I'm a TERF, its not actually bad. TERF stands for trans-exclusionary radical feminist, they say that because radical feminists don't include males within their feminism. Even though trans men (aka trans identifying females) are very much included. Feminism is about women's (female human beings) liberation from the patriarchy, one of our core stands is that we are oppressed because of our sex. Why would we include males within that liberation? Any male, for that matter.

They just use the word TERF because, once again, they can not handle something not being about them or centering them.

Yeah same. I kinda stopped caring about the gender weirdos or the TQ+ community. "Lesbian" spaces are filled with confused girls who are still attracted to men but are trying to find loopholes around it (like saying its okay to be attracted to fictional or unreachable men. Being attracted to MALE non-binary people is also okay. Having a dildo in a shape of a human penis is apparently also okay).

I am a lesbian, a female homosexual. A man with any gender identity can not be included. I am not into dick.

But apparently I am a "vagina fetishist" cause I don't like penis. The reality is though, that they have no idea what words mean and in their looloo land they just MUST have the higher moral ground than others who are too normal to be a gay person.

Like so many of them are just so annoying. They say I hate trans people, I harass them, and everything under the sun. But never, and I seriously mean never, have I ever purposely seeked a trans person out to harass them. Unlike them who do it as a hobby to me. I have not been active on my Instagram account for months, and suddenly I have another person calling me a TERF and a transphobe. You know how long they would have to search through posts to find me after I haven't been active for months and haven't made any new posts? And then they accuse me of harassing and being obsessed with hating trans women 🤡

Majority of MTF transitions is due to autogynophilia. Very small percent is due to trauma or internalized homophobia.

Majority of FTM is due to trauma, internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia. I mean women are treated like shit all over the world. Thats our reality. Women die from domestic violence every single day. Women get raped every single day. Shit like Amber Heard happens and everyone believed the actual abuser, being Johnny Depp. And not just that, the slander she got was all sexually motivated. That wouldn't have ever been the case with a man. He was literally laughing through the entire trial and people still believed him over Amber even tho she won the domestic abuse trial, the one he won was to shut her up so she wouldn't be able to speak about her abuse anymore. Women are treated like second hand citizens by everyone, including other women.

I know men like to complain and have their own issues, but it simply does not measure up to the type of abuse women face. They are more likely to kill due to sexual motivation, they are more likely to transition due to sexual motivation. It's just facts.

And fact is, there is barley anyone out there who wants to support a sexually deviant man. Especially not women, who are usually the ones who are socialized and expected to give a crap about everyone's problems.

I mean have you seen the way trans widows are treated? (Women who have partners of MTF, and that partner transitions AFTER getting together with the woman). These men can cross so many boundaries and if a woman tries to tell someone and expose their pervert boyfriend or husband, they get told to be sensitive and understanding of their poor poor AGP "girl"friend or "wife". They are expected to keep dating that man and if they don't, they face slander and are told that they didnt truly love their boyfriend/husband and that they are transphobic.

Even here, I avoid commenting on any man's post. They just like to talk about how much worse than woman they get it. And frankly, I just don't want to socialize with an AGP. I was treated like shit by the LGBT+ community, especially the TQ+ community. I've had more than two transwomen try to groom me, and two trans girls IRL stalk, harass, and behave creepily towards me. And that was when I was 10000% supportive and in that cult. That happened when I was in high school and stupid and victimized these men when in reality it was the other way around.

Maybe its hard for MTF to get help because they know they transitioned due to their own fetish. Maybe its because they know they have done bad things while they were still trans identifying and getting help for it would require them to tell the truth of what they did.

MTF forums are FILLED to the BRIM with sexual intent for transition. And they stay in an echo chamber. So not only is it probably harder to choose to detransition for them, it's even less socially acceptable to talk about their reason for detransition and transition. Because predators are not seen as victims in our society.

For me its LGB. The T is all on its own as its a 100% different thing from sexuality. Lesbian, bisexual, and gay are all sexualities that are natural, though typically rare compared to heterosexuality.

Transgender, transsexual? That's mental illness. Its dysmorphia. It has its own issues and needs than gay people. Thats why whenever we speak of LGBT, the T ALWAYS dominates convos. People always side with the T before the L or the G. Thats why there is so much homophobia. Thats how we got "genital preference" and "girl dick".

They should have never been joint togather. Its unrealistic to think we can co-exist in the same movement and community if one of the members continuously push homophobic, and misogynistic, ideals.

As a lesbian, I literally can not exist in the same movement as transgender people. Unless its a transgender man who is sexually attracted to women, which makes her a lesbian.

Like I have so much anxiety around transgender people because of their misogyny and homophobia. Me just existing as a homosexual is seen as offensive to them. I can't talk freely because around them are eggshells. I can't, in good conscious, say that we are in the same movement.

