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- Personal, nuanced reasoning on complex topics.
- Internal consistency in beliefs, while also showing self-reflection (e.g., admitting to "cognitive dissonance" about aesthetic surgery).
- A conversational tone that engages with others' specific situations (e.g., offering advice to someone with OCD).
- A clear, sustained perspective that aligns with known detransitioner/desister viewpoints, including the critique of gender ideology and emphasis on psychological care over medical transition.
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About me
I was a girl who felt completely alienated by my changing body during puberty, and I escaped into online communities that encouraged me to identify as non-binary and then as a transgender man. I started testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, believing it was the only solution to my discomfort. I eventually realized my dysphoria wasn't about being the wrong sex, but was rooted in trauma, internalized homophobia, and my inability to accept myself as a masculine lesbian. I stopped hormones and, through proper therapy, came to understand and address my OCD and low self-esteem. I now deeply regret the permanent changes to my body and believe my pain should have been treated by exploring its root causes, not just affirmed.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with puberty. I hated the development of my breasts and the way my body was changing; it felt alien and wrong. I now believe a lot of this was rooted in a deep discomfort with being sexualized and a rejection of the gender roles I felt were being forced on me. I was also struggling with depression, anxiety, and very low self-esteem, and I used fiction and online communities as a form of escapism to dissociate from my body and the real world.
I started identifying as non-binary, which felt like a way to step outside of the "woman" box that felt so constricting and negative to me. This was heavily influenced by what I saw online. The communities I was in were very close-knit and offered constant validation; any doubt or questioning was subtly discouraged, and it felt like groupthink. There was a lot of pressure to conform to this ideology, and I was afraid to speak up or question anything for fear of being harassed or losing my entire support system.
I eventually came to believe I was a transgender man and started taking testosterone. I got top surgery to remove my breasts. For a while, this did alleviate some of my discomfort. I thought changing my body was the solution. But with time and a lot of reflection, I realized I had been ignoring the root causes of my pain. My dysphoria wasn't a sign I was born in the wrong body; it was a psychological problem resulting from trauma, internalized homophobia, and society's sexist expectations.
I am a homosexual woman. I think my inability to accept myself as a masculine lesbian played a huge part in my transition. I didn't like the stereotypes associated with being a woman, so instead of challenging them, I tried to escape them entirely by becoming a man. In doing that, I was ironically accepting the very sexist ideas I claimed to hate.
I have OCD, and I see now that a lot of my obsessive thinking and need for certainty played into my transition. My constant questioning and seeking reassurance was a compulsion, and the trans communities I was in happily provided that reassurance without encouraging me to address the OCD itself.
I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy that finally helped me address my OCD, my low self-esteem, and the trauma that was underneath everything. I stopped taking testosterone and began to accept myself as a female. I regret my transition. I regret the permanent changes to my body, and I am now infertile. I feel I was sold a lie that I could change my sex, which is biologically impossible. You can alter your body to resemble the opposite sex, but that doesn't change your fundamental reality. I think gender dysphoria should be treated by exploring these root causes, not just affirmed.
I don't think transgender care should be banned, but it desperately needs to be reformed. There needs to be deep, exploratory therapy first. The community itself needs to be more open to the idea that dysphoria can be cured in ways other than transition. When everyone around you is laser-focused on transition as the only answer, it's impossible to get better.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone after realising transition was a mistake. Began therapy for OCD and trauma. |
| 23 | Accepted myself as a female and began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Local_Yard_2099:
You say it’s different from the majority but there’s a lot of pressure on people to believe in (trans)gender ideology and people are afraid to speak up or even question anything in the first place, they’ll be harassed and might lose their support system.
It’s not extreme to admit that humans can’t change sex and that gender identity doesn’t make sense.
I see you mention the following a lot “biological sex doesn’t matter in social settings, gender identity does” but you fail to understand that these two are connected. If you produce a lot of testosterone you get male secondary sex characteristics (beard, deep voice etc.). Testosterone is produced in the testes, something only males have. If you see someone with these characteristics you (subconsciously) assume that they’re males.
This is why people go on HRT and can
Also if your idea of “the majority” is trans subreddits, realise that these communities are not an accurate representation of society, but rather a close-knit group where a lot of groupthink takes place. They endlessly validate each other without any room for doubt or nuance. Personally I would call that extreme.
In my opinion transgender care should not be banned AT ALL, but rather it should be reformed. Therapy to get to the root causes of the dysphoria (trauma, mental illnesses, sexism, internalised homophobia etc.)
I also think the trans community itself should be more open to curing their dysphoria in different ways. When a person is laser focussed on wanting transition and every one around them is as well, therapy won’t help because they’re (subconsciously) not even open to it.
So let me get this straight: you’re a masculine woman that wants to get top surgery to look more masculine, correct? You don’t consider yourself transgender?
Removing healthy organs might not be the best thing to do for purely aesthetic reasons, in my opinion. It’s an erogenous zone and everything in your body is connected, it’s a system + you might decide that you want to have children in the future and you won’t be able to breastfeed. Have you considered a reduction?
Of course any type of plastic surgery is a personal decision, you have bodily autonomy and it’s your choice. Make sure you don’t skip the stories of people who regretted it. Mastectomies are being romanticised by the trans community.
I think trans people deserve the best possible care, but to me that means that gender dysphoria gets treated like a psychological problem (as a result of trauma, personality disorder, homophobia, body dysmorphia, wanting a sense of belonging etc. etc.) instead of a sign that you’re “born in the wrong body”. It’s delusional to sell gruesome surgeries to people by lying about what the results mean (that you’ll change sex even though this is biologically impossible).
I’m also politically progressive and homosexual.
I can see where you’re coming from, but a healthy body is a healthy body and if someone regrets altering it to the point where it isn’t healthy anymore I feel very compassionate towards them. It has nothing to to do with how “pretty” their body used to be to me, unless they are my partner I guess.
I disagree. Critical thinking gets shunned immediately and some questions are never even answered, even when they’re important. TERF and bigot get thrown around a lot instead.
If the community is so rooted in facts and logic, why is it necessary to immediately attack people that criticise it? Surely you wouldn’t feel the need to do so if the critique can be easily proven as false.
This isn’t to say that everyone is like this. I’ve had respectful conversations with trans people as well. We can just agree that we have different opinions and move on.
Can you explain what toxic behaviour you’ve come across on this sub? What exactly is being shunned?
Since you have OCD this post is most likely a compulsion (asking for reassurance). Giving in and acting on your compulsions will not help you in the long run, it’s counterproductive.
It’s good that you’re going to therapy. Make sure you focus on the OCD.
Hormones, gametes and genetalia are the RESULTS of what sex you are. You can change them, sure, but this will always be artificially made and therefore are not results of your sex which, again, still hasn’t changed
Wasn’t gender identity a social construct? How can something that’s socially determined be an innate quality of someone? Society and its beliefs are dynamic and change all the time.