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There are no serious red flags suggesting inauthenticity. The user expresses complex, nuanced, and often emotionally charged opinions that are consistent with a passionate desister or detransitioner. The writing style is consistent, personal, and engages with the topic from multiple angles (personal experience, political theory, biological reductionism), which is not typical of a simple bot or troll script. The long gap in posting history (2019 to 2023) is unusual but not definitive proof of a fake account; it could indicate a period of inactivity.
About me
My journey started when I spent years online deeply involved in transgender communities, identifying as a pre-transition male-to-female person. I eventually reached a point of uncertainty and realized transitioning wasn't the right path for me. A crucial shift happened when I started focusing on art and philosophy to find meaning beyond gender. I found a style I love by embracing androgynous fashion, which lets me like what I see in the mirror without needing to be female. I now live peacefully as a masculine female, and I'm glad I found my answer by looking outside of gender altogether.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been confusing, and looking back, I see now that a lot of my feelings were mixed up with other issues. I never fully transitioned medically, but I spent a long time thinking of myself as a pre-transition male-to-female person. I spent years in online communities, deeply involved in the language and ideas around transgenderism.
My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I used to believe in a strict biological view, that the imperative for all life is to reproduce, and that male and female mating strategies are fundamental. I saw people who identified as non-binary as being in a kind of "hormonal limbo," unable to fit into male or female roles, and therefore creating a new category for themselves. I even theorized that some people use the "non-binary" label as a way to gain protected legal status without going through the physical effort of transitioning. I now think that declaring yourself a masculine female or a feminine male is enough; you don't need a special label.
I started from a point of questioning and eventually realized that transitioning wasn't the right path for me. I remember telling someone else that if they were in a "wishy washy state," they should detransition and present as a butch girl instead of making permanent surgical changes. I advised them not to blame themselves, because feelings can go back and forth, and to use their experience as insight. I understood that feeling completely because I was in that same uncertain place. I believed then, and still do, that it's better to learn from the experience than to see it as a total mistake.
A big part of my change in perspective came from focusing on other things besides gender. I started to put my energy into art and philosophy, asking myself why I'm even alive and what gets me up in the morning. This shift was crucial for me. I also found a style that worked for me by looking at androgynous fashion, like certain Japanese guitarists. That helped me get to a point where I could like what I saw in the mirror without needing to be female.
I don't regret exploring transition because it led me to where I am now, but I am glad I never took hormones or had surgery. My main regret is the amount of time and mental energy I spent focused on gender when I could have been building a life. I benefited from stepping away from gender-focused communities and instead focusing on creating things and understanding myself on a deeper level. For me, the answer wasn't in changing my body to fit an identity, but in finding meaning outside of the male/female dichotomy altogether.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my comments:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Pre-2019 (exact age unknown) | Began identifying as a pre-transition MTF and became involved in online trans communities. |
| 2019 (exact age unknown) | Reached a point of uncertainty, advising others to detransition and avoid surgery, reflecting my own conflicted state. |
| 2023 (exact age unknown) | Shifted focus to art and philosophy as a way to find meaning beyond gender. Began embracing an androgynous personal style. |
| Present (exact age unknown) | No longer identify as trans. I live as a masculine female and have found peace by not defining myself by gender. |
Top Comments by /u/MangoArmpits:
>what is the science behind being non binary and how is it different from being gender non conforming or androgynous?
I don't think there is one. I usually answer these questions with biochemical/neurocheimcal reductionism.
>please don’t get me wrong, my question is not coming out of bigotry or -phobia but solely out of willingness to understand.
We're all bigots waiting to be sued.
>if the science behind being trans is experiencing gender dysphoria which has been documented as a mental condition for a while, what would be a similar explanation for non binary?
I theorize it's being in a kind of hormonal limbo state. IME those who struggle fitting either gender stereotype choose to express themselves as "non binary".
My second theory, its it's just yet another abuse of "protected class" legality in Western countries.
>also i see a lot of people identifying as non binary that say that they do not fit into the stereotypes of male and female, but idk I feel like this is pretty common and you don’t have to identify as anything to be this way. also most people have both masculine and feminine traits.
