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The user's perspective is highly specific, emotionally charged, and internally consistent over a long period. They express complex, nuanced opinions (e.g., supporting the right to transition while vehemently opposing bottom surgery) and share detailed, personal theories about the causes of gender dysphoria. This depth and consistency are atypical for inauthentic accounts. The passion and anger present are consistent with the genuine experiences of detransitioners and desisters.
About me
I started as a teenage girl who felt deep discomfort with puberty and was influenced online to believe I was trans. I almost medically transitioned to escape my body and society's narrow expectations of women. I realized my feelings came from internalized homophobia and confusion, not from being male. Now, I embrace being a woman who simply likes what she likes, and my dysphoria is gone. I believe you should never have to change your body to be yourself.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started, like for a lot of people, with a deep discomfort during puberty. I hated the changes happening to my body, especially the development of my breasts. I felt like I didn't fit in and was really confused about who I was. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I now see that I was looking for an answer, a clear label to explain why I felt so out of place. I started to believe that maybe I was non-binary, or even a trans man.
A huge part of this was influenced by what I saw online, particularly in certain communities. There was this constant pressure that if you didn't perfectly conform to every stereotype of your birth sex, you must be trans. I liked certain hobbies and had certain styles that didn't fit the narrow box of what a woman was "supposed" to be. Instead of being told I could just be a woman who likes those things, the message I got was that I needed to change my identity. It felt like a scam, to be honest. The same people who insisted gender was a social construct and didn't matter were telling me I needed to medically alter my body to match those same constructs.
I seriously considered taking hormones and getting top surgery. I'm so relieved now that I never did. I came to realize that my feelings weren't about truly being a man. A lot of it was internalized homophobia and a deep confusion between who I was attracted to and who I thought I was supposed to be. I also think there was an element of escapism; the idea of becoming someone completely new was appealing when I was unhappy with myself.
My turning point was when I finally decided to just do what I wanted without asking for permission. I wore the clothes I wanted to wear, did the hobbies I wanted to do, and acted how I wanted to act, without worrying if it was "masculine" or "feminine." I stopped performing. And you know what? My dysphoria basically vanished. I realized I could just be a woman, my own kind of woman, and that was more than enough. There is no such thing as "manhood" or "womanhood," there's just being you.
I have strong opinions on medical transition, based on what I've seen and learned. I fully believe some people are trans and benefit from transition, but the medical system surrounding it is deeply suspicious to me. I think bottom surgery, in particular, is a modern form of eugenics designed to sterilize people, especially queer people. It serves no practical purpose for passing and only causes harm. The push for it, and the push to get young people to transition quickly, feels predatory.
I don’t regret exploring my gender because it led me to a place of greater self-understanding, but I absolutely regret ever buying into the ideology that I needed to change my body to be myself. I benefited immensely from stepping away from affirming-only spaces and thinking critically about the root of my feelings. My thoughts on gender now are simple: your body is your body. Your hobbies, your clothes, your personality—none of that has anything to do with your sex. You don't need to change your body to give yourself permission to live your life.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty. Felt intense discomfort and hated the development of my breasts. |
| 16-19 | Heavily influenced by online communities. Began to identify as non-binary and then as a trans man. Considered taking testosterone and getting top surgery. |
| 20 | Realized my feelings were rooted in internalized homophobia, confusion, and social pressure, not in a true transgender identity. |
| 20 | Began to reject gender ideology. Started doing whatever I wanted without labeling it as masculine or feminine. My dysphoria disappeared. |
| 21 | Fully detransitioned socially. Embraced being a woman who defies stereotypes. |
Top Comments by /u/Lottagain:
And a lot of men, want to be girls... not women...
Both of these have disturbing implications.
Its almost like these people read to many anime porns with problematic aspects to them, and mistook taht for some sort of perpetual sexual euphoria, when in reality its just a deranged non-existent fantasy world.
