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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags suggesting this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a detransitioner/desister.
The comments show:
- Internal consistency in their critical views on gender ideology and medical transition for minors.
- Personal reflection on their own experience with gender discomfort and presentation.
- Nuanced arguments that consider different perspectives (e.g., on sports, therapy, political views).
- A conversational tone with natural language, including rhetorical questions and self-correction ("Admittedly...").
The passion and anger expressed are consistent with the warning that detransitioners can be "pissed off about this topic because of the harm and stigma." The user identifies as female and describes a history of gender-questioning, which aligns with a desister profile (someone who questioned their gender but did not medically transition).
About me
I was born female and my confusion started around age ten when I began having persistent thoughts that I was supposed to be male. I explored a non-binary identity but rejected all labels, and what helped me most was simply wearing men's clothes, which made those feelings fade. I realized my discomfort was rooted in hating puberty and societal pressures, not in being born in the wrong body. I now believe we should abolish the concept of gender altogether. I'm grateful I never medically transitioned and am deeply concerned about these irreversible treatments being offered to minors.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been confusing, and I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure it all out. I was born female, and as a kid, I was a total tomboy until I was about ten. After that, things got weird. I started having these persistent thoughts that I was actually supposed to be a guy. It was like a daily reminder in my own head that my body was wrong, even though I knew physically I was a woman.
I never medically transitioned. I thought about it a lot, but I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I played with the idea of identifying as non-binary for a while because I really hated the pressure of labels. They feel like cages to me, no matter what they are. I just wanted to be me without having to pick a box. What ended up helping me the most was changing how I dressed. I started wearing men’s clothes that still felt pretty gender-neutral, and that simple act actually made those “I’m a guy” thoughts happen a lot less. It was like loosening a tight belt.
A lot of my questioning came from trying to understand where the feeling that “my body is wrong” even comes from. I think a lot of it gets mistakenly applied to the body because of gender roles and societal pressures, kind of like how body dysmorphia works. I also felt like an outsider for other reasons; I had undiagnosed ADHD as a kid, and a therapist even told my mom I was “putting a target on my back” by not conforming to gender, which felt like blaming me for being different.
Looking back, I think a huge part of my discomfort was just plain old puberty. I hated the changes my body was going through, especially developing breasts. It felt alien and wrong. I now believe that for me, and maybe for a lot of other people, these feelings can come from a deep discomfort with puberty itself and the expectations that get placed on you, not from being born in the wrong body.
My views on gender itself have really solidified through all this. I think the whole concept of gender is stupid. It creates boxes and cages for everyone, however they identify. In a perfect world, I think we should just abolish gender and acknowledge biological sex. The current conversation, where a woman is defined as “anyone who identifies as one,” really upsets me because it feels like it erases the specific experiences and oppression that come with having a female body.
I don’t have regrets about transitioning because I never actually did it medically. I only ever questioned and explored socially. I’m grateful I didn’t go down that path because I now see that my feelings were rooted in other things. I’m very concerned about the push for medicalizing these feelings in young people. I strongly believe minors cannot give informed consent for treatments that permanently change their bodies, and it’s not transphobic to say that. We need to be exploring where these dysphoric feelings come from first.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 | Stopped identifying as a tomboy. Began having persistent daily thoughts that I was supposed to be male. |
| (Various Ages) | Socially explored a non-binary identity but rejected all labels. |
| (Recent Years) | Started wearing men's gender-neutral clothing, which significantly reduced feelings of body wrongness. |
Top Comments by /u/Level-Class-8367:
Why would any sane person think giving children treatments that permanently change their bodies is ethical??? Activists keep pushing the informed consent model, but a teensy problem with that is minors cannot give informed consent!
Edit: Parents of kids are often sane but are being gaslit by insane medical professionals saying their kid is on a one-way track to suicide if they don’t go along with it.
Admittedly, sometimes this sub can get kind of aggressive towards trans people. But I think we can all agree that the agenda is very real and is doing damage. I feel like it’s white cis women who are the biggest activists more than trans people themselves lol.
Anyway, it’s not transphobic to say that kids shouldn’t be put on blockers/given medical treatments. It’s not transphobic to admit that trans women have an athletic advantage in sports. And it’s not transphobic to believe there should be precautions taken before adults are allowed to medically transition, such as exploring where the dysphoric feelings are coming from in the first place.
You’re welcome! The study was also pretty small, with about a 2:1 ratio of OSAB males to females (usually it’s the other way around, but whatever). A little under 300 kids from all over the U.S. completed the study start to finish. Considering the sample size and the limitations admitted to at the end (ie. compared to general population, parents in the study were higher income and college educated), this is sloppy.
I’m still left in the majority of my views. Like you, I’m big on universal healthcare. I also really care about the environment and think taxation equity to fund those initiatives and social programs is paramount to fixing society. Though some other things I deviate with are that a lot of lefties hate all cops, which I don’t. Some also want to get rid of all guns, which I don’t. And even if I explain myself respectfully with those views, I’ll probably get bashed for it by some people.
I can identify the cis het white savior in my class immediately. But yeah, determined sex at birth and observed sex at birth are both accurate and you may get away with saying them. They both allow for wiggle room for intersex people (who are used as tokens), and then if you’re questioned you can just say “An observation/determination could be wrong”
I agree, we need parental consent. The reason I said it skews the data in this case is because parents who would sign their children up for this research more than likely do not question their children. They feed into the narrative, which makes the data unreliable. I wouldn’t say the same thing if we were researching something like ASD or ADHD. There’s no political agenda behind that (other than perhaps being a decent person and respecting people with disabilities), whereas there is a BIG one here.
What really upsets me is the claim a woman is “anyone who identifies as one” completely erases the experiences of women. We’re moving towards an anti-women America where bodily autonomy is continuously attacked and outlawed. That is a female experience of oppression. A male simply cannot understand that on the same level.
This sounds kinda like how I feel about being some sort of non-binary, except times 100. I hate the obsession with labels, but I also just cringe when I refer to myself as a woman, even though I know I physically am one. I presented as a tomboy until about age 10, and then when that “went away”, I would have to remind myself I’m a girl when I’d have thoughts pop in my head everyday I was a guy. I dress in mostly men’s clothes now that look gender neutral, and ever since I started doing that those thoughts decreased in frequency.
Anyway, I’m sharing this to show you’re not alone in disliking the trans culture and also feeling like something’s “off”. But in your case I would recommend you continue your transition because you’ve already been to extensive therapy to try to get to the root cause, and it seems to be genuine.
Gender is stupid to me. It creates cages for everyone, however they identify. Labels also create cages, so I’ve decided I don’t identify as cis, non-binary, agender, etc, because those are all labels. In a perfect world, I think we should abolish gender and just acknowledge biological sex.
Yeah, and then there’s the whole idea of we shouldn’t be allowing a spot an elite woman could have taken to go to a mediocre male (I agree). This is a difficult issue and there’s no perfect solution, but T suppression is by no means accurate in determining fairness. As I said to someone else, all genders should be free to play recreational intramural sports, martial arts (with limited force used), and bowling I believe is also fair in competition. The best idea I have as of now is create an open competitive league (maybe by county) and let the person train amongst whoever they want to in their own school, but don’t let them compete with the women’s team when it’s showtime. Though the problem there is the women could feel intimidated by the superior abilities being displayed in front of them even though they won’t be competing. It’s better than the current policy though!