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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal, detailed experiences with transition, detransition, and medical side effects.
- Consistent internal logic in their critique of gender ideology, rooted in their lived experience.
- Emotional depth and varied tones (anger, sadness, support, encouragement) that align with the passionate and often painful nature of the detransition experience.
- Engagement in nuanced conversations with others, showing they process and respond to different viewpoints.
The perspective is strongly opinionated but falls within the range of authentic detransitioner voices.
About me
I was born female and started identifying as non-binary, then as a man, because I felt a deep discomfort with being a woman and wanted to escape sexualization and stereotypes. I took testosterone for five years and had top surgery, which initially felt freeing but eventually caused serious health problems and didn't solve my underlying depression and anxiety. I realized I was trying to fix my mental health by changing my body and that I could never actually become a man. Now, I've stopped hormones and am accepting myself as a woman who has been permanently altered by my choices. My focus is no longer on gender but on building a life where my worth comes from who I am, not what I look like.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is long and complicated. I was born female, and for a long time, I felt very disconnected from my body and the idea of being a woman. I first identified as non-binary, and then later as a trans man. I was on testosterone for about five years and I had top surgery to remove my breasts.
A lot of my feelings came from a place of deep discomfort. I hated my breasts because I was tired of being sexualized all the time. I wanted a deep voice because people told me my natural voice was too loud and high. I now see this as a form of internalized misogyny; I wanted the body of a man to escape the pressures and stereotypes placed on women. I also struggled with depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety for years, and I think transitioning felt like an escape from all of that. For a while, it worked. When I started to pass as male, I felt free. I got a job more easily, I could walk down the street without being harassed, and men finally left me alone. I was invisible, and I needed that break.
But the euphoria didn't last. I realized I was chasing something I could never actually reach. I was never going to be a man. Transitioning didn’t solve my underlying problems; it just gave me new ones. I started to have serious health complications from testosterone, like constant abdominal pain and other issues. My top surgery scars still hurt, and there are movements I can’t do easily anymore. I also feel a lot of guilt because I influenced several of my friends to transition, and now I can see it might not have been the right path for them either.
The turning point for me was when I finally allowed myself to listen to detransitioners. I had been terrified of their stories because I knew, deep down, I would relate to them. And I did. I started to see the ideology I believed in didn't make sense. I don’t believe anyone is born in the wrong body. I think sex is a biological reality—male and female—and that “gender” is just a set of stereotypes. The idea that you can have a “gender identity” separate from your sex feels like a delusion to me now. Real care should be about understanding and healing your mind, not changing your body to fit a stereotype.
Stopping testosterone was terrifying, but it was the best decision I ever made. My abdominal pain went away completely, my acne got better, and I started to feel my emotions more fully again. Detransitioning for me isn’t about trying to become a super feminine woman. I’m not planning on that at all. It’s about freeing myself from the entire concept of gender. I have a flat chest and a deep voice, and that’s just me now. I’m a woman who made a big mistake, but I’m still a woman. My goal is to focus on what my body can do, not what it looks like.
I have significant regrets about my transition, especially the permanent changes to my body and the fact that I can’t have children now. I regret that medical professionals didn’t ask more questions or offer better therapy. They just affirmed me and gave me what I asked for without helping me explore my trauma and internalized homophobia. I think transition should be an absolute last resort.
I’m in a much better place now. I’m focusing on my health, my hobbies, and building a life where my worth isn’t tied to my appearance. I’m learning to accept myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | First started identifying as non-binary. |
| 20 | Socially transitioned and began identifying as a trans man. |
| 21 | Started testosterone therapy. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone after ~5 years due to health concerns and growing doubts. |
| 26 | Began the process of detransitioning and social re-identification as female. |
Top Comments by /u/Material_Juice5369:
It's so interesting to see how people have to say that they're not detransitioning. Remind me of an ftm youtuber who panicked after saying that he stopped t for a while, and he had to reassure everyone he wasn't detransitioning because people were mad at him lol
I think a lot of us question the way we think about gender, and some don't like that. They tend to forget that we were trans too, and maybe we have some insight about that. They don't like to see their ideology challenged.
A few years ago I would've considered that transphobic too. Idk, it's pretty easy to throw it around when you don't like things.
I hate this person. I went to a conference of his when I was deep into the ideology. I feel like he brainwashed me even more. I didn't know about all the arguments you just wrote, and I'm glad I know now. I fucking hate how he draws children all the time. Creepy af. Seeing this drawing just remind me of so much. Feels like he's a cult leader or something. Anyway.
I'm so sorry he did that. We're often told to lie about our issue to have surgery quickly, but this attitude coming from a professional is so wrong. I hope you heal, and I wish you the best
edit : professionals, social workers and doctors are supposed to know better on many levels. they are supposed to protect us from the unhealthy part of our mind and body, help us heal, help us make good decision for ourselves in the long run. this is so wrong
Lmao yup. To me, once I got out of the ideology, nothing they said made sense, and I realized how stupid/violent/ridiculous they could be. I don't hate trans ppl, I mean, I've been there, and we all do what we can, but the trans activists ? It's just laughable.
I think that indulging in delusions is never a good idea. When someone have body dysmorphia or ED, therapists are supposed to help them get out of it, instead of reinforcing it. Transition f me up and I lost 5 years because of it. I can't say no one should transition but I think it should be a last resort.
I feel like trans ideology/normativity is so regressive. Ten years ago, it was shit to be a masc woman, but not as much as now imo. I feel like everyone expect people to fit in one category or another. I just hate the non binary concept because it's normalizing the idea that women and men are supposed to be feminine or masculine, and anyone who doesn't fit is non binary.
I'm detransitioning but I don't want to force myself to fit the stereotype of femininity, yet everyone around me seems to expect I either transition back to man/non binary or retransition into a f stereotype.
I feel like appearances were less important before all that, and, well, gender identity wasn't really a thing.
I still have a lot of trans friends. Honestly I just feel guilty as fuck, because most of them transitioned after knowing me and talking with me when I was still trans. I'm pretty sure that if they didn't knew me they wouldn't have transitioned, or at least not now.
When I see trans people, or things referencing to them, I just feel sad af. I'm glad I still can't cry because I would weep forever lol
If I remember well there wasn't enough people to make conclusive studies. And there is others explanation as to why brains develop in a certain way, rather than an essentialistic explanation.
Of course if people want to transition I can't prevent them or anything, but I feel like mental health professionals have failed people when they transition. I think it should be a last resort.
Of course that's only my opinion, and I'm still not sure what to think about all this. But yeah, I feel like it's a delusion and real care would be to understand and heal before changing the body. I don't believe anyone is born the wrong sex. It would be like saying someone can be born the wrong race. Race and sex are biological, material realities.
Does this person has already medically transitioned ? Did they had top surgery ? Did you had to write a letter for that ?
For my top surgery, the therapist affirmed me immediately. Don't do this. I think it's a good idea to guide gently the person to learn why they want to do this. Is it trauma, internalized homophobia, stereotypes ...? Is it obsessive ?
I can't imagine how hard it must be to be in your situation. It seems pretty difficult and delicate. I wish you and your patients the best