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About me
I was a teenager when I started feeling deeply uncomfortable with my female body and thought I was supposed to be male. I began taking testosterone, but it only created new problems and made me feel more disconnected from myself. I now realize my pain was rooted in mental health struggles and internalized homophobia, not in being born the wrong sex. I stopped hormones and have accepted myself as a woman, a journey that was difficult but honest. I regret not addressing my underlying issues first and believe our feelings can change, but our biological sex does not.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty. I hated the changes I was seeing and I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere. I now believe a lot of this was rooted in low self-esteem and a general feeling of not being good enough as I was. I was also struggling with depression and anxiety, though I didn't fully understand that at the time.
Looking back, I can see how much I was influenced by what I saw online. I found communities that offered an explanation for my pain: that I was born in the wrong body. This felt like an answer, a way to escape the person I was so unhappy with. It was a powerful form of escapism. I started to believe that if I changed my body, I would finally be happy and authentic.
I began my transition socially in my late teens, asking people to use a new name and pronouns. It felt exciting at first, like I was finally taking control. But that feeling was temporary. I eventually started taking testosterone. I thought it would solve everything, but it didn't. It just created a new set of problems and made me feel even more disconnected from myself. I never had any surgeries, but I seriously considered top surgery because I hated my breasts.
A huge part of my confusion, I now realize, was related to my sexuality. I think I experienced a lot of internalized homophobia. The idea of being a gay woman was uncomfortable for me, but the idea of being a straight man felt more acceptable. Transitioning felt like a way to avoid facing that truth about myself.
My thinking began to change as I got older. I realized that my feelings weren't static and that the identity I had built my life around was based on a flawed idea. The trans ideology says that how you feel is who you are, absolutely and forever. But my feelings changed. I saw that identity is complicated and made up of so many things, not just a single feeling about gender. Reducing my entire self to this one idea was unhealthy and led to more mental instability for me.
I also developed a strong religious faith, which gave me a new perspective. I came to believe that I was, and always had been, a woman, made whole and complete. My body wasn't wrong; my understanding of it was. This was a profound shift for me. I stopped hormones and began to live again as a woman. This process of detransitioning was difficult, but I felt like I was finally being honest with myself.
I do have some regrets. I regret not addressing my underlying mental health issues, my low self-esteem, and my internalized homophobia first. I regret not realizing that young people, including myself, can make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings. I regret the time I lost living as someone I wasn't.
Now, I believe that "male" and "female" are biological realities. Terms like "masculine" and "feminine" are just descriptions of how we express ourselves, and those can change over time without changing our fundamental sex. I am critical of the trans movement because I feel it operates like a social contagion and doesn't allow for any questioning. The intense hostility towards detransitioners like me proves that it can't handle anyone who challenges its core beliefs.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-17 | Experienced intense discomfort during female puberty. Struggled with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. |
| 17 | Found and was heavily influenced by trans communities online. Began to believe I was transgender. |
| 18 | Started social transition (new name, male pronouns). |
| 19 | Began taking testosterone. |
| Early 20s | Realized transition was not solving my underlying mental health issues. Underwent a shift in religious faith. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning and accepted myself as a female. |
Top Comments by /u/Manofmanyhats19:
So at 19 we all thought we knew everything. We were adults, so we know what’s best for us. Nobody could question it. Now that I’m in my 40’s I can say with 100% certainty, 19 year olds don’t know crap. I would say until you’re past at least your mid-20’s that your life experience is so incredibly narrow that you still don’t know crap, and you will make bad decisions. Hopefully those decisions don’t have life long consequences.
Controlling the language is a very strong component of the cult mentality. It’s not sex, it’s gender. It’s not man, it’s sperm producing person. Even the acronyms of AGAB is part of that effort as if the doctor is just arbitrarily assigning a gender at birth based off of nothing. This video does a very good job at breaking down how that entire cult mentality has brainwashed western culture.
I think a big root of transgenderism is narcissistic in its very nature. It mandates that the rest of the world acquiesce to how the individual perceives themselves, and to just spew narcissistic hatred when they don’t do so. Humility isn’t exactly strong within the whole LGBT movement.
The problem the way I see it is that the existence of detrans people destroys the building block of the whole trans philosophy from the ground up. The trans argument is because you feel a certain way, you are what you feel. There can be no question about it. So if there are people who feel trans but then don’t later in life, it shows that the whole trans ideology of s flawed. If you are something, then that can’t be change. If you are a human you can’t later be a chicken. Intrinsic properties can’t be changed.
Honestly, if you want my opinion, stop watching porn. There are a multitude of reasons why, but just to name one porn will absolutely warp healthy expectations of a relationship and sex life within that relationship. That’s all not to mention the human trafficking, underage manipulation, and abuse filled industry that it is. Then again, you may not have wanted my opinion.
First off, dress however you feel comfortable. How you dress doesn’t identify you. Second, I guess I’m a bit confused. You miss being trans, but when people Identify you as trans by mistake you hate it? Would you like it if people assumed you were trans if you were trans? My advise is to dress however makes you feel comfortable, and if the assumption of people around you is that you’re trans then that’s their problem. Find better people to hang out with.
This is actually reflective of some recent trends in the US (if not the western world as a whole.) Trans people (especially trans-women) are basically viewed as a fetish by many straight men. The quickest growing porn searches in the US is trans porn showing many men fantasize about having sex with “chicks with dix,” so when you rejected him he couldn’t live his fetish fantasy. You’re better off without him. Just text him back to tell him to enjoy his trans porn maybe with a link to two girls one cup saying it’s your only fans.
It’s because the entire trans movement relies on the premise that trans people aren’t making a mistake or that there aren’t any mitigating factors when they say they are a member of the opposite sex/gender. People who detrans shatter that premise, and recognizing that one person made a mistake by detransitioning acknowledges the possibility that others, even a majority of others, could be making that same mistake. It also forces people to acknowledge that being trans, or at least an element of it, could be a social contagion and not something biologically scientific or innate to a person. Even for people who aren’t trans, but support the trans community, can’t/wont acknowledge the possibility of having supported anybody making a grave mistake causing irreversible changes. Because of that, a person who detransitions is often shunned from the community (much like a cult), and berated because of their decision to transition.
I’m gonna play devil’s advocate here. The way the climate is right now with the whole gender thing, the person that called you sir likely didn’t know how to react when he realized he made a mistake. I’ve seen people fired at the job I used to have for doing the whole misgendering thing, apologies or not. It was almost a zero tolerance thing. The nuts run the nuthouse in a lot of cases and are absolutely tyrannical about it. The guy was likely afraid about how to address the situation, and as a result didn’t address it appropriately. I would just shrug it off, go about your life, and not worry about it.
First off, I would recommend keeping regular appointments with that psychiatrist or a therapist they recommend given the issues you mentioned.
Second, realize that you always were a woman. A beautiful woman made in the image of God. What you wear, look like, sound like, etc doesn’t make you a woman.
It may take some time for your body to recover, and it’s true some things may never change back fully, but that won’t make you any less of a woman.