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The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally complex, and internally consistent over a long period (over a year of posts). They describe a nuanced and difficult personal journey of detransition, including specific, believable details about their medical history (5 years on T, top surgery), employment in blue-collar work, geographic location (Midwest/Arkansas), and the ongoing psychological and social challenges. The language is natural, varies in emotional tone, and shows development over time, all of which are strong indicators of a genuine person.
About me
I started transitioning to male as a teenager because I was insecure about being a tall, masculine girl and thought it would be easier. I lived as a man for years, but I always felt isolated and like I was wearing a mask to fit in. At 22, I had a sudden, painful realization that I was wrong and that I am, and always was, a female. I stopped testosterone and am now living in an awkward in-between stage, but I'm finding peace by finally accepting my natural self. While I have regrets about the permanent changes, I'm focusing on moving forward and learning to live as the woman I am.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was a teenager. I was 16 when I first came out as trans. At the time, it felt like the absolute right thing to do. I was so sure, and everyone around me seemed sure too. I’ve always been a more masculine person. I’m tall, almost 6 foot, and I have a broad, athletic build. As a girl, I felt really insecure about that. It felt easier to be a manly man in society than a manly woman. I think a big part of my transition was because of those deep-rooted insecurities.
I started testosterone when I was 17 and had top surgery when I was 18. I lived as a man for years, my whole adult life. I passed 100% of the time. I was "stealth," meaning no one knew I was trans; they all just thought I was a cisgender man. I even worked blue-collar jobs, like in construction and electrical work, to really prove my manhood and fit in. But that environment was isolating. Hearing the way the men talked about women made me feel like I didn't belong, and I couldn't really keep up with the "bros club" they had. At the same time, trying to be friends with women was hard because they often thought I had other motives. I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere.
Then, when I was 22, everything changed overnight. It wasn't a gradual thing; I just woke up one day and realized I had been wrong. It was one of the worst days of my life, having that realization hit me like a truck. I realized I am, and always have been, a biological female. A couple of things led to this. First, there were health reasons. The idea of having to depend on doctors and medication for the rest of my life wasn't how I wanted to live. Second, I was tired of living a lie. I was putting on a mask to fit in with men, and I didn't want to do that forever. I had to accept that my true self was a woman.
I stopped taking testosterone cold turkey. It’s been a slow process. I’m now 23, and I’ve been off hormones for about a year and four months. I haven’t told anyone in my life yet. My family was eventually very supportive of my transition and went above and beyond to see me as male, so the thought of telling them I was wrong is terrifying. I feel stupid for how hard I convinced them and myself. I also haven’t told anyone at work. They all only know me as a man, and I’m worried about their reaction, especially in the conservative area I live in.
Right now, I’m in an awkward stage. People still see me as a man, often a teenage boy. I’m taking it day by day. I know it will be months or even years before I can present as a woman in public. For now, I’m finding peace in knowing who I am inside. When people call me "sir," I just remember that I know I’m a woman. I’m starting to experiment at home, letting out feminine mannerisms I suppressed for years, like journaling, and I’m looking into more feminine clothes to wear in private first. It’s an emotional rollercoaster, but I’m focusing on the fact that detransitioning is about returning to my natural body, which feels more right than trying to become something I’m not.