All luck to transsexual individuals who aren't misogynistic or homophobic and are just trying to live their life and blend in. But they are hardly the majority. At least through my lenses.

Non-binary isn't actually a thing. Its a made up tumblr phenomenon.

Ask yourself, what is non-binary. Without using circular definitions or what it is not.

What is agender? A lack of gender? Okay. You are still a woman (female human) or a man (male human). No one "has" a gender just like no one "has" pronouns. Gender and pronouns isn't something you can be in possession of. Its something people apply to you for clarity in language.

When people refer to you as a man or woman, they aren't giving you a gender.

Lemme give you an example.

"That woman is holding a baseball bat."

"That adult female human being is holding a baseball bat"

"That man is wearing a dress"

"That adult male human being is wearing a dress"

Just from looking at someone, you are able to tell their sex thanks to secondary sex characteristics. 99.9% of the time you will be correct. It is a biological part of human beings.

Thats why any non-binary label doesn't work.

"That non-binary is holding a bat"

"That, neither man or woman, is holding a bat"

"That demi-girl is holding a bat"

"That half female child is holding a bat"

"That agender individual is holding a bat"

"That human with no gender is holding a bat"

It says NOTHING about that person. Its a filler word to avoid giving the necessary information. If you were painting a picture of that person and you said "They were a non-binary person with blue hair" they wouldn't be able to draw them. Cause they aren't sure which secondary characteristics that person is likely to have.

That may be a case of dysphoria but you should be reassuring your son that boys can dress and act as girly as they want but they are still boys.

Your son is probably just gender nonconforming.

For now, while your son is still a child, do not allow any medical treatment. There are effects which can permanently harm him.

Also overlook the media he is looking at. Is he on tiktok by any chance? Copying tics, mental illnesses, and ideology is all too common within the youth when someone paints those things as the "right way" to do something or the "victim".

Is he talking or participating in any other 'woke' conversation?

Try to have a conversation with him to see what he thinks and where he is getting information from (if he can't get any reliable source while parroting information, that is a clear sign that someone is feeding him this information). Do not get upset if he says something you don't agree with and don't get hang up on anything, the second you do he might he defensive and shut down.

I think all perspectives are important. I haven't read it but I watched some of the documentary.

I am guessing he has some a lot of right wing views and opinions in that book, bias as everyone in this world is. It's probably has very good points, explanations, ext. I will probably try and read it later (I got my stack of books to get through already 🤣) and I'll say something when I do.

Bruh. I have told some people NOT to detransition if its due to pressure or other outside reasons that have nothing to do with their health.

We are here to relate to and support detransitioners.

They really take anyone who disagrees with them and slander then regardless of their actual beliefs...

Yeah, r/ actual detrans is a reactionary community to this one. Meaning the only reason they made their community is because they wanted an echo chamber that supports their already formed beliefs because they didn't agree with some on here (by some, I mean we allow many opinions and view points but most of them they dislike). They don't actually discuss any experiences or issues that detrans people face, nor do they allow people to discuss that stuff.

From what I saw, they mainly complain about detrans individuals and moan about this server. I bet if I check right now, its the same thing.

Yeah, not at all. Its not safe. No type of synthetic material put into your body is safe. It can mess with a lot more than just bone density.

Not even natural shit put into yourself is safe at all times. You have to be cautious what you put into your body, both through your mouth and other methods.

HRT? That effects even actual/bio women who go through menopause or brain injuries! There is so many side effects, both minor and severe. Imagine injecting that into yourself when your body doesnt need it, or require it, or any of that.

A war vet I know had a brain injury that stopped proper production of testosterone. I don't know the details but he has to take testosterone through a needle. Its not fun. Its a long life commitment and thank god he gets paid for the injuries he got by the government cause he can't work.

Look, these type of things shouldn't be taken when other options are available. Its not a "haha funny" drug that you can stop at any time with no effects. Even if you do stop, its not very reversible, and even less reversible if you aren't able to produce testosterone naturally.

Of course it all depends on other factors as well. Outside ones and inside ones. Factors of your body, and how long you take it, ext. Just like with stretch marks, with some skin they disappear, with others they are forever.

But the end game here, search up every type of side effects and what can go wrong and make a list. Then ask yourself if its actually worth it or if you are able to live through other means.

Many places won't think twice about drugging you up. Many people go on things they shouldn't have gone on because a "professional" told them to. Hell even birth control shouldn't be gone on unless you are actually trying to prevent a pregnancy! Those also fuck with your hormones! Getting rid of pimples and getting bigger breasts isn't as worth it as people think it is, not to mention not everyone's skin clears up.

If your dysphoria is that severe, and no other option works, then yes. Try going on HRT and see if it helps. But you will always need to be on high alert because one on the possible side effects is depression...