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The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and personal perspective on gender non-conformity, body image, and the challenges of being a masculine woman. The user shares specific, relatable struggles like perfectionism and social anxiety. The language is natural, with emotional inflection and self-reflection that is difficult to automate. The user identifies as someone who "never physically transitioned," which aligns with the definition of a desister.
About me
I'm a masculine woman who spent years thinking I was a trans man because I couldn't see a place for myself as I was. My confusion stemmed from hating my body during puberty and never seeing masculine women like me loved or considered attractive. Discovering online spaces where straight men genuinely appreciated masculine women was a huge turning point. I realized I didn't need to change my body to be myself, just my perspective. Now, I'm learning to be comfortable just being me, a masculine woman, without regretting the journey it took to get here.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender was really confusing, and looking back, I think a lot of it was because I couldn't see a place for myself as a masculine woman. I never physically transitioned, but I spent a long time thinking I was a trans man, or at least non-binary, because the idea of being a gay dude felt like the only way I could be accepted for being masculine.
I struggled a lot with my body during puberty, especially with hating my breasts. I just wanted to be flat-chested. I also have pretty severe perfectionism and anxiety, which made everything harder and kept me stuck, unable to make decisions about my life, like finding new clothes or even being productive. I think my low self-esteem played a big part in all of this. I never felt like I was enough as I was.
A huge part of my confusion came from not seeing any representation of women who looked and acted like me being loved or considered attractive. I never thought I could have the kind of relationship I wanted—where I could be the masculine one—without being a man. I stumbled upon online spaces like r/RoleReversal, and seeing some enthusiastic appreciation from straight men for masculine women was a real turning point for me. It was encouraging to realize that there are men out there who would love someone who looks and acts the way I want to, even in bed. It made me see that my desires weren't weird or impossible.
I started to notice that people are often really bad at correctly identifying the sex of masculine women. They rely on stereotypes like long hair, makeup, and breasts. Without those obvious signs, they get confused. I realized that my face and body, even without hormones or surgery, are actually quite similar to many women I've seen; they just usually present in a more "normie" feminine way. This helped me understand that I could be a masculine woman without having to change my body. I'm still figuring out how masculine I can dress and cut my hair before people start pestering me about it, but I'm learning to not care as much.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to a better understanding of myself. But I am glad I didn't medically transition. I think if I had seen more positive examples of butch women or masculine women in happy relationships with straight or bi men, I might have avoided a lot of confusion. My journey was mostly social and internal, and it was heavily influenced by what I saw—and didn't see—online. Now, I'm much more comfortable with the idea of just being me, a woman who is masculine.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around Puberty | Started hating my breasts and feeling uncomfortable with my body during puberty. |
| Late Teens | Began identifying as non-binary/trans male online and in my social circles. |
| Early 20s | Discovered online communities like r/RoleReversal, which showed me that masculine women are appreciated. |
| Early 20s | Realized I could be a masculine woman without medical transition; began socially detransitioning. |
| Now (Early 20s) | Working on overcoming perfectionism and anxiety, and becoming more comfortable as a masculine woman. |
Top Comments by /u/Lykantier:
My first thought was "masc woman" before I've even read your description, although admittedly IRL the very flat chest would've confused me for a minute and if you sound male I would've been confused even further.
Your chin is short and to me you look chubby/doughy(?) in a female way rather than a male way, which is like me and I never physically transitioned.
Tbh I've noticed that people can be pretty bad at telling the sex of masc women correctly? It's like they don't notice the more subtle differences and rely on stereotypes like "boobs makeup hair skirt".
I guess I might just be overconfident about my "gendering" skills but still, I feel like I've seen dozens of women with something similar to your face/body before, they were just the "normie" feminine kind.
Even though there's almost no rep it is possible to have whatever kind of relationship you want.
Yeah thankfully I'm aware of it now, it's just that
I never thought I could achieve it without being a gay dude
You know what I mean? The rep would've helped with that.
Man, if I ever get over my crippling perfectionism I will paint and write so much rep.
Yes and the lack of representation of men who are interested in masculine women.
Honestly seeing some enthusiastic straight appreciation of masc women on that sub (r/RoleReversal) was quite encouraging, now I know that there are some men out there who would likely love the shit out what I want to look and act like even in bed 😄
It’s tough being a masculine woman and there are many days where I dress moderately feminine just to avoid harassment.
I still wonder how masc of an outfit and haircut I can get (I can't afford much) before people start pestering me about it, the only ones I can imagine doing that in my area right now are overbearing acquaintances and (very rare) grossly horny strangers and I already low-key scared the former into leaving me be lol.
I kinda hope that there are more (straight and bi) men who love tomboys than media gives the impression of.
The thing I've noticed is that guys in general love "tomboys", but by "tomboys" they often mean mostly gender-conforming girls that have, like, a boy hobby and a rough personality, maybe some short hair and neutral clothing. It's kind of like the female equivalent of a metrosexual or maybe a twink, which aren't super GNC either.
"Butch" is unambiguously masculine and I did see guys on r/RoleReversal appreciate butches, so it's a shame that it's still so strongly equated with lesbianism.
I have some really hard-to-control perfectionism so I'm stuck spending my days not really getting anywhere when it comes to like, writing, painting, finding new clothes, productivity in general. I hope that once I recover from my deficiencies my brain will get easier to manage because this suuucks.