Well, I think it is really important to make questions and think critically about transition. I lived as a transguy for 4 years (3 years and 3 months on T), before deciding to detransition. I was not unhappy with my transition, I was quite fine actually. I considered my transition "done". I had my mastectomy, all my documents were legally changed, I was 100% passing. My dysphoria was almost gone. But after a while, I started questioning things. After all, what is gender? What does it really mean to feel like a man/woman? Where dysphoria comes from? I was not satisfied with the "answers" I was getting from the trans narrative. So I sat with myself for a couple of months and started to investigate my feelings, dissect my dysphoria, I revisited my childhood and started asking why I had the feelings and thoughts that I had. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that I needed to detransition. Not because I discovered that I had a female gender identity or suddenly started to ~feeling like a woman~. I see gender as socially constructed sex roles imposed on the sexes. I do not think trans people would exist if there were no gender roles nor do I think "gender identity" can be disconnected from these roles. I also understand gender dysphoria as a disorder caused by gender, therefore in my perspective, it is a social problem, not a biological one. For me, transsexuality/transgenderism is a socially constructed phenomenon as much as gender itself. I did not stop being a man, because I never was one, I lived socially and legally as one, which is pretty different. At the end of the day, living as a man was suffocating me as much as living as a woman, also I missed the connection with other women. So my advice is to ask yourself questions, know why you are doing it, do not take your feelings at face value. If you decide that transition is right for you, that's fine too.

Hi. In my case, I did not rush into transitioning, I thought about it for two years before coming out at 17, then waited almost one year till I started hormones at 18 and had top surgery at 20. I was diagnosed with depression and gender dysphoria. Medical transition alliviated my dysphoria, but it never went completely away. I decided to detransition after spending a lot of time reflecting and thinking about what that really meant. Started to make questions, like, where this dysphoria comes from? And I could not define trans anymore, because it got so broad that anybody can be trans. Like other user said, if being a man or a woman is not about the body and is not about steryotypes, is about what? I do not believe in gender identity anymore, is a messed up concept. What I can tell you is to ask why do you want to transition, think about it critically. Dysphoria does not come from nowhere, it has a source, find it.

Yes, I've heard comments like "you do not have to look like a man to be a lesbian" or "If I wanted to date someone who looks like a man, I would date a real man". I think this played a part when I decided to transition. Not feeling woman enough, beautiful enough, desirable enough as a masculine female.

Hi, how are you? Hope you are fine. Let's analyze your situation critically because I did not do this to myself when I was transitioning. Have you ever asked yourself where your gender dysphoria come from? Have you been diagnosed with some mental disorder like body dysmorphia or anorexia before? If not, do you think if there were no gender roles, would you still want to change your body to male? Are you aware sex cannot be changed? Are you aware you will be hormone dependent for the rest of your life and we do not know the long term effects of testosterone on our bodies? If there were another treatment for gender dysphoria beyond the transition, would you want it?

If gender is a social construct, why are we altering our bodies? Why are we creating more genders/boxes instead of destroying them? Why the trans community cannot agree on a definition of what it means to be trans? I do not mean to be hateful, just want you to think rationally and critically. I understand how you feel because I feel the same way, but is transition the best path for us?

If you are not a woman, what it means to be a woman? If you are a man, what it means to be a man?

All I can say to you from my experience is that I now have a scar on my chest, a broken voice, and a beard because I could not face the fact I was biologically female and a masculine bisexual woman.

Hope you find peace in yourself and do what makes you happy!

Hello, how are you? I am a 21yo detrans female who took T for 3.5 years and had a mastectomy. First, I would like to ask you what is your dysphoria about. Is it social? What makes you uncomfortable about living socially as a female? Is it physical? What parts of your body do you feel uncomfortable? I would also like you to think deeply and critically analyze what is possibly causing you to feel this way? I, personally, do not believe people are born in the wrong sex, I concluded this after reading a lot of medical literature about transsexuality, studies, and biographies of trans people. For me, gender/sex dysphoria has social/external factors. In my case, after analyzing my dysphoria, I realized it was due to misogyny, rigid gender roles, and trauma, instead of a mismatch between my brain and my body. I think is important for you to find another therapist since your current one is not taking into account your feelings and doubts. Please, take all the time you need to think about this. I want you to know that is possible to deal with dysphoria in other ways besides medically transition, if you would like to. I was sure about my decision and yet I ended up detransitioning. I cannot say that medical transition is not the right path for you, but I hope you find the answer. If you decide to detransition, know that you will find support and love, you are not alone.

Hi, how are you? Hope you are fine. Let's analyze your situation critically because I did not do this to myself when I was transitioning. Have you ever asked yourself where your gender dysphoria come from? Have you been diagnosed with some mental disorder like body dysmorphia or anorexia before? If not, do you think if there were no gender roles, would you still want to change your body to male? Are you aware sex cannot be changed? Are you aware you will be hormone dependent for the rest of your life and we do not know the long term effects of testosterone on our bodies? If there were another treatment for gender dysphoria beyond the transition, would you want it?

If gender is a social construct, why are we altering our bodies? Why are we creating more genders/boxes instead of destroying them? Why the trans community cannot agree on a definition of what it means to be trans? I do not mean to be hateful, just want you to think rationally and critically. I understand how you feel because I feel the same way, but is transition the best path for us?

If you are not a woman, what it means to be a woman? If you are a man, what it means to be a man?

All I can say to you from my experience is that I now have a scar on my chest, a broken voice, and a beard because I could not face the fact I was biologically female and a masculine bisexual woman.

Hope you find peace in yourself and do what makes you happy!

Yes, internalized misogyny is definitly a thing! Most of the time these things are not conscious to us, so is important for you to sit with yourself and make a self reflection. Go back to your childhood and teenage years. Investigate your feelings, maybe reading detransitioned women experiences may be helpful to you. If you want to talk to someone, you can call me inbox. Best wishes.