like… why are they always treating it as if it’s “bad” to be a cis woman? or that they’re more of a woman and know more about womanhood than we do? I’ve seen them get mad at attractive cis woman that i guess “come off as trans women” but end up being afab.

A lot of MtFs are autogynephiles who fetishize womanhood. They also tend to have forced feminization & humiliation fetishes. If you look at fantasy stories written by AGP males you'll see scenarios like, "I was a powerful businessman but now I'm a sexy, oppressed secretary."

I don't think most of them even mean for it to come across misogynistic, they just think it's 'hot' to be a woman. If they viewed oppression as part of womanhood, they eroticize that too.

I've seen this claim several times, from both FtMs and MtFs, it's not true.

PCOS is an endocrine disorder resulting from issues in the ovarian system. Saying women with PCOS are intersex is like saying men with testicular disorders or prolactinomas are intersex. It's just silly.

Intersex used to mean a person who had a genetic condition resulting in indeterminate or abnormal sexual development. Conditions like CAIS, Swyer Syndrome, Chimerism, etc. These conditions are extremely rare and activists try to lump other conditions in with them to make them appear common enough to blur the lines between the sexes.

Some of them, posting as 'detrans female' with very little or no profile activity (which is understandable), frequently ask questions that seem unusual, potentially related to autogynephilia or sexualization, though trauma could be a factor

I think it happens sometimes. I've seen a couple of 'detrans females' who go out of their way to change the subject when someone mentions autogynephilia. There's also a subtype of autogynephilia which centers around stereotypical female behaviors and those men often like to engage in 'girl talk' and mimic the women around them. I think that talking about 'learning to be a woman again' by claiming to be a detrans female fits well with that mindset.

With that said, I think a lot of AGP males who roleplay as detrans are just trolling and trying to get attention.

Regarding the meme.... I know a gal who is dating an obvious AGP guy (he has a female internet persona that acts very fetishistic). She never had any dysphoria until after she started dating him. I've also seen wives of AGP men say that the behavior they saw in their husbands caused them to experience their own identity crisis.

I think that for some people, especially empathic ones, being in a relationship can impact their feelings towards their own gender.

Tbh I checked your posts and saw that you made one in AskTransgender about autogynephilia. The top comment denied it exists, called Blanchard a quack (but didn't name him, he's apparently like Sauron or Voldemort), and accused this sub of being full of haters who never even transitioned.

Autogynephilia is absolutely real, Blanchard's work is solid, and there are countless people on here who have publicly documented their detransition.

I would definitely suggest reading actual research on autogynephilia. Ann Lawrence (an autogynephilic MTF) wrote a book on it.

I'm always struck by the fact that the trans movement focuses heavily on the concept of a journey of inner 'self-discovery' (am I really trans?) while simultaneously denying that biological differences between genders matter.

It's an immensely egocentric mindset because it rejects outward truths for inherently subjective 'inner truths.'

No one can prove which person is 'true trans' and who isn't. The narrative's continued existence therefore relies on the fact it's supporters will mutually reinforce (validate) each other's transness without asking for solid proof.

I'm sorry this has happened to you, there's definitely a lot of individuals who abuse the 'questioning' flair.

There's this one person I keep seeing who rudely berates and starts fights whenever something like "autogynephilia" is mentioned or when it's pointed out that there kind of is a link between porn addiction and transitioning. Some people who transition are mentally ill. I'm not saying all of them, but im saying you definitely shouldnt push it off the table.

I've definitely seen a lot of manipulative tactics from the AGP crowd (everything from berating others to trying to come across neutral and then obfuscating the facts). I honestly think this is because they can't debate the facts.

The article Conservative Men in Conservative Dresses was written decades ago, Ray Blanchard's research is freely available, Ann Lawrence is an autogynephile who transitioned and wrote a book sharing the fantasies of other autogynephilic MtFs, the site TransWidowsVoices has accounts by wives of autogynephiles, and a lot of detrans / desisted women have dated AGPers.

Or you can visit any sub that shares information on how women can look more feminine and there'll be AGPers writing out their fantasies, "oh noes, I helped my wife do squats once and now I have a Kim K ass, what do I do?!?" Or "I have a rare intersex disorder that is doing the exact thing HRT would do, how do I tell my wife I am accepting this totally random thing? - sincerely, AnimeGurl232."

There's a lot of potential reasons:

• Maybe he has a high functioning form of autism and relates well to FtMs, who are more likely to be on the spectrum.

• Could just vibe well.

• He could have a fetish for trans folks.

• He might have AGP and be dating FtMs because he sees them as more accepting (this is not as rare as people think).

• Some straight guys really like 'tomboys' and think that FtMs are basically the same thing. I'm skeptical of this though because normally this type wouldn't want to be in an open relationship.

I'd try to figure out which one it is. I think you should also ask how you feel about being in an open relationship. Personally, I think I'd feel very uncomfortable with that dynamic.

I'm super sorry your mom said that. That's not how a mother should treat her daughter.

Tbh, I've noticed that it's very common for trans / non-binary / GNC women to have difficult mother x daughter relationships. My own mother was very hard on me and spoiled one of my siblings.

There are lurkers patrolling the sub because they've got a kink for it.

I know there was a guy who kept messaging / harassing detrans women because he had a kink for masculine looking women. He had like 3 or 4 accounts and a couple users figured out it was all the same guy.

If you keep getting messages with the same writing style from different accounts then you might be dealing with the same guy.