Am I alone alone in remembering when an incompetent doctor reassured a mother and father that their son, whose penis was damaged in a circumcision gone wrong, could be raised as a girl and he wouldn't know the difference? And that boy grew up constantly upset and absolutely hated his parents when he found out that they KNEW? If the boy doesn't want to do it, this is a civil rights violation as well as a criminal act.

Break down the problem into smaller pieces:

• The human brain is under tremendous upheaval in the teen years especially 13-17. You're changing physically and emotionally in order to gain sexual characteristics you will need to develop away from your family, become an adult who can provide for himself and a family and protect oneself/survive in the world ON YOUR OWN.

• Your brain isn't really finished until about 23-25. So 15 is not an excellent period of clarity or suitable for adult decision making. That is why it is unlawful for persons under 18 to enter into a contract and also why kids who do dumb things are usually not thrown in prison for life. So the reason you were "so sure" is because you were a scramble of emotions. Frankly, I don't understand how it's legal to suppress a teen's hormones based on talking to the child, who has no capacity to make weighty decisions.

• Your clothes don't fit because as biological females mature into adulthood, they lose the square child body and the hips grow out and the booty gets bigger. Boy clothes may not fit so well because men do not have girl hips and ass; they're straight up and down on the sides. Hence, boy clothes don't fit.

Cancel the procedure, for now at least. If you want to go back to being a boy, boys need them parts for a lot of great reasons. You can reschedule later.

As a straight girl myself, I am glad that men like breasts, but guys often do not fully appreciate how much of a hassle it is to be a girl. Men have tremendous skills, which can also be weaknesses in certain circumstances. My experience is that when it comes to how women look, men don't want to pay for it, shop for it, wait while you shop, wait while you get ready, think about, hear about, or deal with all the different brands and types of crap you need to get a fashionable and attractive look; they just want to experience the result. Now that you are older, you are starting to mature and get that masculine impatience with hassling over details that aren't work or goal related. Annoying AF isn't it?

Pull Quote:

"Nele could see only two options - transition or suicide. She sought help from a transgender support organisation. They sent her to a therapist.

"When I arrived, I was like, 'Yeah, I think I might be trans.' And he [the therapist/doctor] directly used male pronouns for me. He said it was so clear I'm transgender - that he's never been as sure with anyone else."

I'm used to psychiatry being useless

Yup. The first thing I would want to ask myself, if I were in your position, is "DO I really need to make a final, official decision about this one way or the other, right now?" and "Is there a one-day-at-a-time path I can follow that would be less overwhelming?" BTW, EVERYBODY is a fallible human being. Don't forget that. Everybody is hurting.

You say that you are afraid of being bullied. The implication is that you are afraid of being bullied over writing that comment on instagram.

" Last year, an incident happened at my school where I was mad at the ASB for normalizing cross dressing. It was extremely insensitive and for many trans people were triggers. I saw everyone laughing, making fun of others and just act stereotupically masculine and feminine."

This seems to be the core statement about your issue. It would help the people n this thread if you stated whether the cross dressing was triggering to YOU. And it would help if you stated whether you are perceiving yourself as trans. Uniformly, high school is a difficult time for everyone. You should be able to go back to school. The verbal abuse at home... example? These are issues often helped by speaking to a counselor. NOT a school employee. Does your family have insurance to where you can speak with a psychologist?

Last item to help in your schooling:

"to"- in order to improve. we went to the store "too" - it means "also." "He likes banana ice cream, too." "I spent too much money." (the extra "o" gives you the "extra" meaning) "two" - number between 1 and 3.

"Glorify?" "Homophobes?" I saw a story about people who are going to make it so that people under 19 won't be in a position to make big changes to themselves which they might regret later.

I am sorry you feel the information was not helpful. Please don't assign hate.

In my region of the country, ASB is a known acronym by many millions of students. It is probable that this student does not realize that others do not know what it is, so I report to you now that it means "Student Government." These individual members of the student government are voted in by the members of the high school. Not appointed by teachers. Therefore, it is not merely a club.

Developing ahead of your peer group is a real disadvantage. It's pretty common to get totally inappropriate attention from men as a teen in the first place, but at 11/12 it is just beyond disgusting. (edit) It's really tricky to try to teach girls about this AND what to say to guys who are trying to test the waters which is just scary more than anything. I can see your point easily.

Totally agree with you about wanting to wear easy clothes and not expensive, super-specific, only-goes-with-one-thing girl clothes. I feel like school uniforms do a lot to alleviate parent and student stress about what to wear to school. For women there are SO many kinds of situational clothing. For guys, just a few.

Please anyone on here disagree with me if you think this is not right:

• Fight the "overwhelm" by deciding not to decide until you...

• Evaluate your overall health with blood work, mineral levels, hormone levels, blood pressure, sleep quality. Rationale: Rule out underlying medical conditions that create or worsen other conditions. You cannot believe how much sugar and lack of sleep makes me want to quit life.

• Treat the basics of the depression and define some of your emotions. " I feel x about this big topic."

• If, by chance, you are consuming alcohol daily, or another substance, run don't walk to rehab. You've got to get that out of your life. I only bring it up because people manage mood with alcohol quite frequently. You can't treat medical or emotional problems if you are interrupting your emotions.

• Then start looking into your feelings about your sexual nature/identity. If you need to take further steps, this option will be there for you after you sort out some basics. You would be so pissed at yourself if you made a momentous decision when you were so emotional.

One step at a time. Vent here!

Not to make staggering revelations, but the reason children under 18 are not held to account for many of their decisions is due to the incomplete formation of their brains and wildly raging hormonal shifts that (can/do) cause tremendous emotional upheaval. It is unlawful to have sex with minors because they lack the ability to foresee the emotional consequences of consent. To indoctrinate them for political purposes surrounding their sexual identity appears to be legal and quite popular.