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About me
I was born male and knew I was attracted to boys from a young age, but I grew up feeling like I wasn't "man enough" because of my body and my interests. I faced a lot of pressure from partners and society to be more feminine, which made me consider transitioning for a while. I realized I didn't have gender dysphoria, but was just deeply uncomfortable with how people treated me for not being a stereotypical man. I never took hormones or had surgery, and my detransition was about learning to accept myself. I am now a happy, confident gay man who has built a life I love.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started long before I ever heard the word 'trans'. I was born male, and from a very young age, I knew I was attracted to other boys. Growing up in a religious household, I learned to hide that part of myself early on.
Puberty was a really difficult and confusing time for me. I developed a condition called gynecomastia, which meant I grew noticeable breast tissue. This, combined with having wider hips and thicker thighs than other boys my age, made me incredibly self-conscious. I was constantly reminded by my peers, coaches, and even family members that I wasn't "man enough." To make it worse, other boys and even adult men would pinch or touch my chest, which was humiliating and made me very uncomfortable with physical touch from anyone I wasn't extremely close to. I later found out a childhood illness I had probably affected my testosterone levels during puberty, which explained why my development was different. But I never actually wanted to be a girl. I didn't like female clothing, toys, or activities. The only thing I envied was how girls could openly have relationships with boys while I had to stay in the closet.
When I started dating men, the pressure to be feminine didn't stop. I constantly encountered men, both openly gay and closeted, who tried to get me to wear wigs, women's clothes, or lingerie. I gave in once for a guy I was seeing and it made me feel physically ill and deeply repulsed. It felt like everyone around me was trying to push me into a box I didn't belong in. For a while, I started to believe that maybe they were right—maybe I wasn't really a man and medical transition was the answer. The idea that I could just be a feminine man didn't seem like an option anyone was offering.
I spent a lot of time online during this period and saw how heavily transition was pushed as the only solution for anyone who didn't fit perfectly into gender stereotypes. I saw the constant debates about "passing" and realized it's a nearly impossible goal for most people. There are always small, subtle tells that someone wasn't born the sex they are presenting as. I saw how people would use manipulative language, calling surgeries "life-saving" when they're really cosmetic procedures for a mental health condition. It started to feel like an industry preying on vulnerable people.
I also saw a lot of internalized homophobia in these spaces. Many of the men transitioning seemed to be uncomfortable with being gay or bisexual and used transition as a way to cling to a "straight" identity. I saw how common it was for people to be influenced by fetishistic partners or online communities into believing they were trans.
Ultimately, I realized I didn't have gender dysphoria; I had a deep discomfort with how society treated me for not being a stereotypical man. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. My detransition was a social and mental process of stopping the search for external validation and learning to accept myself. I worked on building a life I enjoyed: I lift weights, play video games, cook, bake, and spend time with my dogs and friends. I learned that these activities aren't gendered; I just do them as the man that I am.
I don't regret exploring these feelings because it led me to a place of self-acceptance. My main regret is that I ever let other people's opinions and pressures make me doubt who I was. I benefited immensely from stepping away from online trans communities and social media and just focusing on living my life. I am a gay man, and I'm finally comfortable with that.
Age | Event |
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6 | Knew I was attracted to other boys. |
12-14 | Developed gynecomastia and a more feminine physique during puberty. Faced bullying and inappropriate touching. |
18+ | Dated men who frequently pressured me to cross-dress and present femininely. |
Late 20s | Researched transition online but realized it was not for me. Began to detach from online communities. |
30s | Focused on self-acceptance, weightlifting, and building a fulfilling life as a gay man. |
Top Comments by /u/Love_Sausage:
Originally in the early 2010s you were called transphobic if you said you were not attracted to a pre-op trans woman or trans male. Those accusations were rightly ridiculed by the general public who called it out as coercion. The language in recent years softened and switched to speaking negatively about people who have a “genital preference”, but it’s still the same insidious, coercive tactic. It’s completely absurd, self centered and abusive.
Individuals such as this are literally saying it’s okay for a trans person to have a genital preference (I see them on Grindr all the time searching for dick, or “girl dick” MTFs looking for cis lesbians), but non trans people must accept having sex with someone who’s genitals may not align with their sexuality.
I’m so sick of cosmetic procedures being called “life-saving”. It’s manipulative and coercive language. A Mastectomy to stop the spread of malignant breast cancer is life-saving.
Treating a mental illness (gender dysphoria) with cosmetic surgery is medical malpractice by an industry eager to find new sources of revenue off of desperate, vulnerable people.
