| ~13 years old | Dysphoria worsened severely with puberty; became depressed and suicidal. |
| Late Teens | Discovered transition was an option through personal research, not external influence. Began medical transition (HRT). |
| Early 20s | Lived as a woman; was the happiest and most functional period of my life. |
| Mid 20s | Became preoccupied with the physical and social limitations of transition. Began to detransition socially and medically. |
| 26 years old | Fully detransitioned. Dysphoria persisted and intensified. |
| Present (30s?) | Living as a cis male; managing persistent dysphoria without transition. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/IsntthatNeet:
I don't think it's about detrans people who chose to detransition, I think it's in reference to the bills being passed in Oklahoma that would forcibly detransition people regardless of their opinions on the matter or access to alternative care.
Given the context in the location this was done in as well as just the fact that generally detransitioners aren't visible enough to warrant a specific piece of graffiti like this rather than something more generally directed at the GC crowd or conservatives in general, I really doubt this is a "You're not allowed to decide what to do with your body" so much as a "you're not allowed to tell us what to do with our bodies".
It's almost certainly "I will die before I let you make me detransition" rather than "I'll kill anyone who says they want to detransition"
Edit: found the image on imgur featuring such detransphobic gems as
"Its the same thing. If someone tries to force me to detransition after finally seeing the sun and living like the rest of you."
"Im not going back, Im going into a grave, you cant make cis people trans and likewise, you cant make trans people cis. education is needed"
"I support anyone's right to detransition if thats what they feel they need, but assuming I have any kind of authority over that choice? Nah"
"Give me transition, or give me death. I'm never going back."
"This is one of those times where "arming yourself against state tyranny & fascism" actually applies! Lol. "Castle Doctrine, M.F.s!" will be…"
Twitter thread featuring the words "Graffiti in Oklahoma City"
Featured: no whatsoever, as well as a trans person disputing the statement with "we have the right to live", i.e. the lives in question against detransition are those of the trans person, not some unnamed detransitioners.
Meanwhile, none of the comments had anything negative to say about detransitioners or any sort of non-forced by the government detransition.
So yeah, I don't think this one is about us, I think it's about sweeping anti-trans rhetoric in the republican party and the existential fear trans people feel at the idea of being forced to detransition against their will.
Yeah. It's the unfortunate result of the pendulum swinging the other way combining with social media and backlash to anti-trans persecution.
I expect it will not be long until the "groomer" narrative and the bad PR makes it swings back and trans people are forced back to the periphery of society.
If you're going to give up on identifying as a woman, why bother with NB? Is it really any better on yourself to say that you aren't a woman but you are some nonexistent third thing? May as well just pull the bandaid and get it over with.
I detransitioned for what seem like similar reasons to yours, and my experience is that trying to make little compromises with yourself or hold on to little bits of transition is basically pointless, and will only emphasize everything else that bothers you. You'll probably feel worse, get nothing out of it, and just end up giving up on it sooner or later anyway.
You'd be better off just swallowing your discomfort and going all in on being a man. Then at least you'd get the benefits rather than still being seen as a man, but being a weirdo with slight feminization and an insistence that people refer to you as xe.
It will be interesting to see where things like transition, standards of care, and the position of trans people stand when things settle.
Between the groomer narrative, the renewed legislative pushes, and this along with any similar "now I'm speaking out" pieces, it feels like trans people are in for a rough patch pretty soon.
A lot of trans people just... didn't know how hrt actually works. People were saying that it did everything from shrinking their bones to regrouping their hair to solving world hunger. If I hadn't gone through and done a bunch of research on my own, I might have been even more disappointed with the results.
Related, but kind of separately frustrating, we're the people insisting that it would be fine to start hrt later because the effects would be about the same, which obviously turned out to be nonsense, and the people saying if I wasn't sure or had doubts I could always take a break and start again, which I now know was just asking for remasculinization and a whole lot of feeling sick.
The acceptance of the LGBT community was also greatly oversold, and I always got dirty looks from LGB people as well as one particularly charming male who decided to stalk and harass me because he was convinced I was just a self loathing gay man.
Chatgpt doesn't think for itself, it mostly just recombines ans regurgitates what it finds online.
Unless you make a very specific prompt, you can generally expect that the response it gives is going to be whatever the most common narrative is, because that's what it gets its data from.
It's probably not worth freaking out about or calling a worldwide religion.
That sounds more like just an obsession with stereotypes about women that took over for other problems like trauma, stress, and porn.
Those are things you should really try to fix via therapy and antidepressants before diving into transition.
Even in terms of prayer, you aren't just supposed to pray and sit around waiting for a miracle, you need you actually figure out which direction you need to go in Starr from there.
For some people, transition, even in their thirties, transition can make their lives feel a lot better and happier, for others they just wind up with all the same problems but also regretful that they permanently altered their bodies in ways they now dislike.
I wouldn't gamble on being the former if I were you, certainly not if there's any room for looking into things deeper tha you have so far.
Rather than not being trans, I just realized how little transition does and decided it wasn't right for me and wasn't worth the hassle.
I'm not less dysphoric or looking at myself differently as a person. I'd still give almost anything to wake up tomorrow and be a woman. I just recognize that transition won't help me here.
I want to say your doctor probably won't be overly concerned about it since they don't tend to be personally invested in who is and isn't taking hormones.
That said, I quit cold turkey. I was miserable for a couple of days and got some weird aches and such, but it shouldn't kill you unless you are already in really bad shape.
Even if you detransition, you'll want to go to see a doctor anyway to get blood work done, check your hormone levels, make sure things are on track, etc. so it might be easier to do sooner than later, even if you don't tech iCarly have to.
>i don't know why anyone thinks this is okay to say in a detrans sub, especially from a recently made account.
Probably because they can get agreement and affirmation from the subset of people here whose trauma and kneejerk rejection of all things trans completely overshadow any actual stats or reasoning.