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About me
I started my journey as a young girl who hated myself and thought being loved by others was the answer. I believed transition was a cure-all, but it was pushed on me for problems that were really about low self-esteem and external pressure. I now see that no child can understand the lifelong consequences of such a permanent decision. I avoided medical procedures, and I've found real happiness by building an identity around my hobbies and skills, not my gender. My most important realization is that you must learn to love yourself first, because you are so much more than a label.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is deeply personal and came from a place of not loving myself. For years, I hated who I was and I thought finding love from other people would be the answer to my happiness. I believed that if someone loved me, that would be enough. But I’ve come to understand that your loved ones won't always be there; friends can drift away, and family members pass on. If you don't have love for yourself to fall back on, you can end up in a very lonely and sad place.
A lot of my thinking about transition is tied to age and maturity. I feel very strongly that children should not be allowed to medically transition. Hearing about kids transitioning makes me shudder because I remember how stupid and unaware of the world I was at 16. No child can possibly know all the reasons why they want to transition or understand the lifelong consequences. A young girl might think she’d be happier as a boy, but she can’t know that for sure. Their minds change so much over just a few years, let alone decades.
I’m not saying we should ban all youth from ever taking hormone blockers. My point is that we need to sit down and carefully evaluate all options before jumping headfirst into a life-changing solution like transition. The risk is that if a young person is wrong, they are permanently stuck in a body they don't want. An adult can always choose to transition later, but you can't take it back once it's done to a child. There have been cases of post-transition suicides, which is a risk if someone goes through it without a correct, balanced mindset.
I saw transition being pushed as a solution for everything, almost like a cult or an all-cure. But it’s not for everyone. For many people, their problem wasn't actually being unhappy with their body. Their problems were other people telling them there was something wrong with them—that they were weak for being female or that they might as well be a girl if they couldn't do certain things. What they really needed was someone to talk to and protection from those harmful ideas, not transition. I needed to learn to identify myself by more than just my gender. Forging a unique personality based on my hobbies, expertise, and experiences has been much more beneficial for my mental health.
Looking back, I don't regret my journey because it led me to these realizations. My thoughts on gender now are that it's not the most important thing about a person. You are more than a label. The focus should be on solving underlying issues like low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety through counseling, therapy, or finding a personal philosophy before ever considering physical changes. I didn't have any surgeries or take hormones, so I avoided serious health complications or infertility, but I see how that path could have been a mistake for me. My discomfort was more about internal struggles and external pressures than truly being in the wrong body.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Felt immense self-hatred and was very unaware of the world; this is the age that solidified my belief that children cannot consent to transition. |
| (No specific age given) | Spent years seeking happiness through the love of others instead of loving myself. |
| (No specific age given) | Realized that transition was often pushed as a solution for problems that were actually about internalized shame and external pressure, not body dysmorphia. |
| (No specific age given) | Came to understand that building a unique identity based on my own skills and hobbies was the key to better mental health, not changing my gender. |
Top Comments by /u/MG_Hunter88:
I know this is going to get a lot of flak, but:
Children shouldn't be allowed to go through transition EVER.
(Or more accurately: as long as they remain children)
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Just hearing thinking about how stupid and unaware of the world I was at 16 makes me shudder...
To claim that a child of age lower than the first legal (15 y/o) can possibly know all the WHYs and all the consequences is traight up irresponsible from any adult that allows it.
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Yes, your little girl may think that she would be happier as a boy. But she cannot know it.
No child can know where their mind will be in a couple of years, let alone possible decades.
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Thank you for sharing your story, and excuse the rant. It wasn't focused towards you.
Your story merely made me remember other stories like it, and therefore I felt motivated to write this out.
Not as a guide, or an ultimatum. But as a statemant of opinion that I hope may enrich someone reading this.
Let's start with the little things:
Know your own name ? Use it.
When talking about yourself to another person, don't go over the top. Your name is the only thing they need to know. Let them divine the rest by being in contact with you. Tell them a story about your expiriences if they ask.
I know learning to identify oneself by something different than the big:
"I am a [insert {gender, race, religion} here]"
Is a hard work, but forging your personality to be unique is often very beneficial to your own mental health. (It also builds character, at least in sight of other people.)
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On the more proffesional spectrum:
Try looking in to your own hobbies(is that how you spell it?) and likes. Share what your experties are, or what you'd like them to be one day.
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Anyway I hope you have a wonderful day. Good luck to you.
