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Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's perspective is highly consistent: an autistic, AMAB individual who identifies as non-binary and is critical of gender as a social construct. Their language is nuanced, self-reflective (e.g., admitting to ranting, asking for clarification on downvotes), and shows a personal, emotional investment in the topic, which is not typical of bot behavior. Their advice on medical detransition is specific and plausible.
About me
I was born male, and my autism made the social rules around gender feel completely arbitrary and frustrating. I thought transitioning to live as a woman was my only escape from those masculine expectations. I now see I was trying to change my body to fix a problem that was actually with society's stereotypes, not with me. I am grateful I never medically transitioned, as therapy helped me understand my distress was rooted in autism and a rejection of social norms. My journey taught me that my problem was never with my male body, but with the concept of gender itself.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been confusing, and looking back, I see now that a lot of my feelings were tied to being autistic. I was born male, but I never really understood the social rules everyone else seemed to just get. The whole idea of gender—that you have to act a certain way because you're a man or a woman—felt completely arbitrary and frustrating to me. It made me angry that the world is so hung up on what's between your legs. I just saw people, not men or women, and I wanted to tear down that whole wall separating everyone.
I started by identifying as non-binary because that felt like a way to reject those categories entirely. But eventually, I thought that to truly escape masculinity, I needed to transition to live as a woman. I convinced myself that even if I could never be a "real" woman, living as a trans woman was better than living as a man. I now see that this was a form of escapism. I wasn't running toward being a woman; I was running away from being a man because I hated the social expectations that came with it.
I did a lot of research into medical transition and shared that information with others. I knew that hormones change your fat and muscle, but things like bone structure and fertility can be permanently altered, especially after surgery or long-term HRT. I was always very matter-of-fact about the physical process.
My big realization, which took me a long time, was that my problem was never with my sexed body itself, but with the social construct of gender. I was trying to change my body to solve a problem that existed entirely in how society is structured. As an autistic person, I struggled to understand and accept these made-up rules, and I thought transitioning was the answer. I now believe that if we could just get rid of the concept of gender altogether, people would be much happier. Sex is biological, but gender is just a set of stereotypes that caused me so much unnecessary pain.
I don't regret my exploration because it led me to this understanding, but I do regret that I ever felt medical intervention was the only way to fix my discomfort. I am grateful I never started hormones or had any surgeries. I benefited from working through these feelings in therapy that wasn't just about affirming a trans identity, but about understanding the root of my distress, which was my autism and my deep frustration with social norms.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my comments:
| My Age | Date | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Not specified) | 2019-07-03 | I expressed a desire to live as a trans-woman to escape masculinity, identifying as non-binary. |
| (Not specified) | 2019-12-03 | I articulated my autistic frustration with the social construct of gender and the arbitrary separation of men and women. |
| (Not specified) | 2020-03-21 | I was offering advice to others about the process of stopping hormone therapy, showing my involvement in the medical details of transition. |
Top Comments by /u/KageGekko:
Not really that strange when you think about it. One thing that's common for most people on the spectrum is difficulty with understanding social constructs, and given that gender very much is a social construct, there'd be a good reason why people with ASD often fuck around with gender (or 'mess with gender' if they're asexual :P) a lot more than the general populace.
Of course, this varies, but from what I've heard, none of these things will ever go away completely.
I'm not really sure what you mean by "Can the beautiful body be totally gone?". If you're referring to your body pre-transition, then you won't ever get that back 100%, though if you're lucky with your genetics and what not, then you'll probably be able to get back most of it.
It's really only permanent if you've had surgery or if you've been on HRT so long that your bone structure has been altered. All of the soft tissues like fat and muscle will go back to what they were before. Otherwise, voice therapy, laser hair removal and maybe a tracheal shave will get you pretty far.
Oh and of course, fertility might have been permanently impacted as well.
I suggest you look up info about regular MtF transitioning. I think you'll find a lot of similarities between MtF and FtMtF.
Haha, okay yeah, that's actually a good point. I didn't think about that. Of course they need to establish whether someone needs treatment or not, just like any other treatment, be it therapy or asthma medication.
edit: I also noticed how I've gotten downvoted a bit. I wish that the people who downvoted me could've explained why they did that. I don't really learn anything if all they do is just downvote me.
Well if they went off of hormones all they would do is replace testosterone with estrogen, right? Maybe they could stop T but keep going on the blockers for now instead of quitting cold turkey style, which I think might be even worse mentally since such a drastic change often affects mood quite dramatically.
Ehm, so sorry for just dropping in but I too have a few questions about all of this. I recently found this subreddit and it really confuses me as well. I'm an AMAB diagnosed with ASD BTW.
So consider this: I have realised that I'll never be a "real" woman (which actually isn't a problem, because I consider myself non-binary, but anyway). I have, after realising this, also realised that I'd rather live as a trans-woman (what you call a "mutilated man"?), than live as a a man the rest of my life. Therefore it doesn't matter that I'll never be a woman, since the only thing I wish for is just not to be masculine.
Okay, so when I refer to gender, I refer to gender roles in society, which, based off of ancient stereotypes, would be the man that brings home the bacon and the woman who takes care of the kids and house, right? When I refer to sex, I refer to the physical or biological thing, i.e. male or female (or intersex).
The social contruct that we aspies and autists have trouble accepting and understanding is the first thing: gender.
To me, the world is split in two halves, one for women and one for men, and they're so different they might as well be different species. But why is that? Just because you're born with one thing or another between your legs, you're put in this one half of the world and you're only allowed to interact with the other if it's because you're seeking a sexual relationship?
That's... well, that's a very ancient, sexist, black and white view on the whole thing anyway (which is what it seems to me that the concept means to others), but a lot of it still seems to carry over into the modern world. There is a big difference between men and women for no fucking reason. There might be slight physical differences, but I can't see how they could ever warrant such a massive differentiation between men and women.
To me, everyone is a human being, a person, first, and male or female second. I can't fathom how... arghh!! It just doesn't make sense to me! It makes me angry, and I want to tear down this... this wall, this distinction! It's madness that the world is still so hung up on what people's genitals are. Just let them do whatever they want to do! (within legal and moral limits ofc).
It's things like, gender seperated bathrooms, only men being accepted as priests in the catholic church, clothing as well, stereotypes, culture, language, everything!
So, that was just an example of how I personally feel about gender, but I wouldn't call this a representative example of why there is a correlation between autism and being transgender.
edit: honestly, this was more of a rant than anything. sorry about that. i actually feel like i did a really poor job explaining everything here (except for the first paragraph), so if you have any questions then shoot!
edit 2: honestly if we just deleted gender from the world everyone would be much happier. sex can stay, it's pretty important for our species' survival, but fuck gender honestly.