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The user's comments demonstrate a consistent, nuanced, and personal perspective on detransition/desistance. They share their own desisted female experience, offer empathetic advice, and reference common detrans themes (e.g., internalized misogyny, autism, social pressure) in a way that reflects a genuine, lived understanding of the community's concerns. The passion and frustration shown are consistent with a real person who has been personally affected by these issues.
About me
I'm a woman who, as a kid, always wanted to be a boy and felt different. I learned about being transgender online as a teen and thought that was my only answer, so I tried to live as a male for a while. After a lot of deep thinking, I realized I wasn't transgender but was just uncomfortable with society's narrow ideas of how a woman should be. I never took hormones or had surgery, and I've now come to accept that I am a woman who doesn't have to fit a stereotype. I'm glad I found self-acceptance without making any permanent changes to my body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a kid, long before I even knew what the word "transgender" meant. I was a girl, but I always wanted to be a boy. I had a real mix of interests—some were what people would call feminine and some were masculine. I just felt different.
When I got a bit older and spent more time online, I learned that being transgender was a thing. I found out that it was possible to actually transition and become a male. For a while, I really, really wanted that path. I thought it was the answer to all my discomfort. I started doing things to try and make people see me as a boy, though I'm not sure how well it worked.
Growing up was tough. I got bullied, like a lot of kids do, and that made everything feel more confusing. But after doing a lot more research and a lot of deep thinking, I had a big realization: I wasn't actually transgender. I didn't truly want to be a man. I think a lot of my feelings came from a place of just not fitting into the stereotypes. I didn't like the strict rules I felt society had for how a woman should act or look. I wondered if I had some internalized misogyny or maybe even body dysmorphia that was making me feel so uncomfortable in my own skin.
I also started to see how a lot of the feelings I had overlapped with just being a tomboy. It’s disturbing how quickly that can be mistaken for being trans. I hope parents can learn to tell the difference before jumping to conclusions. For me, it wasn't a black-and-white issue. I think it's so important to ask yourself hard questions before making any permanent changes. Is autism a factor? Could it be OCD? Or maybe a discomfort with being gay or just the reality of being female? For some people, transition is absolutely life-saving, but I am convinced there needs to be much better screening for other underlying issues first.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries, so I'm one of the lucky ones. I only ever transitioned socially, and even that was brief. I identified as non-binary for a short time because I just didn't "feel" like a woman. But I've come to accept that I am a woman, and I've realized that most people don't "feel" their gender in some special way. They just are who they are. I'm a woman, and that's okay. I can be a woman who doesn't relate to stereotypical femininity. There's no one way to be a woman.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to a place of self-acceptance, but I do regret that I ever thought changing myself was the only way to be happy. I'm glad I found my way out of that mindset before doing anything I couldn't undo.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Always wanted to be a boy, had a mix of feminine and masculine interests. Didn't know what "trans" was. |
| Early Teens | Learned about transgender identity online. Began to seriously want to transition to male. |
| Mid-Teens | Socially transitioned and identified as non-binary for a period. Tried to be perceived as male. |
| Late Teens | Did deep personal research and introspection. Realized I was not transgender and desisted. Accepted myself as a female. |
Top Comments by /u/Mediocre-Tone9305:
I wonder why it’s ‘your tits are gone’ and not ‘your d*Ck is gone’. Why are detrans females the one to be mocked?
It’s okay to be a woman who does those things/ does not want to do those things. There is nothing telling you that you have to “be like other women”.
Does being online make you think you must follow a strict order of womanhood and femininity?
Know that you would still be as female as other women even if you don’t relate to them. Do you have internalized misogyny or body dysmorphia which is causing you to feel this way?
Sorry to get into this thread but what do you think feeling like a woman could be? How does womanhood feel? Many people don’t ‘feel’ like their gender.
I used to identify as NB at one point because I didn’t ‘feel’ like a woman. But I’ve accepted that I’m a woman now and I still do not ‘feel’ that I am a woman. I just accept that I’m a woman, that I’m not trans. This is from personal experience of course.
I’ve seen macho men paint their nails. You’re okay.
It’s always disturbing that a lot of these points overlap with typical girly boy or tomboy traits. When a child says they want to be the opposite gender it’s not necessarily that they are trans.
I hope parents would be smart enough to understand who a girly boy or tomboy is before jumping to the conclusion that they are necessarily trans.
I know it’s hard to accept being different but not every man has to look like GI Joe. Not every man has to have the gym bro body type.
Thank you for your story. I’m a desisted female too. When I was a child I always wanted to be a boy. This was before I knew what transgender was. I would have a mixture of feminine and masculine interests as a child. I also learned about transgender online and found out that I could actually transition into a male if I wanted to. I really wanted this path. I did a lot of things that would get me perceived as a male even though I’m not sure it worked. Also, growing up is scary. I got bullied like many other kids. After doing more research, I realized that I was not transgender and that I did not actually want to be a man.
This is something that you have to find out on your own. This isn’t a black-and-white topic. For example, many detrans people still have gender dysphoria. Also, not all detrans media is against transitioning, just want a more nuanced look at transition.
Try asking yourself some questions: Is autism the reason behind your transition? Could it be OCD? Could it be body dysmorphia? Could it be subconscious discomfort at being gay (if you are) or being a female? Could it be some other reason that could be the cause of transitioning?
I’m not against transition because it can be life-saving for some. But I am convinced that more ‘screening’ for autism, body dysmorphia etc. needs to be done before someone is cleared for medical transition.
You have associated being cute and doing things you want to do with womanhood and femaleness. That’s not necessarily true. You can be a boy, you can be a man and like them, despite what society may think. You know you aren’t trans, you’re just a male who wants to do typical female hobbies and that is alright.