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About me
My journey with transition and detransition was long and confusing, but I'm finally coming out the other side. I realized I wanted to be a mother and carry a child, which helped me unpack a lot of my internalized shame and feel proud to be a woman. I started detransitioning slowly, first with small changes to my appearance and then by using my birth name again in public. Now, I dress however I want and feel comfortable as a female, though I sometimes worry about safety because people might see me as a trans woman. Looking back, I think I just grew out of my dysphoria, and learning to love my body as it is has been the healthiest path for me.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and now detransition has been a long and confusing one, but I feel like I’m finally coming out the other side. I don’t like to say I was never trans, and I don’t regret transitioning because I think I needed it at the time. But I do look back and think that if I could have just lasted a little longer, I might have been fine without it. For me, the switch flipped pretty quickly. The things that used to give me gender euphoria now give me a different kind of dysphoria.
A big part of my realization came from thinking about the future. Realizing I wanted to have kids was the last straw for me. I don't just want to have kids; I want to carry a child and be with a man who loves me. That thought started a slippery slope where I no longer saw myself as trans, but as a mother. It helped me unpack a lot of the shame and internalized misogyny I felt growing up. For the first time, I felt genuinely proud to call myself a woman.
When I first started detransitioning, I just started doing small things. I began dressing a little more feminine and doing my makeup. I got more comfortable bit by bit. I opened up to my closest friends and coworkers first. Then, when I felt more sure, I started testing the waters by using my birth name when I’d order coffee or takeout where no one knew me. It felt weird at first, but not bad. Now, I dress however I want. A big part for me is doing what makes me feel attractive; if I feel attractive, I don’t care if people are looking. And most of the time, they aren’t. I’m surprised more people haven’t asked about my pronouns. I’ve been lucky that I was able to pass as male early in my transition, and now I can pass as either male or female depending on how I present.
I think a lot about the reasons behind my transition. I think I just kind of grew out of my dysphoria. I also see now how some of my feelings were influenced by other things. I’ve seen discussions about autogynephilia, and while I can’t speak for anyone else, I know that for me, a porn problem was part of it. I think if you feel like you’ve “cooked your brain on porn,” you need to stop looking at it, all of it, cold turkey. It’s hard, but after a while, you don’t need it. Looking back at what I used to watch genuinely disgusts me now.
My advice to anyone questioning is this: if you can find a way to be content in your body without transitioning, do it. Work on yourself—work out, eat right. Forcing my body to be something it’s not just stopped making sense to me. Learning to love your body the way it is is the healthiest option, if it’s an option for you.
The physical part of stopping testosterone was surprisingly okay for me, though I know I’m lucky. My doctor told me I could just quit cold turkey. I was on a low dose for about two years total. After stopping, I had low energy and no sex drive for a few months, but it picked up again around the six-month mark. I’ve regained my sense of emotion without being overly emotional. My hairline started growing back with baby hairs, which I was told was a lost cause, so that was a nice surprise. My voice has also heightened a little. My period came back, but it’s inconsistent; I assume it’ll fix itself soon. The worst I dealt with was a tendency to overeat, which made me feel bad, so I had to be mindful.
Detransitioning is hard in other ways, though. For the first time, I’ve been concerned for my safety because some people perceive me as a trans woman, and that’s just the world we live in. You have to be true to yourself despite that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
My Age | Event |
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19 | Started identifying as transgender and began socially transitioning. |
20 | Started testosterone therapy (.2mg/week). |
21 | Dosage increased to .5mg/week. Dosage later decreased back to .2mg/week. |
22 | Stopped testosterone therapy. Realized I wanted to carry children and began my social detransition. |
22 (6 months after stopping T) | Noticed baby hairs regrowing on my hairline and my sex drive returning. |
23 (Present) | Living full-time as a woman again, comfortable presenting femininely in most situations. |
Top Comments by /u/Levuwu:
I think you fit a stereotype for trans women. I’m not saying this is you, as I dont know you and your situation. But some people who identify as trans women do it out of fetishization of what it means to be a woman.
If you think youve cooked your brain on porn, then you need to stop looking at it. All of it. Cold turkey. Trust me, it will be hard at first, but after a while you will find that you dont need it. sometimes i think about what I used to look at and i am genuinely disgusted.
