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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or inauthentic.
The comments display:
- Specific, consistent personal details about a medical and social transition, detransition timeline, and surgical history.
- Complex, nuanced emotions (e.g., missing strength but being at peace, not regretting yet missing breasts) that are common in detransition narratives.
- A consistent, passionate, and supportive philosophy aimed at encouraging self-acceptance and caution, which aligns with the stated perspectives of many in the community.
The user's passion and strong opinions are not a red flag but are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who has experienced significant harm.
About me
I was a masculine girl who started testosterone at 16 after finding the idea online. I had top surgery at 18 but stopped everything a year later. My body changed permanently, and my mental health was a real struggle for years. I’ve made peace with my new self without further surgeries, finding a natural female strength I'm proud of. My journey taught me that true self-acceptance comes from within, not from medical intervention.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started when I was a teenager. I was born a girl and was always a masculine kid who hated dresses. One sunny Saturday afternoon after school, I watched a video from a YouTuber who introduced me to the concept of being transgender. They named specific feelings that I related to, and it felt like an answer. I became completely infatuated with the idea and begged my parents to let me transition. It was a huge fight, but I eventually got my way and started testosterone when I was just 16 years old.
At first, I had zero doubts. I was so certain this was what I needed. I started with shots in my stomach and my thigh. I wasn't consistent with it, and toward the end, I switched to the gel. When I was 18, I got top surgery. I was even on track to get a hysterectomy. All of this happened because of an idea I found online.
The physical changes from testosterone were significant. My voice dropped permanently into a low contralto range; I used to sing soprano, and now people mistake me for a man on the phone. I grew some facial hair that I still have to shave every five days or so. The hair on my body, like my legs and stomach, became much darker and coarser and hasn't really gone away. After I had my mastectomy, a tiny bit of breast tissue grew back.
When I stopped testosterone around age 19, my body changed again. My periods came back, but they were completely different—extremely heavy, lasting over a week, and super irregular. I once went five months without one. My mental health has been a real struggle for the past five years, through the entire transition and detransition. I've dealt with deep depression, anxiety, self-loathing, and body dysmorphia. My period would always make these negative feelings even worse.
I stopped everything cold turkey. I didn't have money for any detransition surgeries or health insurance to see a doctor. I’m now 22, about four years off testosterone. I don’t regret my transition, but it’s complicated. I miss my breasts; it’s equally freeing and disappointing. I also miss the physical strength I had on testosterone. I could climb a vertical metal pole with no problem, and I lost all that strength when I stopped. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week now to try and get it back, but it's a different kind of strength now—a natural, pure female strength that I’ve learned to be proud of.
I’ve had to make peace with my new body. I wouldn't get reconstruction surgery because I believe it's possible to love yourself just the way you are. You don't need surgeries or medical interventions to find peace. The whole experience taught me that the core issue isn't with your body, but with your soul. You were born the way you are for a reason. I think transgender people are real, but the way it's portrayed online is romanticized and takes away from that deeper need for self-discovery. If you're absolutely certain you need medical intervention to be yourself, especially when you're young, it might be an infatuation, not a true need. Your brain isn't even fully developed until you're older. My advice to anyone questioning is to be patient, heal from any trauma first, and don't make any huge decisions when you're in a state of turmoil. Good things come to those who wait.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started testosterone (HRT) after being influenced by online content. |
| 18 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 19 | Stopped testosterone cold turkey and began detransition. |
| 22 (Now) | Living as a detransitioned female, at peace with my changed body. |
Top Comments by /u/Lusin3577:
I had zero doubts. I was nineteen. But since then, I’ve detransitioned. If I had to give you advice, I’m not sure if I would be able to give you a straight answer. I do not regret it, yet I still miss my breasts. It’s equally as freeing as it is disappointing. I’ve had to make peace with my new body and I wouldn’t get reconstruction surgery because of this fact. It is possible to love yourself just the way you are. You do not need any surgeries or medical interventions of any kind to be at peace with yourself. Perhaps give it some time. Good things come to those who wait.
