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About me
I started as a feminine man who felt deeply uncomfortable and thought my only option was to transition. I discovered my feelings were a fetish and realized permanently altering my body would be a tragic mistake. I found confidence through self-acceptance, a healthy sexual outlet, and building a real life. Now, I am at peace, engaged, and comfortable in my role as a man. I am profoundly relieved I never medically transitioned and believe we should help people accept reality, not change their bodies.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started from a place of deep discomfort, but not with my body in the way you might think. I was a feminine guy who never really fit in, and I struggled a lot with my sexuality. I discovered I had autogynephilia (AGP), which is a fetish where a man is aroused by the idea of himself as a woman. This caused me immense suffering because I felt like I couldn't be a normal man. I thought the only way to escape this suffering was to transition.
I started looking into transitioning. I was deep into leftist online spaces where the idea was pushed that if you feel this way, you must be trans. No one ever suggested I try to accept myself as a male with a unusual sexual interest. The focus was always on changing the body to match the feeling. I even learned that the hormone treatments they use were originally developed for chemical castration, which really made me stop and think.
But then, something shifted for me. I found other communities online, like the pickup artist (PUA) movement, which helped me gain confidence as a man. More importantly, I discovered femdom as a sexual outlet. Once I had that consensual, private fetish to focus on, my interest in transitioning completely vanished. I realized that living out a fetish by permanently altering my body, and essentially making everyone around me an unconsenting participant, felt wrong. It seemed like a public act that was disrespectful to others, and finding a private, healthy way to explore my sexuality was the real answer.
My views on gender now are that it's largely a social and political idea, not a biological reality. I believe the modern Western concept of being trans was invented by leftist ideology, similar to historical examples like Lysenkoism in the Soviet Union where ideology overrode scientific fact, leading to disaster. In this case, the disaster is healthy people having their bodies permanently altered. I don't hate people who transition, but I see it as a tragic mistake. We don't treat any other mental discomfort by encouraging people to change their bodies; we help them accept reality. I think the same should be true for gender dysphoria.
I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy, specifically from listening to people like Jordan Peterson. His clinical psychology advice helped me find peace and become comfortable in my role as a male. I learned to be a better partner and a better person by accepting myself, not by trying to become someone else. Getting a good job and building a real relationship also helped immensely. Focusing on life, hobbies, and community outside of trans ideology is what ultimately made my dysphoric thoughts go away.
I don't regret exploring these ideas, but I am deeply relieved that I never medically transitioned. I absolutely regret ever thinking it was the right path. I came to see that life is about finding a role that gives you a good life, not about chasing an idealized identity. For me, that role is being a man, a fiancé, and a productive person. I'm now infertile due to an unrelated health issue, and that experience has only solidified my belief that sacrificing your body's natural functions is a serious thing that should never be taken lightly.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~30 | Gained confidence through PUA movement, started having sexual partners. |
| Early 30s | Discovered autogynephilia (AGP) and considered transition. |
| Early 30s | Researched transition, learned about origins of hormone treatments. |
| Early 30s | Discovered femdom; AGP and desire to transition disappeared. |
| Early 30s | Found peace through Jordan Peterson's lectures and self-acceptance. |
| Early 30s | Got a good job and a fiancée, focused on building a life as a male. |
Top Comments by /u/Itchy-Perspective-20:
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The trans movement/gender ideology have been ideologically driven since it began. There seems to be a strong basis for homosexuality being biological, but any "non-western cultural transing" is usually associated with prostitution as a way to survive, hide homosexuality, or escape gender roles (Hijra, Japanese traditional trans prostitutes, and "tea boys" and bacha bazi in Afghanistan).
There isnt much biological basis for trans being an actual thing, and in the west its basically been lock-step with leftist ideologies.
Its not so much as the left having embraced trans, its more like the left invented the western idea of trans.
You would be hard pressed to find a family that was conservative and was convinced that their child was trans, but there are thousands of families with a strong leftist ideological standpoint or activist lifestyle that has kids that are "genderfluid" etc.