Ill express a sentiment I think a lot of people on this subreddit can agree with. If you can find a way to be content in your body without transitioning, do it. I recommend trying to be content with yourself. Work out, eat right, work on yourself.
It probably took a good 6 months before my sex drive picked up again at all. I dont remember where, but I read that it can take up to a year for your body to return back to normal. That being said, id be curious to know how being on blockers/not finishing female puberty has affected you. Youve already said it, but a doctors visit is a must.
Not saying this happened to you, but it certainly happened to me. I just kind of grew out of my dysphoria. I dont like to say i was never trans and I dont regret transitioning. I think I needed it at the time. But i do think to myself, “you know, if i could have lasted past x year, i think i could have been fine.” The switch flipped pretty quickly for me. Now i find myself getting dysphoria over things i used to be proud of before.
I just started doing it. I started dressing a little more feminine, doing my makeup, all that. I quickly got more comfortable. I work in a client-based environment, so i try to keep it androgynous at work, but im surprised more people havent asked.
I opened up to my closest friends and coworkers first, and then when i was more comfortable and sure, i started using my birthname when id order coffee or takout. No one else was around, and I could test the waters to see how it felt being referred to as that. It feels weird, but not bad. Eventually i got more comfortable and now I fully dress however I want, and do what I want. A big part for me is doing what makes me feel attractive; If i feel attractive, then i dont care if people are looking (they usually arent). Anymore, most places, looking gender nonconforming is pretty normal. Im suprised i havent been asked more often what my pronouns are. I have, and plan to go on maybe go on some casual dates and present myself as a cis woman, but im lucky enough that I was able to pass as male early on and I can pass as fully male or female now.
Basically my best advice is to just DO something if you want to. Literally dress however you want. You will get more comfortable, and you will learn to love your own skin. For me, I chose to detrans bc forcing mu body to be something it’s not just didnt make sense anymore. I understand its not an option for everyone, but If you can learn to love your body the way that it is, I think it’s the healthiest option for so many reasons.
Realizing i wanted to have kids was the last straw for me. I dont want to just have kids, I want to carry a child and be with a man who loves me. It was a slippery slope after that. I no longer saw myself as trans, but as a mother, and that helped me unpack the shame and misogyny i felt. I finally felt proud to call myself a woman.
Detransitioning will be hard. Given your circumstances, a lot of people will assume youre a trans woman or just flat out wont understand. For the first time in my life over actually been concerned for my safety because i know some people perceive me as a trans woman, and that’s unfortunately the world we live in. You have to be true to yourself, though.
Id recommend telling one close friend or two, and testing the waters. Buy a girly outfit or chat with someone online who thinks youre a woman. Basically the same stuff you did when you first transitioned (at least thats what I did)
Ive been off T for 6 months and i definitely have babyhairs coming back on my hairline! Still not sure just how much will come back. i was also under the impression that it’d be a lost cause, but the edges of my hair that have regrown are definitely new
If it makes you feel any better, my doctor advised me to stop cold turkey. I was on .2mg/week, up to .5mg/week for a year, then back to .2mg/week for another year, and when i asked to stop she just told me I could quit.
I find it odd you had periods, though maybe my memory is failing me. Ive always been fortunate in that regard, in that i had no cycle, and when i did when i was young it was consistent, at least until now. I assumed most people eventually lost them on T, but i could be wrong. Id be curious what your hormone panel would look like.
I unfortunately also cant offer much in the way of talking about effects of stopping hormones, as ive had a very fortunate and positive experience. I regained my sense of emotion w/o being over emotional, my hairline started growing back and my voice has hightened. I do have an inconsistent cycle, but I assume that will fix itself soon. Worst ive dealt with was a little low energy/no sex drive for a few months.
I do however know that most people who stop T report feeling like absolute shit for a while. It just makes sense, Your body is trying to reset itself. Be kind to yourself. At the same time, be mindful of your activity level and what you eat. I dont ever not recommend working out and eating well. I did deal with struggling to want to overeat, which made me feel bad.
Sorry i cannot be more help. ❤️