I do have regrets. I regret the permanent changes, especially my voice and having had top surgery. I can't ever get my original body back. I wish I had worked on loving myself as a woman first instead of transitioning. But I also know that I might not have figured this out without going through it. It’s a hard thing to live with, but I’m trying to move forward. My thoughts on gender now are simple: you are your biological sex. No amount of hormones or surgery can change that, and there’s a peace that comes from finally accepting it.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Socially transitioned to male. |
| 17 | Started testosterone. |
| 18 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 22 | Realized I was not trans and decided to detransition. Stopped testosterone. |
| 23 (Present) | About 1 year and 4 months off testosterone. Living stealth as male while slowly preparing to socially detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Mas-131313:
Honestly , I was really sure I was trans for a long time. I passed as male 100 perfect of the time, I still do it’s only been 2 months off T and I’ve had top surgery. I was 100 percent sure I was trans until I was 100 percent sure I wasn’t. It wasn’t a gradual process it was over night. A couple reasons it wasn’t right for me. 1. Health reasons. There’s some health risks and the fact of having to constantly be going back to doctors for medication and treatment for this for the rest of my life isn’t a way I want to live. 2. Honestly I’ve always been more “manly” my whole life and that was something I was really insecure about because it was easier for me to be manly living in society as a man than it would be to be a manly woman in society. I am also tall and very athletic. A lot of the reason I transitioned was because of deep rooted insecurities I had to be tall, athletic, “manly” hobbies , broad shoulders, etc as a woman. For me I passed as a man because of my looks and also some of my personality but deep down I had to put on a mask to fit in with the other men fully. I wish I could give you more reasons but ultimately for me it came down to feeling like I was having to keep up with a lie and I didn’t wanna live like that forever
I’ve worried about the same thing for me personally. I was on testosterone for years and I also have had surgery. I’ve just came to the realization that there’s no “too far gone” for your own sanity. As sure as you once were that you were a woman now that you’re sure you’re not it would be miserable to yourself to try to continue down this path. That’s what I realized. I’ve realized I might never look like every other woman once I begin my de transition but it’s worth it to my own sanity to be confident and let my body be itself without continuing to put hormones and more surgeries that my body shouldn’t have you know. Hope this helps a little. It isn’t a easy road but we’ll get through this. I am very new to this all too but I know there’s got to be a light at the end of the tunnel
I suggest to wait. You can always make the decision later if you feel that way. But you can’t go back once it’s done. I was so sure. So sure of transitioning to male being the right thing for me. I was sure of it since I was a kid. Everyone around me was sure. But now I have had top surgery and been on T for 5 years. I can’t ever get my body back or certain things like my voice back. I regret it every day and have to deal with this for life. Don’t do something you’re already doubting. Try to find out what you’re unhappy with within yourself and then re evaluate how you feel towards a transition once you love yourself
There’s definitely women out there. Yeah it may be harder in some ways for dating but not impossible. I know it’s not the same but I (23 ftmtf) had a double mastectomy. When I get myself down on basic self worth I try to think as much as I wish I could go back I can’t. And I wouldn’t want to date someone that only loves me for my body either way. Finding an emotional connection over physical connection is something women typically seem to value more than men (from my perspective on life) so you’re more likely to find a woman that loves the man you are that your body to her will be something she loves naturally because how much she loves you
You look very female to me! I don’t know if this will help but this helped me. Someone commented on one of my previous posts and it was something around the lines of “when you’re transitioning to male you’re in a constant fear of if you’re “man enough” to the public because you’re putting on an act. But being a woman is something biologically no one can ever take from you no matter what T did to your or your body” Ty at helped my view a lot on myself because no one can ever not make us biological female. You look so beautiful!!
I’m in the same boat as you. I haven’t socially transitioned back to my actual biological sex of a woman because of this. I know I wouldn’t even come close to being seen as a woman in public yet. It’s a sense of peace that I’ve created within myself even when people call me sir, I know I’m a woman. Just because I took chemicals that made people think otherwise doesn’t mean that I don’t know what I am. It’s a really hard battle and it’s very up and down. But I’m here to talk inbox is open if you ever wanna talk
I’m in kinda a similar situation but not fully. I’ve medically transitioned as a male but I’ve realized it isn’t me. I’m a biological female and I’m working to accept that. I haven’t told anyone but I find great peace in just letting your soul be you. Not trying to continue to live a lie because “you’re too far gone” it is kinda a injustice to yourself you know. Let your soul be who you are and don’t worry about your physical form. It’s exhausting trying to continue to be something you’ve accepted you aren’t
You’re not alone! My situation is not the same as yours but there’s some similarities. I was on T from 17-22 and had a mastectomy im also 5’10 and have broad shoulders before and after T. I’ve been off for a year and a half. I’m still working in blue collar field because I’m in an awkward stage where I’m constantly clocked as a teenage boy so I can’t go interview for any other jobs right now so I’m riding it out until I hope I get to a place of passing as my biological sex. Never thought I’d be trying so hard to prove I was born female lol. I understand the heartbreak of it. It really does suck that we have to work so hard and put so much into being seen as ourselves after we were tricked into believing in the transition enough to take hormones and surgery. All I can offer is if you ever need to chat feel free to message me! You’re not alone
This is extremely comforting. Thank you so much. How long have you been off hormones for? I know it’s going to be slow and that’s a comforting and Also hard thing. I’ve been presenting as male for so many years it feels that the fact that it’s a slow process seems comforting. Did you stop hormones cold turkey? I’m not sure how to go back safely. I’m in the Midwest and doctors don’t understand much out here they pretty much just prescribe you what you tell them to
You’re not a freak. There’s so many of us in similar situation on this group page, you’re not alone at all. I know it’s really hard. I’m currently just beginning the de transition I’ve only been off T for a couple months. Just taking it one step at a time has been really helpful to me. But everyone copes differently. Just know you’re not alone and you will get through this. Messages are always open if you ever wanna talk❤️