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About me
I started transitioning as a teenager because I was deeply unhappy and uncomfortable with my female body. I thought becoming a man would solve my depression, so I took testosterone and had surgery. Eventually, I realized that changing my body didn't fix the underlying issues I had with myself. I stopped hormones and, through proper therapy, understood my discomfort was more about trauma and society's expectations of women. Now, I'm focusing on building a life for myself that isn't centered on gender at all.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated, and it’s taken me a long time to understand it myself. Looking back, I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a deep unhappiness and confusion during my teenage years. I was depressed and had very low self-esteem. I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere, and I hated the changes my body was going through during puberty. I was uncomfortable with my breasts and felt a general sense of wrongness with my female body.
I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. A lot of this was influenced by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring their gender. It felt like a way to escape from the person I was, who I didn't like. I thought if I could become someone else, a man, then all my problems with depression and anxiety would be solved. I started taking testosterone, and I did get top surgery.
For a while, it felt like the right thing. I felt a sense of control and a new identity. But the underlying issues, the depression and the low self-esteem, never really went away. I just had a new set of problems to deal with. I started to realize that changing my body didn't change who I was inside. I had a lot of thoughts about gender and society during this time. I saw a lot of arguments online, especially about trans women in sports and the differences in medical outcomes, and it made me question the whole thing more deeply. I began to think that just "tolerating" difference wasn't enough; we need to understand why people feel this need to change themselves in the first place.
Eventually, I stopped taking hormones. I don't regret exploring transition because it taught me a lot about myself, but I do regret the permanent changes, especially the top surgery. I am now infertile, which is a serious and lasting consequence. I’ve come to understand that a lot of my discomfort was more about body dysmorphia and a rejection of the sexualized way women are seen, rather than a true feeling of being a man. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a new gender identity, but that helped me work through my underlying depression and trauma.
Now, I’m trying to move forward. I’m focusing on my recovery, finding new friends and hobbies, and building a life without defining myself by gender. I’m not the person I was, and that’s okay. The past is done, and I’m trying to look to the future.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty. Hated my breasts. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 17 | Started identifying as a trans man and began taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Had top surgery. |
| 22 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
| 23 | Underwent therapy focused on underlying depression and trauma. |
Top Comments by /u/JusteUnPequin:
You are going too far into naturalizing and so excusing and perpetuating gendered violence and gendered inequalities.
Also "tolerate" difference is a strange, condescending wording. It could implies that yes, gender divergent people are inferiors but we should tolerate those infortunates souls.
Tolerance is not enough.
I am really sorry for you. Medical professionals are flawed, they just follow the process they are told to follow. They thought your child would definitely be more confortable living as a girl, and they didn't believe in the possibility of him changing his mind.
This comment is full of false and toxic assumptions.
That you need to be "valuable" to society. That you are less valuable because you don't reproduce. That there is "a program". That people deviating for this gendered program makes society weaker.
It's all frankly, miles away from any reality and you seem very rigid, cult-like and toxic in your thinking. This I an extremely right-wing point of view. Was Da Vinci making society weaker because he was gay and didn't have children? Get a grip! You don't need to be "valuable" to society but if you want to, there's a million ways other than performing traditional gender roles and/or having children.
Since I experienced that you are also passive-aggressive and vindicative, I will block you, but first I need to warn people against your insane ideas.
You are still very young, young enough to reinvent yourself.
Don't waste time and energy wishing for what could have been. This is a road to more depression. What's done is done, and plenty of people have a bad adolescence spent waiting for it to end. Don't romanticize the lost years, they probably would have been shitty if you didn't try to transition too. Teenage is a bitch to non-conforming people.
You are still basically a kid, so it's normal if you don't know who you are yet. You have you whole life ahead of you to find out. Those years taught you things, and now you are free.
Now prioritize your recovery, see a doctor to treat your depression if you can, and go find those friends, hobbies, jobs you wish for.
Several reasons.
One: there's lot more transwomen than transmen.
Two: a lot of transwomen have become actors, celebrities, have won awards, became political figures, compared to transmen. And I am not talking about how many fall into the category of "prominent twitter users" lol who are very active online. They just seem to make the news more and ask for representation more.
The things about your surgery comment is; Botton surgery is way better and give more convincing results for transwomen than for trans men.
It's easier to remove material than create new, so it's easier to remove a penis than create a new one. A neovag can be penetrated and look somewhat like a bio vag but a neopenis cannot look or perform or look like a bio-penis. So for transmen the surgery is simply not worth it if they don't experience intense bottom dysphoria. It's not a proof that they are "faking it" but that there isn't a technology that is advanced enough to give them good result.
Also women need to be protected from men and not really the other way around, so the criminal transwomen can be leveraged as proof than they retain "male patterns" in agressive behavior.
There's also the issue of sport,