"SEx and Gender are different and unrelated... now because you like knitting, please change your physical biological sex, to match this idea of a gender, as much as possible"
I... I dont get it... They always talk about how gender is a social construct, but then when you do anything gender non-conforming, they demand you change your sex to match the gender, which they claim doesnt exist.
Its one of the two more annoying progressive communities...
The other one is the Deaf community, who are completely psychotic and hate the idea of people being cured of deafness with an utterly ridiculous passion, to the poitn where many who are cureable refuse to have it fixed.
the Deaf community is close minded, hateful, and gatekeeps their condition... its the most bizarre shit
They need that lie to persist or people wouldnt do it.
And if they didnt, then... well... trans people wouldnt get bottom surgery, and thats bad because...
Thats bad because... ummmm.... trans people not getting bottom surgery is bad because....
Not doing that will keep them able to orgasm, and have children, and also make no difference to any person who is willing to be with them... wait that cant be right.
The main problem here, is that you think that you need to be trans to express yourself.
You seem to imply you want to wear feminine clothes... okay... do that.
You do not need to be trans, you do not need to be a woman, to express your interests and desires on how to live your life. You have been caught in the trap that makes people think they need to be trans.
you are living rigid gender norms, you dont need to be a "normal man" you only need to be the kind of man you want to be...
Explore the hobbies, wear the clothing, say the words you want to say... you dont need anyones goddamn permission. And if someone tells you any of those things mean you are not a man and you must be trans, or are a woman... tell them to fuck off.
One thing... nobody will tell you... bottom surgery... doesnt work, and doesnt really exist.
They make a non-functional minced meat monstrocity, to sterilize you, based on procedures created by eugenists to sterilize people who are mentally ill... Bottom surgery is pure eugenics nonsense designed to trick trans people into accepting forced sterilization.
Hense why they try to convince anyone remotely mentally ill or queer these days that they are trans...
You could be trans, you might be, thats up for you to decide... but do not get bottom surgery under any circumstances. Anyone you fall in love with, is going to know you are trans... and it wont make a difference to someone who is accepting of trans individuals.
The only result of bottom surgery, is you are sterile, and you cant orgasm... it does nothing but make you miserable.
It sounds to me, like you fell for the Gender roles scam. If you dont feel a sense of gender, you probably are just cisgender because most cisgender people dont feel a sense of gender, so its not even Gender Fluid.
And you dont need permission to do all the things you want to do, nor do you need to change your bodies physical outward sex to give yourself permission to be the person you want to be.
If you want muscles, go work out.
(Anyone find it weird that Trans community will insist gender and sex are entirely different, and that gender is more about peoples roles... and also doesnt exist, but then changes the physical appearance of their outward sex to match outdated ideas of which physical sex is supposed to do which things...
Isnt that just conforming to gender roles extremely hard, instead of bucking them, or ignoring them like they are saying they are doing?)
Sterility is the goal... not a side effect. most gender affirming care was intentionally designed by fucking eugenicists to sterilize people they consider mentally ill while placating them.
Make no mistake, that is why they spend time convincing mentally ill people that they are trans, even if their mental illness has nothing to do with dysphoria.
Its just a way that has been found to sterilize people that society considers wrong.
And im not saying being trans is bad, but we have to do better... we have to have better ways for people to transition. and we have to be more accepting of people who dont get bottom surgery for gods sake.
in some ways, the worst one is 'gender non-conforming" because it basically demands anyone who... do anything interesting, be labeled as queer.
If I knit, and am assigned male at birth, I am gender non-conforming... this is biological imperative according to them, and thus I am queer in their eyes.
Bravo, you increased the percentage of queer population, by making definitions of queen individuals that are so broad as to be useless
one thing they never tell any trans people, is that transitioning seems to rarely actually alleviate dysphoria, almost all of my friends who are trans still complain about it.
Its like "girl... you fully look like a woman, you look fantastic, voice and all... and you are still feeling dysphoric, you got scammed"