You can’t really do anything about it but feel guilty. I believe trans people exist but I believe it’s extremely extremely rare; the likelihood of two trans people sharing a school or class just isn’t right.

I feel guilt too but honestly the longer I detrans the longer I realise it’s their decision to make, just like I made mine. I was extremely mentally unwell and still am and honestly I just wish people would more so help and treat these individuals well enough that the realisation may come sooner or later.

I think because to some extent trans people do recognise that gender for them may equal biology or having biological aspects of their choice of gender. However, I also think it's pretty obvious. Societies view of the genders is "gender is whatever secondary characteristics I can see on you." So society will people a person with a beard as male, even if they don't identify that way. I think as much as some trans people say they don't care about gender and fight the expectations, to make being accepted in society and being accepted as their chosen gender easier, it's just a lot easier to present as that.

On top of that, we are grown up with, "this is what makes you a man, this is what makes you a woman," so I do think it's completely normal for trans people to think "well I've grown up being told being a man is having a penis and therefore I want to have that."

I honestly think I transitioned out of fear of being SA for the rest of my life. As you say, how society treats women. I was also a tomboy and just got it in my mind it would be easier if I was a boy. I think what woke me up was realising regardless of whether I’m a man or a woman men will still somehow assault me if they want to and very evidently did post transition, and escaping to being a man to avoid that or feel stronger wouldn’t help me! I still have dysphoria, but now I have it over not looking woman enough then man enough and it’s honestly the worst thing ever. I don’t think I’ll ever be truly happy.

I think I’d rather lose my mates than strangers online CONSTANTLY telling me to end myself. Once this is over I am going to distance myself so far from the community and luckily I can pass as female currently once I shave because I was always andro I’m going to pretend this all never happened.

Honestly it takes a while to start feminising again. I’ve only been off T for 2 years and honestly only just started feminising. I noticed my mental health took a dip first of all, my periods came back within two months. My facial hair grows in a bit sparser now, my leg and thigh hair grows in sparser and not as dark. My skin is softer although spotty because my periods and hormones ect.

Also just read your comments about you harassing detrans women you fucking weirdo, go somewhere else and cry about your tits. You’re the reason people hate detransitioners and even explained a week ago you weren’t even sure about your own identify so LMAOOOOOO the whole “I don’t believe this trans BS” which is essentially what you’re saying is HILARIOUS. You are 40 years fucking old, go harass women elsewhere.

I feel bad saying this but I don’t think testosterone stole fertility from you. One thing we never check before starting testosterone is often fertility, which is why the NHS usually offers egg storage because you may want a child in the future and it may be harder to conceive however, you are never to know if you’re infertile to begin with. You may have always been infertile.

I was told before testosterone I was infertile, at seventeen years old. I went on T for four years, eight months off and I was pregnant and my baby boy is asleep next to me. Infact I know people who have gotten pregnant 10 years on T.

Conceiving is simply luck and if you’re looking to blame it on something so you can grieve then fine maybe do this, but I don’t think is strictly true and you can keep trying.

Gender is extremely tough for some people and I think it's valid for them to decide to do that. I am detransitioning, my partner is a retransitioner. All I want is for her to be happy and if that means transitioning because her gender dysphoria is debilitating, then that's what I want. I'd rather a trans partner, or a confused partner, than a dead one.

As long as people do what they need to do, to be happy, that's all that matters. Transition, detransition, retransition, it's all fine.

Thank you for this input. A lot of my detransition is reversing and recognising my internal misogyny and issues with my female body. I appreciate this point of view and I do agree the constant acceptance of people reduces the chance of any skepticism that may help some individuals realise they are or aren’t trans.

I do hate the radical acceptance of things in the lgbt community generally, for example, if you say therefore you are. I’ve met alot of people say they’re asexual then go out of their way to sexualise themselves and engage in sex constantly and say “Well I don’t crave it and asexual people can have sex what’s your problem?” And I think that’s definitely an issue within the trans community sometimes is some people struggle with body issues and some individuals are willing to say “Well you must be trans!” And some are but some are people like me with eating disorders, body dysmorphia, and internalised misogyny or trauma.