You are absolutely welcome here!
Let me tell you what a REAL transgender facade looks like: I was born a girl. I was very masculine as a child, and I always hated dresses. After a YouTuber online introduced me to the concept, and named these specific things that I related to, I begged my parents to let me transition. Long story short, it took my blood, sweat and tears to get my way and go through HRT when I was just 16 years old. I got top surgery when I was 18. I was on track to get my uterus removed. All this because I watched a video online on a sunny Saturday afternoon after school.
Let me be completely honest with you. I believe that transgender people exist, just not in the way that media portrays them. It’s romanticized and it’s been taken away from the core issue. The core issue is WITH your core. Your soul. You were born this way for a reason. Either way, hormones or not, you should absolutely seek self-discovery on the deepest levels.
My opinion is that:
The brain does not develop until the age of 26 (eyeroll, I know. I’ve heard it plenty of times during my transition lol). With this said, if you are absolutely certain that this is what you want, and you believe that you absolutely need HRT and surgeries to be yourself, then it’s probably not what you need, but what you want. It is an infatuation.
The truth is that:
Nobody can force you to do it or not. You do what you feel is best for you. I wish you the best in your beautiful journey.
You said you have OCD and you just got out of a relationship. This is the reason that you are not happy, because you’ve found a new idea (gender dysphoria) and it’s a perfect way to make a major change in your life after a traumatic event.
To put it quite simply, a breakup does exactly what the name suggests. Not only are you now single, but your body, mind, and spirit begin to transform from the stress. You are currently in a state of transition, all gender ideology aside.
I will give you advice and support:
My advice is to not make any super decisions at this time. Get a therapist of some sort. You are certainly not alone in this, and since your life has been usurped so suddenly, it will not be wise. You must heal first and foremost, and it is imperative that you must be patient.
My support:
I believe transgender people are real, but it is heavily romanticized. If it causes you this much distress to the point you want to die, it isn’t healthy. Your life is worth the world. You belong here, whatever way that you are. You were born here for a reason, and it is a blessing to have you on this planet.
4 1/2 years off of testosterone. I miss the strength I had, and the thick eyebrows. I could climb a vertical metal pole with no problem. That’s crazy hard to do. When I stopped testosterone, I lost all that strength. I don’t have gender envy anymore; I used to all the time. If anything, I’m working on getting that strength back. I hit the gym 3-4 times a week but I’m not quite as tough as I was before. I’m at peace with my changed body, however. It’s natural and it’s pure female strength. That’s perfect for me. I’m very proud of my body and who I am.
I’m three years (going on four) off of t. I am 22.
I’ll do a rundown of my experience.
Physical Changes:
My voice is permanently low, a lot of people mistake me for a man over the phone. For reference, I am now in a contralto range (G#2-E5). Used to sing soprano notes. My facial hair is barely visible, but I still have to shave it every five days or so. The hair downstairs does not go away. Happy trail, everything in between, still harsh. My leg hair is significantly darker, but has lightened up over the years. I had a mastectomy as well, but a teensy bit of breast tissue has formed back. When my periods came back, they were completely different than before; they were extremely heavy, lasted for a week or more, and were super irregular. I once went five months not having a period.
Mental Health:
The past five years (the full duration of my transition, detransition, thereafter, and now) have been a cesspool of mental turmoil to say the least. Depression, self-loathing, body dysmorphia, anxiety, things of that nature. My period directly affected my mental health and amplified the already negative emotions that I had.
Important to mention:
-I did not have the money for any sort of detransitioning surgeries. Everything was cold turkey for me. -I did not go to the doctor at all for this because I didn’t have any health insurance. -I did not take the testosterone consistently, and I used the gel toward the end. At first it was the shots in my stomach and my thigh.
Advice:
Get sleep. Drink PLENTY of water. Look at the bright side. You have everything you need to be content already in your own mind. Lord knows I had to make peace with my new body; and if I could do it, so can you. From what you’ve said, that may be your only option.
Best wishes and good health to you.