I would recommend reading about Lysenkoism, its basically the same attempt to ignore reality in benefit of defending the ideology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysenkoism
In that case it led to starvation, in the trans case you get healthy bodies destroyed, and people unable to have either gay or straight relationships, often losing all sexual function together with any fertility.
JDBP is great. Im not down with the religious stuff in his last books, but his clinical psychology advice, as well as his reasoning around life is what finally made me find some peace- I got some happiness in my role as a male after getting a good job and having sex after being involved in the PUA-movement, but JDBP made me comfortable with setting down and being more empathetical. I honestly think I became a better partner and human from it.
Does anybody know when were hormone blockers first used as a gender-affirming practice?
Originally they were used for chemical castration: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diethylstilbestrol#Clinical_use
Thats a good hint for one of the primary side effects.
Alan Turing famously had to consume it as a punishment for homosexuality.
This is why Im so sceptical to trans-care to begin with- Im quite a feminine guy, my digit ratio is extremely low-testosterone, but I still have a loving fiancee, have had my score of sex-partners when I got my shit together as an older male (~30).
How the hell would being a constant medical patient for life, balancing an un-tested concoction of drugs historically meant for cancer-patients and medically castrating convicts and "undesireables" historically be an improvement?
Yes life is tough for both men and women, but there is no research showing, and little sense that modifying peoples hormones and physiology is beneficial.
Id urge us to fall back on basic medicine principles: "Above all else: Do no harm".
But by the same token I have to recognize that living as a male with autogynephilia causes me immense suffering and continuing to live as a man will almost certainly cause me to suffer more.
Suffering as in not getting your rocks off? This is the typical state for all men. You need to work hard to be attractive, and then you can pay, or get someone so attracted that they can consensually partake in your fetish.
Sneakily mutilating your body to live out your fetish on the behest of all other people who didnt consent to be part of it, its not much better than being a rapist or public masturbator.
Some people transition, are happy, and don't kill themselves.
People do all kind of crazy stuff that is overall bad for most people, yet dont suffer any negative consequences in their specific case.
Doesent mean we should promote it as good or healthy if it isnt.
I visit this sub religiously everyday for hours, it made me feel safe and relieved at first thinking that "Hey if people here who had legit dysphoria can be wrong about being trans then Me who has never had gender issues or even thought about it should not even be close to being trans"
This is a good counter-measure, but honestly your gender dysphoria will probably go away with something as mundane as:
- Finding a hobby or friend group that isnt woke or trans.
- Getting a sexual partner that isnt woke or trans either.
As long as you have a activity, community or strong relationship to focus on that isnt pushing gender ideology, these thoughts will start to go away.
Its sad how the west is so divided at this point.On one side you have the almost religious and very globalist left, that isnt believing in god, but absolutely lysenkoist and believe in an alternative reality where science always matches what the ideology would want.
On one side you have actual conservative and often religious people, that are quite rational in any question that does not involve anything their god has covered, then any logic gets thrown out as well.
I feel kinda happy to live in a country that has 1) Many parties in government 2) Growing praties of Socialists that are also really conservative. Im kinda sorry for detrans leftoids in the USA, as I understand you dont want to lean right, but kinda dont have an option.
What has gender and sexuality gotta do with politics?
Do you know of any culture on earth were gender didnt have anything to do with politics?
Its kinda ridiculous, because had I angled my experience as more negative towards conservatism, or perhaps been a gay man raised in a very religious household(at least if it was christian) I dont think you would have had an issue with an interpretation of "Christianity/Conservatism is the problem".
Im a 100% sure that group exists actually(Ive listened to pods about them, and even met one) but my story was very closely tied to a life experience of being very devoted to leftist ideas about the world.
This is a tough question because I came to transition medically when I was at the peak of severe depression, and I believe it made me feel better for a couple of years.
Im sure it did- the thing is, isnt it likely other types of medication or mental health treatment without permanent damage, would have brought you out of it, or that just going through it left you happier?
Most young people feel terrible at one time or another in their lives- intepreting that as "well we need to make permanent changes to their bodies" feels like witch-doctory to be honest.