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About me
I was deeply unhappy and started transitioning in my early twenties because I felt like a failed man and wanted to escape myself. My journey was heavily driven by a sexual obsession and the false idea that I could become a real man. I eventually realized I was just wearing a costume and that my real issues were my low self-esteem and a warped view of the sexes. I stopped hormones after a few years, and I now have to live with being infertile. I'm going back to living as a man, which is hard but feels honest as I learn to accept myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was deeply unhappy with myself and my life. I was born male, but I never felt like I measured up to what a man was supposed to be. I had really low self-esteem and felt like a failure. I spent a lot of time online in communities that reinforced the idea that men were inherently bad or toxic, which just made me feel worse about myself. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a place of not wanting to be a "beta male" and escaping that feeling of failure.
I also struggled with a porn problem, and I see now that a lot of my feelings were tied up in autogynephilia (AGP). The sexual aspect was a huge driving force; it wasn't just about identity, it was a powerful sexual urge tied to the idea of being a woman. I think if that sexual component hadn't been there, I probably wouldn't have gone through with it. I was looking for an escape from my own insecurities.
I transitioned in my early twenties. I took hormones for a few years. I never got any surgery—no top surgery and definitely no bottom surgery. I was always practical about that. I knew I would never have a real penis, and that felt like a huge barrier to ever truly being male. I think part of me knew it was a fantasy, but I pursued it anyway because the desire was so strong.
Eventually, I started to realize that living as a trans man wasn't giving me what I thought it would. I wasn't having the male experience I fantasized about. I was just me, in a different costume, with a whole new set of problems. I began to understand that my issues were deeper than gender. I had a warped view of men and women, fed by the online bubbles I was in. I thought all women hated men because of places like twoxchromosomes, but in the real world, I saw that wasn't true. Men and women actually love and need each other.
I don't really believe in gender identity the way it's talked about now. I think we are our sex, male or female, and that's a biological reality. Trying to change that is pursuing a fantasy. For me, transitioning was a way to cope with my own internal problems, like my low self-esteem, anxiety, and the sexual obsession of AGP.
I do have regrets. I regret not dealing with my underlying issues first. I regret the time and energy I spent on a fantasy instead of learning to accept myself as the man I am. I think I could have benefited from therapy that challenged these ideas instead of affirming them. I'm infertile now because of the hormones, and that's a permanent consequence I have to live with.
Now, I'm detransitioning. I'm stopping hormones and going back to living as a man. It's hard, but it feels more honest. I'm trying to build a healthy life with what I actually have, not what I wished I had.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 23 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 27 | Stopped testosterone and began detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Maximum_Lavishness94:
There aren't lots of stealth trans people.
First of all, the numbers of transsexuals transitioning at like 6,7,8,9 years old were miniscule before 5-10 years ago. So you claiming that there are a bunch of trans adults that started at this age is suspect.
Stealth is the most over used word in the trans "community".
I have talked with and interact with MANY trans that ID'd as "stealth" and were not in fact stealth.
Yes there are so MtFs that pass in all contexts, but its very rare. Its not about "fitting into gender roles".
Its about your fucking skull. The fact that you are focusing on "socialization" as the source of passing leads me to think that you aren't in fact stealth.
Because if you are actually stealth, you would know that if you truly pass you don't have to worry or consider "socialization" as part of the process at all. You would pass because features like the width of your forehead, and the distance between your lips and your nose, and the distance between the bone between your eyes, is within statistical female range. Rather than having multiple dimensional points of your skull outside of female range, which is the case of 95%+ males.
Stealth trans make up maybe 1% of the trans population, at best. Which is why its so strange for me to see so many "stealth" all over the internet, where it seems like every other trans person is "stealth".
The fact that you are a detrans MtF, is evidence enough that you weren't "stealth".