About the "Transgender is an agenda" part:
I do understand you are venting, but once cool try to read this.
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I do understand it may seem as an agenda but I do believe reffering to it as a
"post-modernidt cult as well as a solution to medical problem to some people"
may be more beneficial to your mental health.
It is true that it is often pushed uupon people theese days as many almost fanatical idiots among us see it as the ONLY good choice and may sometimes try to push it as the "ALL-CURE" they see it as.
However theese same people are often praying on people whom the procedure might have helped.
Sure it is not a perfect solution, and before ever commiting to any physical changes one should always try to solve their issues in a less invasive way. Be it through counseling, therapy, or seeking a personal phylosophi. However sometimes the actual change process can lead to a happy healthy life.
So please try to see the bigger picture. The procedure within of itself is not something "unethical" and "to be never done", but it is not for everyone. A lot of people who jump at the chancw of this transition often don't need it.
For instance, there have been multiple posts on this sub alone. Of people sharing their stories, how they saw the Transition proccess as a way OUT OF their problems, but their problems weren't being unhappy with their body. But more often then not their problem were OTHER PEOPLE telling them that their is something wrong. That they "are weak because they are female" or "that they might as well be a girl, if they can't do this and that"...
The transition was often not the solution. What theese people needed was somebody to talk about theese things with. And to protect them should they need it.
Anyway, I hope I didn't lose you there. Have a good day and try to cheer up. After all this is the only life you have, why waste it :)
First of all, that you (in the US) don't have proper driving laws doesn't have to do anything with this. (That's your issue, same with not having public health care and being able to buy a firearm without any license or having no life-oriented work ethic.)
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Second of all, altho I do understand your sentiment (since the expiriences you mention). I don't think you are making a valid point. There is a very big difference between solving ones health (be it mental or chemical) issue and being sold a weapon (or a car, I hear you people in the US tend to forget the difference from time to time).
In this case we are talking about a young (most-likely) unwise person that has a lot to learn yet.
I merely propose to try and evaluate ALL options available before jumping HEADFIRST in to a life-changing solution such as transition.
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I AM NOT SAYING: "Ban all youths from ever taking hormone blockers ever."
I AM SAYING: "Let's sit down and look through all the options. Don't jump to the mainstream solution"
I hope you don't intend to outright deny that there have been cases of post transition suicides. (One of the possible risks of transitioning a person with not a correct BALANCED MINDSET.)
I think we all want innocents (read kids) to be happy, one requirement of a happy life is being as healthy as possible.
So as you have yourself mentioned yes a person who ends up happy after transition would probably want to have went through it as early as possible. But PLEASE IMAGINE that the person is wrong at the time. What if they think it is what they need. So they want it. They get it, and the reason which sparked the intent to transition gets resolved externaly.
Now you have a young (pbbly 20 y/o), who has undergon the process. And is now PERMANENTLY stuck in a body they don't want to be in.
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Adults always have an option to transition (no matter how difficult it may be, we are talking about an adutl after all...).
But once a kid, after they reach legal age goes through it. And then realize they made a mistake. There is never going to be a GOOD ENOUGH of a way back for them.
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So yes, this is hurting Trans Teenagers. It is hurting them in a way that would see them not exist at all.
Now that you repeat the phrase word by word.
I think I know what part of it is wrong.
It shoud be something along the lines of:
"Before you can find your place in the world (and thus it's people), you first must learn to love at least some aspect of yourself".
Also I would like to point out that I too am a person that has spent years (in my case hating) not loving myself and sought happines in love of those that I loved myself.
I thought that I could allways be happy knowing there is someone in the world that means something to me and loves me. (But today I see that, your loved ones (especialy your elders) will not allways be there for you, you may loose contact, or some of them may pass, in case of friends they may loose interest in you, children will begin their own families and so on...
And when that time comes, if you can't love yourself. Nobody will. And you will be lonely and sad.
Of course a reasonable man will admit that no lonelines lasts forever, even if you find yourself alone one day,
a day will come when you will meet new dear people. And you will have someone to love you again. This is true, but how do you hope to not "lose hope" before that happens without loving yourself, and being the one to remind yourself that "It will be better. You will find someone new." ?
Anyway, I hope I didn't bring you down by writing this. As mentioned above it is important to mature emotionaly, a find the will and understanding neede to be happy in life. To cherrish that which you HAVE and that which you will GAIN.
Edit: some grammar