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- Consistent, nuanced argumentation on a complex topic (biological sex and intersex variations).
- Emotional investment and frustration that aligns with a genuine desister/detransitioner's perspective.
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About me
I was a girl who started feeling intense discomfort with my body when I hit puberty. I found what felt like an answer online and began taking testosterone at 16, later having surgery to remove my breasts. I eventually realized I had used transition to run from deeper issues like trauma and an eating disorder. Now, I am living as a female again, but I have to cope with permanent changes like a deeper voice and infertility. I deeply regret that I wasn't given help for my real problems instead of being affirmed in my confusion.
My detransition story
My journey with transition started when I was very young, around 12 or 13. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them; they felt foreign and wrong on me. I didn't feel like the other girls and I didn't fit in. I spent a lot of time online, and that's where I first learned about being transgender. It felt like an answer to all my discomfort. I thought if I could just become a boy, all my problems with anxiety and low self-esteem would disappear. It felt like an escape.
I came out as non-binary first, because that felt like a less scary step. But pretty quickly, I felt pressured to go further. My online friends and the communities I was in made it seem like taking hormones and getting surgery was the only true way to be valid. So, by the time I was 16, I started taking testosterone. I was convinced it was what I needed.
The changes happened fast. My voice dropped, I grew facial hair, and I felt a sense of power at first. But that feeling didn't last. The underlying depression and anxiety never went away; they just got worse. I started to realize I had made a huge mistake, but I felt trapped. I had already told everyone this was who I was, and I was terrified of what they would think if I went back. So I kept going. I got top surgery when I was 19. I thought finally getting rid of my breasts would make me happy, but after the bandages came off, I just felt a deep emptiness. I had mutilated my body, and for what?
My detransition began slowly. I was so depressed and lost. I started seeing a new therapist who wasn't just affirming everything I said. She helped me understand that my body hatred was tied to other issues, like trauma and an eating disorder I had struggled with for years. She helped me see that I had never actually dealt with my underlying problems; I had just tried to run from them by changing my body. I realized my discomfort during puberty wasn't because I was born in the wrong body, but because I was a girl who was deeply uncomfortable with the changes happening to me and the attention that came with it.
I stopped testosterone when I was 21. Letting my body go back to how it was naturally has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. I have permanent changes from the testosterone, like a deeper voice and facial hair I have to manage. The surgery scars are a constant reminder of a choice I can never take back. I am now infertile because of the hormones, and that is a deep regret I live with every day.
I don't believe in gender identity anymore. I think we are our bodies, male or female, and that's it. The idea that I had a "male brain" in a female body was a harmful fantasy that I used to escape from myself. My thoughts on all of this have become very clear, especially when I see how the movement has grown. The medicalization of this confusion is harming so many young people, just like it harmed me. I see history repeating itself with new pseudoscientific theories, and it terrifies me.
I regret my transition deeply. It was a permanent solution to temporary feelings. I wish I had gotten the right kind of help sooner, help that addressed my depression, my eating disorder, and my self-esteem instead of just agreeing with my desire to escape being female.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12-13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and breast development. Spent a lot of time online. |
| 15 | Came out as non-binary. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 21 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Lazy-Blacksmith7973:
I genuinely don't understand how we've gotten to this point. Like SO far into it where so many people think it's okay... But the medicalization, the movement... it's just all so harmful. How can we come from back this? When will they wake up? I hope things change for the better, but I start to lose hope when I see posts like this just becoming more and more popularized.
I believe the same cannot happen with race as race is not a deformity, It’s your genetics and you wouldn’t be born with a different race of brain because that doesn’t exist
yeah, race isn't a deformity. but ...your sex isn't a deformity either lmao
but what's funny about this is that historically, many people thought races were a deformity. over time, of course, people had to disprove this. in the 19th and early 20th centuries, pseudoscientific theories like phrenology and eugenics were used to justify racial hierarchies. these theories often claimed that physical characteristics, including skull shapes and sizes, were indicators of intellectual and moral capabilities. some proponents of these theories argued that non-white races were inherently inferior and sometimes described them in terms that implied deformity or abnormality.
so i'm sure some there might be some weird connection between this and the new pseudoscientific theories attempting to prove the validity of transgenderism. history does often repeat itself in funny ways.
Just to clarify for others (and I know you're not saying this since you said sex is binary), intersex/hermaphrodites/people with DSDs/etc. aren't a separate sex though. They still fall into either male or female--the presentation of their sexual characteristics or chromosomes just differ from the norm.
I wish people would stop othering them + putting them in the same category as "trans" people/those who have a "gender identity".
But what is the point you're trying to make? Both sexes have varying sexual characteristics that may not show up the same as another person. Does that mean we should ostracize them and put them into category? No; they're still limited to binary sex. Everyone has the different reproductive capabilities--functional / nonfunctional. Are they a third sex? Are they something "other"? Again no.
I can't tell if you're disagreeing or supporting my argument, but if anything the article is reinforcing parts of my argument I said earlier.
Sex determination can be complex and that there are variations in how these traits manifest in individuals. How else would DSDs exist? We know this by now. Hell, how would we recognize any variations of what a human ought to look like lmao. But we don't (or rather, shouldn't) say they're less human or something "other".
However, my point remains that these variations still exist within the BINARY framework of male and female. That's why I asked you if there's something *outside* of that, not within that, but it seems like you're not addressing that point.
Even though there are different presentations of chromosomes and ambiguous genitalia, they don’t constitute a "third sex" but rather represent diversity within the two existing categories. Intersex individuals, for example, may have a mix of characteristics, but they don't constitute a separate sex category outside of male and female. The biological framework remains binary, with variations like intersex conditions being part of the spectrum that sexual characteristics can show up as.
The presence of different chromosomal combinations or ambiguous genitalia doesn’t create a new category beyond male and female. The terms "male" and "female" are still used, even if some people don't fit perfectly within traditional definitions.
Again, what I'm trying to emphasize is that recognizing biological diversity within the binary categories doesn't necessitate creating a "third sex." Instead, it means acknowledging that male and female categories are broad enough to encompass a range of variations. If there's scientific evidence for a third type of gonad, sex chromosome, or other fundamental aspect of sex determination beyond what we recognize as male and female, I'd be interested in learning about it. But as it stands, the variations you mention are still within the male-female framework, not outside of it.