Being a porn addict is not a necessary condition of being a man. It is probably contributing to your gender dysphoria tho
You can do what you want, but your post sounds pretty delusional. "Changing documents" won't make you a woman. It sounds like you aren't very feminine either. Probably attracted to girls.
The fact that you think you can tell if someone is "stealth" from a youtube video that has no other humans by them.... you don't know what you are talking about.
Go put her in a room with a bunch of women, and tell me she is stealth lmao. Where is the picture of her in a dress standing next to a bunch of cis girls, that will at least give you an IDEA if she could be stealth. But one frame never tells the story.
Look at "Side by Side + Jessie J" video. The cis girl's head is like half the size of Nikkis.
She has a more feminine skull than the average male for sure, but I don't think she is in the 1%.
I mean your family definitely sounds weird as fuck if your actual family members didn't know you were trans.
Are you really that delusional that you think everyone around you "kept the secret" around your cousins?
You ignored a lot of what I said. If you actually took lupron or something to the effect around the age of 9, then you avoided most of male puberty, at least the parts that we can stop by blocking hormones. I doubt that though, because from what I have seen, when child transitioners start talking about "avoiding" puberty they inevitably admit that they didn't start hormone blockers until well into the throws of puberty, which is already in full flush by age 10.
Most trans people don't even understand how puberty works, or growth and development of the human body and skeleton, so forgive me for being skeptical that you do.
I am not being picky by criticizing you for saying "lots". What you apparently think, is that because you exist, there most be "lots" because you are one?
Look man, you have to let people vent. It is the nature of internet bubble communities that people will vent about the same things over and over and look the for same enemies over and over.
FtMs are going to have different perspectives than you and personally I find these posts trying to police others opinions to be distasteful.
I think the majority of the women on twoxchromosomes are really really dumb and narcissistic, delusional and man-hating but they have the right to have their little bubble community.
This community welcomes opinions by MtFs and FtMs, there will naturally be some conflict just like there is conflict between opinions of your average man and woman. Grow a thicker skin
I mean your boyfriend may be "straight" but hes not really "straight". Straight men date normal women, unless they are desperate or have a fetish.
I can relate to your desire to be part of the heteronormatic dynamic, the masculine, the feminine, the ying, the yang. But if that is the only motivation for living the painful life of a ts then I don't think its worth it.
I think you just threw "safety" in there as a cope. I don't think you are thinking about detransitioning because of some politics or whatever bullshit, I think there are deeper underlying issues
Its just beta males with agp.
Can happen to guys regardless of politics. But leftist males tend to be particularly delusional about what it means to be a man and suffer the contradiction of our leftist pop culture society telling them "men can be anything, toxic masculinity is bad!" when in reality they see that men are rewarded for being masculine and they get nothing for being a lame, beta, weak male. So they sexualize their insecurity and look for an escape of their failure.
When someone has truly conservative ideals and has certain values with regards to masculinity and femininity, they aren't typically going to transition or if they do it is because their agp is extremely strong and difficult to suppress.
HTST tend to identify more with their sexuality, pursuing men, than be hyperfocused on either right or left politics.
head size
Head size is sexually dimorphic. Its like saying "did people notice your broad shoulders before!? Did people notice your thick wrists and hands before!?
We are talking about passing as female, not "what people notice". If you ask someone how they "noticed" someone was trans, most won't even be able to tell you.
Most people don't bother to develop a healthy body while complaining about being ugly. If you don't try then why bother feeling sorry for yourself. I can understand if you have a deformity or something, but give me a break. Apparently your parents were also hideous but they managed to find each other? Why are you different than your parents
ROGD.
Honestly though I don't understand how so many "normal" girls get on this trans binge. At least for males, it makes sense, because AGP. When you are busting eye popping orgasms to the idea of "being a girl", I can understand how someone would gravitate towards it. Dido if you are a super hardcore effeminate gay boy or stone butch lez, it makes more sense in those cases. Probably still less motivation than eye popping orgasmic bliss though