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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's perspective is consistent and nuanced. They identify as a desister (someone who stopped before medical transition) and discuss complex motivations like internalized misogyny and trauma, which aligns with known detransitioner experiences. The emotional tone—anger, pain, self-doubt—is genuine and fits someone dealing with gender dysphoria and detransition regret.
About me
I started questioning being a woman at 13 after seeing hateful feminist content online that made me feel like being female was something to escape. I was groomed by an online trans community that convinced me my discomfort meant I was a man, which fueled my internalized misogyny. I never took hormones, and with my partner's support, I realized transitioning medically would have been a terrible mistake for me. I now understand my dysphoria comes from autogynephilia and that internalized hatred, not from truly being male. I'm learning to live as a woman and manage these feelings by focusing on my mental health and self-image.
My detransition story
My journey started when I was 13. I was born female and began questioning my gender around that time. I was also learning about feminism and the difficult rights for women in my country, which made me feel conflicted. On Instagram, I encountered a group of radical feminists who were very hateful towards men. Seeing that, and already feeling confused, made me start to hate the idea of being a woman. It felt like being part of a hated group. That feeling stuck with me for years and made me want to escape being a woman entirely.
By the time I was 16, I was deep into those online spaces. I now see that I was groomed by people in the trans community online. They made me feel like my discomfort was because I wasn't really a woman and that transitioning was the answer. I felt like an abuse toy for them, just something for them to project onto. I developed a lot of internalized misogyny; I hated what being a woman seemed to represent because of these toxic voices.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I desisted before I got to that point. I am so grateful for that now, but at the time, it made me feel like my experience wasn't as important as people who had medically transitioned. My gender dysphoria was real and it still bothers me sometimes. I’ve come to understand that for me, it wasn’t about truly being a man. I now believe I am a woman with autogynephilia (AAP) and that my feelings were fueled by internalized misogyny and a desire to escape the difficulties that came with being female.
I don't regret transitioning socially because it helped me eventually figure all of this out, but I deeply regret ever getting involved with that online community. I believe transitioning medically would have been the biggest mistake of my life. It doesn't solve the underlying mental health issues; it just makes you a lifelong medical patient and can mutilate your body. I'm trying to move forward by ignoring the dysphoria when it comes up and keeping myself busy with other things.
Looking back, I see how my low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression made me vulnerable. I was influenced online to believe that changing my gender was the solution, when what I really needed was to work on my own self-image and heal from the internalized hate I felt. Critical thinking and the support of my partner were what finally helped me break free from that mindset.
| Age | Date (if known) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13 | Started questioning my gender identity. Felt influenced by online radical feminist spaces and began to hate being a woman. | |
| 16 | My partner helped me overcome the internalized misogyny and hate that had built up. I desisted from social transition before taking any hormones. | |
| Now | Living as a woman. Managing occasional gender dysphoria by understanding it as autogynephilia (AAP) and internalized misogyny, not a need to transition. |
Top Comments by /u/MagpieEatsCookie:
Because they are so deep into the cult that they struggle to admit that they are stuck in the mud.
Let those bullies burn in the hell that they have created for themselves when they realize. That person who said that to you is a narcissist, period.
I do know that I am harsh but I fail to be empathic for those trans narcissists who groomed me into this shit and turned me into an abuse toy.
Transitioning will not turn you into the gender (sex in this context) that you want to be. You will end up being a life time medical patient and mutilate yourself if you keep going.
It is not worth it, do not mess up your body, hormone balances etc due to mental health reasons.
Depends, there are people who fake being happy due to how miserable how they have become. Some still have their head in delusions despite seeing their health decline due to transitioning etc.
There is a high chance that you will end up regreting these, why take the risk when you could preveng it?
You have never been a woman in order to want turn into a guy again. You are male, you are a man as you always have been.
Give yourself some time to recover again. I do not know whether you went through gender affirming surgeries or not so the time to recover will vary. But you can do it.
It will
I am a woman but I get where you are coming from, I did have internalized misogyny and wanted to escape being a woman because of the bad image that the sexist women and some of the radfems gave me about being a woman.
You need therapy OP, you do clearly have developed internalized misandry because of trauma, transitioning or mourning to be a woman will not solve your problem, but even make it worse.
I do recommend "Shape Shifter" on Youtube, he has gone through srs and he detransitioned, and listening to the stories of other detrans men who transitioned due to the same reason as yours.
Just because it makes a good money does not mean you should do it, sex "work" makes us seem like a sex toy who has a price which we are not, let alone the STDs and other harms that would cause to the do'er.
You are encouraging OP into doing this shit, do you realize how harmful it actually is? Most of the sexworkers do not do it with joy, they only do it for the sake of earning quick money. And you do not know the OP's intentions.
And nobody is shaming OP for it, we only want her to get a better job which won't end up harming her physically and mentally.
Gotta tell you that since some of people here have recently desisted/detransitioned still hold some of the beliefs. Even I did but a touch of critical thinking brought me out of this. And you are right, calling someone a troll over this is definitelly too much.
To keep it honest, back to my 13yo when I was discovering about my identity, things like feminism and realizing about the woman rights in where I live (Iran), I also faced a crowd of "radical feminists" which were proudly misandrists on Instagram and so were the followers, they did shit on anyone who did not agree 100% and since I already questioned my gender identity that time, that was enough for me to hate being a woman which seemed like the hateful sex to me. It stuck with until I was 16 which, no longer did thanks to my partner.
I try not to think about it, really.
I desisted before taking hormones and that is enough to make me feel that I am less important due to not relating to the detransitioners.
I am too self aware to transition at this point but GD fucks with me so I decided to ignore it and keep myself busy. I am not a man, I am an AAP with internalized misogyny.