I agree too.
>some also say they feel neither like a man nor a woman but honestly I don’t feel like anything either, but I don’t think I am non binary.
If it walks like bullshit, if it talks like bullshit... it probably is.
>I have asked one person I know that uses they/them pronouns about this but they couldn’t answer.
Sorry you had to run into someone like that. Probably not worth your time to talk to such people.
>again, please don’t hate me, I am just trying to understand, maybe I am missing something.
I don't even hate NBs. I arguably classify as one myself. I just hate adult children who want Ermac's pronouns and want to steal my money through the tax system.
Focus on aspects of life aside from simply being male or female.
Chiefly, art, and philosophy regarding why you're even alive and get up in the morning.
Keep indulging in the androgynous Japanese guitarist look regarding fashion.
Doing this, you won't be female, but youre a step closer to liking what you see in the mirror.
Different men want different things.
So long as you have a vagina and some female secondary sex characteristics, maintain good hygiene, not be obese, you'll have straight men knocking on your door. Anything more-- i.e. skills, athletic body, interesting character/style/ideas, is a plus.
What's more important, is what you want out of these men, and what you'll offer aside from your physical presence.
The bar is pretty low right now for cis women right now and unless you're still rocking a 6" beard and sound like Thor you'll probably get what you're after.
All else I'd suggest is stop hiding from what you want. If you see a guy you like, ask him out. You'll be floored how much he'll appreciate it, if he's into you.
Really interested to hear from you because I'm coming from the exact opposite end (het AMAB questioning identity).
Addendum: The terms "left" and "right" started in the French revolution:
" The terms "left" and "right" appeared during the French Revolution of 1789 when members of the National Assembly divided into supporters of the king to the president's right and supporters of the revolution to his left.[7][8] One deputy, the Baron de Gauville, explained: "We began to recognize each other: those who were loyal to religion and the king took up positions to the right of the chair so as to avoid the shouts, oaths, and indecencies that enjoyed free rein in the opposing camp".[9][10] "
source: Wikipedia
TLDR: Right = status quo. Left = rebellion against it.
If you're in US/Western europe, it's hard to say what "left" and "right" even are right now.
The "right" as likely referenced here means defenders of the status quo from 1980/1990, culturally speaking.
The "left" are the group actively competing to push the boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not (overton window) towards more welfare, and an even more competitive race to the bottom on who can be the most pathetic victim in the room.
So right now, I argue, the "left" is the status quo now, and the "right" is the subtle, whimpering, flaccid push against it. Thus the tables have turned.
I think the "left-right" model is outdated but I've typed enough for you cretins to read for now.
I think the best move to make in this situation is to detransition and present as a butch girl. Your bone and larynx growth will probably be irreversible without surgery. Don't make any surgical moves. You're clearly in a wishy washy state in regards to your identity, and you'll have regrets either way.
Try not to blame yourself too much; our feelings go back and forth, and I understand 100% how that feels as a pre-transition MTF since I'm in that situation right now. Instead of kicking yourself over what seems to be a big mistake, learn from it and use it as insight to bring to public discussion when transgenderism comes to the table.
It's good that you've come to the conclusion that you have GD and choose to detrans instead of killing yourself. But in order for you to keep moving, you need to take the punches life threw at you.
Imperative of all life on earth is to eat, grow, reproduce, maintain homeostasis.
Humans, a sexually reproducing species, obviously must find mates to reproduce.
Sexual reproduction requires strategy.
Male mating strategy is effective for males; female strategy, you get it.
People who are homronally sort of between the two, tend to develop secondary sex characteristics uncharacteristic of their sex.
Transitioning is a big risk/bodily/monetary investment that these lovely people aren't willing to take.
Therefore, these people are losers at the reproduction game because they cannot fit into male or female archetypes well.
As an expression of their disappointment, losers blame the game and start making their own and that's how this third gender is synthesized.
Simply declaring oneself as a feminine male or masculine female is not special enough. So in order to get people to shut up, stop mocking them, fear them, they must appeal to protected class laws (i.e. Title VII in the us ) by declaring themselves as "transgender" without actually putting forth the effort to transition.