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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic and consistent with a detransitioner's perspective. There are no clear red flags suggesting it is a bot or inauthentic.
The user's story is detailed, personal, and consistent across posts, describing a specific medical history (15 years HRT, SRS, mastectomy, restarting testosterone) and a coherent, if highly passionate and ideological, worldview. The anger and political rhetoric, while extreme, align with known radical feminist detransitioner perspectives and are not in themselves evidence of inauthenticity.
About me
I was born male and lived as a woman for 15 years after taking estrogen and having several surgeries. I finally realized I could never actually change my sex and that living as a woman felt like an exhausting performance. I detransitioned by having my breast implants removed and started taking testosterone again, which has made me feel free and at home in my male body. I’ve accepted that I can’t reverse all my surgeries, but I’ve found peace and can date openly. Looking back, I believe my transition was a mistake that ultimately harms women.
My detransition story
My transition journey was long and complicated, and it took me 15 years to realize I had made a huge mistake. I was born male, and I transitioned to live as a woman for a decade and a half. I was on estrogen HRT for all that time and had bottom surgery almost 14 years ago. I also had breast augmentation surgery.
After all those years, I came to the realization that I could never actually change my sex. Living as a woman always felt like I was putting on a performance, like wearing a costume. It was exhausting to have my gender be my main thought every single day, constantly trying to convince everyone, and myself, that I was something I wasn't. The knowledge that sex is immutable became too powerful to ignore. I finally accepted that I am, and always will be, male.
I decided to detransition. I had my breast implants taken out and a mastectomy performed. About six months after I started that process, I began taking testosterone again. I'm quite happy now. I've already been gendered male a few times, and it feels like coming home. I no longer have to perform. I feel a lot more free.
I will not have surgery to try to reverse my bottom surgery. From what I understand, the results wouldn't be good and could be even worse than what I have now. I resumed dilating my neovagina because I enjoy being penetrated sexually. I also use strap-ons sometimes. In my experience, genitalia are less important for how you're perceived than secondary sex characteristics like facial hair and body shape. Dating is still possible; I'm attracted to both men and women, and I've been on dates with open-minded bisexual guys who didn't care about my surgical history.
I had therapy only briefly. I mostly had to overcome the pain and regret by myself. What happened happened. I can only go forward in life, not backwards.
Looking back, I believe transitioning was based on a lie. I think there are no true transgender people because you can't change your sex. I see now that my transition harmed women. By trying to become a woman, I was taking up resources meant for them, from medical resources like estrogen to scholarships and safe spaces. I believe that men entering women's spaces makes women uncomfortable and is a form of misogyny, an invasion. It forces people to indulge a fantasy they may not agree with. I now feel that even happy trans women should consider detransitioning because of the collective harm it does to women as a class.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| - | ~15 years ago | Started estrogen HRT (began living as a woman) |
| - | ~14 years ago | Had bottom surgery (SRS) and breast augmentation |
| - | 2019 | Detransitioned after 15 years living as a woman |
| - | 2019 | Had breast implants removed and a mastectomy performed |
| - | 2019 (6 months prior to July) | Started testosterone again |
Top Comments by /u/JoselineMontgomery:
I transitioned in the opposite direction and came to regret it. I was on HRT for 15 years and had bottom surgery almost 14 years ago. I started testosterone about six months ago. My breasts have been removed surgically together with the implants. I will not have surgery to reverse my SRS. Since what reversal surgery would give me could be even worse than what I have now. I had therapy briefly but overcome the pain mostly by myself. What happened happened. I can only go forward in life, not backwards.
I’m quite happy. Got gendered male a couple of times again already. So even after living in the female gender role for so many years, returning to my true biological sex felt like coming home. I no longer had to put up a performance.
You are going to contribute to the harm that's being done to women by mimicking women and entering their spaces. This should be forbidden by law. You force people to indulge your fantasies and there is nothing they can do about it because the law allows this. It's absolutely vile and gross. Women who speak out against dudes like you in their spaces are subjected to losing their job. You are disrespecting women and contributing to harm against them. That's why you feel guilty.
He's going to use loopholes in the law to enter women's spaces while having an intact dick and balls and all you can think about is ''do what makes you happy"? What about those women who don't want to share a bathroom with him and have to put up with it because they will lose their job and will fail to put food on the table for their family? TIMs are all narcissists who don't care about the collective well being.
I detransitioned after 15 years of having lived as a woman, taking hormones and 13 years after my SRS and breast augmentation. I had the breast implants taken out, a mastectomy performed, put back on testosterone and now almost 7 months later I'm getting gendered male again but I look like a pretty male. I am attracted to both men and women. I have been on a date with quite a few open minded bi guys who didn't care about my gender. I resumed dilating my neovagina because I like being penetrated. I also use strap ons sometimes. Genitalia are less important than secondary sex characteristics in my experience. Dating is very possible if you start testosterone and undergo a mastectomy.
One who shouts at everyone who didn't get that they were aiming to pass themselves off as a woman and just calls them sir because that's what they look like. One who silences women who do not want to be in bathrooms with dudes on estrogen. One who uses dysphoria as a free pass and an excuse to terrorize and bully people into dating them. That's a true transgender anno 2019. What an honor.
Dude, the suicide rates in trans who remain transitioned are even higher than in detrans. There are no true transgender people. It's based on a lie. Passing yourself off as a sex you are not can never be truthful. No dating life, damaged genitals after surgery, shunned by society. Is that a true transsexual? Is that an honorable badge you want to be gatekept for?
The knowledge that sex is immutable and that it always will feel like a costume to live in a sex different than the one you truly were biologically born as. It's a life time of trying to convince other people that you are something you are not. It becomes exhausting when gender is your main thought activity day after day. I feel a lot more free now.
Oh the irony. If a detransitioner dares to be himself the TRA have to come in and try to paint a negative image of that detransitioner because '' no true Scotsman fallacy ''. You people are so intolerant yet you demand tolerance from others. No, I was not a sex worker. I am an economist.
It's not about your happiness though. You are doing harm to real women by staying transitioned. You are taking up resources from real women. You are harming women by invading women's safe spaces, by taking away scholarships from real women. Even happy trans women should detransition and should be opposed because at the end of the day they are still harming real women.
A man who had surgeries to impersonate women is still a man. He didn't become a woman. What you are asking from society is impossible. People can't acknowledge you as a female because you are a genetic man. Men don't experience female sex based discrimination. You were socialized as a male. You don't know what women go through. Your friend was right. For trans women being a woman is all about clothes and body parts. For women it's about job opportunities and politics and bodily functions that can't be had by paying a surgeon.