Hardly anyone actually passes, and the very select few that do underwent an insane amount of surgery that required a lot of money and access to the most skilled plastic surgeons.
The reality is most people will clock a trans person- there’s always something uncanny, and even those who pass the best on first or second looks eventually give away that they don’t match their presented sex due to subtle, natural behaviors that can’t be mimicked by someone who wasn’t born that sex and the conditioning that starts from birth.
Most of us as a species tend to be avoidant when it comes to an uncomfortable truth or potential conflict, and will instead seek to be kind and humor someone while suppressing our doubts. A lot of support given ends up being performative, but is still well intentioned.
It’s not uncommon for people who detransition to hear “I never actually saw you as a man/woman, but I wanted to support you/didnt want to hurt your feelings.” from the people who supported them during their transition.
Decent people will tend to go along with the charade out of fear of harming someone’s emotions, or being singled out as transphobic, terf, etc. and publicly pilloried as a result.
That doesn’t mean that transphobia exist- it absolutely does- but the fear of being called transphobic is so great now among the average person that they’ll ignore what their eyes and ears say, and go along with being a performatively supportive ally instead.
Men more often fetishize and sexualize transition (AGP) compared to women who often transition due to internalized misogyny and sexual trauma. Because of that, men who transition find more fulfillment or “euphoria” since they’re living their fetish 24/7. Men who transition also have a much greater access to social support and dating partners due to non trans men who fetishize MTF.
Passing is a Sisyphean goal sold to the vulnerable as the only way to be happy if they are trans. It’s unattainable because there is always something that will cause non trans people to do a double take and clock a trans person as not being the gender they present as. True happiness and fulfillment is never found because the person looking in the mirror also sees those same things that reveal the truth, locking them on a treadmill of increasingly escalating and invasive procedures with serious complications, to make the illusion believable (HRT, laser hair removal, hair transplants, FFS, voice surgery, implants, collar bone surgeries, mastectomies/orchiectomies, SRS)
That’s why so many online trans people heavily rely on carefully shot selfie angles, filters, etc. in order to give the illusion of passing and gain social media praise and validation. The reality is In person very few actually pass, and the ones that do either spent an insane amount of time and money on procedures or were extremely lucky with the genetic lottery.
The worst part of this time period of gender ideology is that it’s completely distorted what it means to be a man or woman. Men who are physically feminine and women who are physically masculine, or even just men and especially women who are not conventionally attractive are often mistakenly (or even maliciously) labeled as trans by the average person. I can’t tell you how any times I’ve overheard random conversations in public or even people I know (who are very liberal) speculating if a woman with a deep voice, or facial hair from PCOS, or not very conventionally attractive was actually a trans person.
Regular non trans people who simply just trying to live their lives and already faced social difficulties/stigma for their appearance before this current gender ideology nonsense, now have their appearance scrutinized and accomplishments diminished from accusations of being someone masquerading as another gender to gain access to spaces of an opposite sex. A recent example of this being Imane Khelif at the Olympics and the harassment she received.
That’s called the unfalsifiability fallacy. The unfalsifiability fallacy occurs when someone makes a claim that is impossible to prove false.
Falsifiability – the ability to be falsified or proven wrong – is considered a key criterion for deeming a hypothesis scientific.
Why can’t you just be a strong masculine woman? Learn about nutrition and strength training (tons of free info out there), lift weights, bulk up, and develop confidence in your physical being? You don’t even need to be in a gym to achieve that goal- just need to find a routine that fits you and a set of basic weights to start. You don’t sound like you’re afraid of having masculine features, so why not give it a try?
You should still speak to a therapist about the suicidal ideation.
Stop consuming porn and trans content. Disconnect from social media for a few months.
Spend the time disconnected from that stuff on activities that get you out of the house whether it’s walks at the park, working out (a good idea in any situation), volunteering at a pet shelter or other cause, or fun local events.
Ignore them. The word “intersex” has lost all meaning online. A lot of transtrenders self identify under that label for social media clout despite intersex being a real medical condition you are born with (having both sex characteristics when born) and makes up maybe 1.7% of the total population.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy: “You can’t trust doctors to make the correct decision, so you should lie to them to get them to make the decision you want”.
The only problem with that is when nearly everyone lies, it ends up skewing the perception of the problem and how the problem is treated as a result. Now doctors overprescribe and affirm everyone and a profit driven medical system happily goes along with it from a new batch of lifelong patients.
When the medical community finally catches up and realizes the problem with their current treatment model and admit the mistake- people will then go back to saying “you can’t trust doctors to make the right decision”, restarting the cycle of patient lies and manipulation again.