This story is from the comments by /u/Massive_Run_4110 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is potentially inauthentic.
Red Flags:
Contradictory Stance: The user's advice is inconsistent. They tell some users not to detransition, while telling others they will "always be a man/woman" and should accept their birth sex, often using controversial terms like "autogynephilia." This mimics a "divide and conquer" tactic rather than a consistent personal philosophy.
Lack of Personal Experience: There is no sharing of a personal detransition narrative, struggles, or recovery. The comments are exclusively advice-giving, which is atypical for a support sub where members primarily seek and offer shared experience.
Aggressive and Clinical Tone: The language is often harshly declarative ("You are a man and always will be") and leans heavily on clinical-sounding terminology ("autoandrophilia," "root cause," "minority of minority"). This reads more like someone debating an ideology than someone empathizing from lived experience.
Suspicious Claims: The claim to be a "medical student" giving fertility advice is a significant red flag, as it adds unverifiable authority to a common anti-transition argument.
The account behaves more like an ideological actor than an authentic detransitioner seeking support.
About me
I was born male and my journey started with a deep hatred for my body during puberty. I transitioned to female, taking hormones and having surgery, believing it was my only escape from being a man. I eventually realized my discomfort was rooted in internalized homophobia and a sexual fantasy, not a true female identity. I regret my transition deeply as it left me infertile and didn't solve my underlying mental health issues. I am now learning to accept myself as a male again after therapy helped me address my real problems.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I hated my body when I was going through puberty. I was born male, but I never felt like I fit in with other boys. I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in low self-esteem and anxiety. Looking back, I also had some internalised homophobia; I was uncomfortable with the idea of being a gay man, and I think that pushed me towards thinking I must be a woman instead.
I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a less scary step. But eventually, I moved towards identifying as a trans woman. A lot of my feelings were about my body—I had a lot of body dysmorphia and I hated the masculine features that were developing. I think for me, it was more about escaping from being a man than it was about truly wanting to be a woman. A lot of my research and questioning happened online, and I was definitely influenced by what I saw in trans communities.
I did medically transition. I took hormones for several years. I even got surgery; I had an orchiectomy. At the time, I told everyone I was happy with it and that it was the right choice for me. I think I was trying to convince myself as much as anyone else.
But the feelings of discomfort never really went away. They just shifted. I never really had social dysphoria; my problems were almost entirely with my own body. I started to realise that changing my body wasn't fixing the underlying issues. I had to finally admit to myself that a lot of this was probably driven by autogynephilia (AGP) for me. It was a sexual fantasy that bled into my whole identity, and that's not a healthy reason to change your entire life.
Coming to that realisation was devastating. I am now infertile because of the hormones and surgery, and that is a huge regret. I wish I had explored other ways to deal with my discomfort first. I benefited massively from non-affirming therapy later on, where a therapist helped me actually dig into the root causes—my trauma, my self-esteem issues, my internalised homophobia—instead of just affirming my desire to transition. That was the real turning point for me.
I don't believe I was ever truly a woman. I was a man who was deeply uncomfortable with himself. I now believe that no one can change their sex, and that accepting that reality is the only way to find real peace. I regret transitioning because it caused me serious health complications and made me infertile, all while failing to solve the mental problems that drove me to it in the first place.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social concept, but your sex is a biological reality. For me, trying to change my gender was a way to escape from that reality, and it wasn't a healthy escape. I am trying to learn to accept my body as it is now, even though it's been permanently changed.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with male puberty. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary. |
| 21 | Started identifying as a trans woman and began taking estrogen. |
| 24 | Underwent orchiectomy surgery. |
| 27 | Began to question my transition and started non-affirming therapy. |
| 28 | Stopped hormones and began detransitioning. |
| 29 | Came to accept myself as a male and began living as a man again. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Massive_Run_4110:
Accept that you are a man and always will be. You have probably autogynephilia, internalised homophobia, trauma, mental illness ….. Find your root cause through therapy and work on it. Surgical procedures will not help you in the long run. You will always find new things that are “wrong with you”. We can’t change our body shape/physique.
You will always be a man regardless you pass or not. It's the reality and the fact. Then it's up to you to choose how you want to live and what makes you happy. Sounds to me like you have a lot of internalized homophobia. It's something you should think about.
I am a medical student and I unfortunately have to inform you that the only way to have children for you is through adoption. Your fertility is so affected after several years by female hormones, it is very unlikely that you will get it back. :(
If that's the only reason to detransition, I wouldn't do it.
So you are identifying as a trans but you don’t want to transition? Isn't trans the desire to transition and live as opposite gender?
I may have misunderstood you, but since you write that you have no problem saying you are trans. It's very very confusing lol
This is detrans sub, not trans. There are many detranas people who still experience dysophoria. but no longer identifies as trans. These people have come to an understanding and want to identify with their AGAB, not the other way around. Coming here and writing that these people (detrans who still experience dysophoria) are trans is so disrespectful from your side. Shame on you!
Poor you. I feel really sorry for you. But you are minority of minority. Studies show that ~80% will grow out of if, so it’s better to save 80% confused young people from these unhealthy medication that can ruin other people’s lives. I understand if it’s unfair to you though, but we have to face reality.
What is reason for your detransition? When I look at your elderly posts it’s seems to me that you like to live as a woman, but your society don’t accept you. Please don’t live for others, you can always move to other country if you find it hard to live there you are now. I hope you are on the right path. Whish you good luck!
If it's about 'life and death’ and that you do not really have the strength to live as a man. Then I would consider transition. But first of all I would check with a psychiatrist what the root cause is to GD. Can it be trauma, mental illness etc?
You can check out old posts here, you can find answers to many of your questions. Everyone is unique and experiences it in different ways. Good luck regardless which path you choose!
Tycker du ser ut som kvinna iaf på dina bilder. Mer år det androgyna hållet. Inget fel med det. Men du är inte en kvinna och kommer aldrig vara det,så där har du en poäng. Du ska inte leva som man om du innerst inte vill det! Tittar tillbaka på dina tidigare inlägg där skriver du att du är nöjd med operationerna etc. Så förstår inte varför du ångrar dig?
Det tycker jag inte! Jobba på ditt självförtroende istället. Men om det är den enda anledningen så ska du absolut inte detrans. Det är inte skoj om du tror det eller vill ha någon sorts bekräftelse/uppmärksamhet. Då är du fel ute. Jag är inte otrevlig, men ärlig och rak som person.