When I identified as gender fluid for a few months my freshmen year of high school, I remember how angry I would get when trans women were told to stay out of the women's restroom. At the time, I saw no problem with it. But now, years later, I can't fathom the idea of a male feeling entitled to female spaces all because of their transition.

I think it's easier to understand why it's such a weird entitlement to have when you turn back the pages and realize that we have separate spaces for a reason. Stuff happens, and when they do, you want to be comfortable and know that the people around you are all the same sex as you as well. More than that, there's a threat to women's security when this happens. With the new wave of transitioners and how easy it has become to claim to be trans, our spaces grow less and less secure by the day. You never know who is actually telling the truth or not. And it's socially taboo to question people's motives.

In all honestly, I'm okay with trans people using the restroom that alines with the gender they're going for. But the moment they begin to get angry at the sex that uses that restroom for feeling uncomfortable, that's when it becomes my problem. Because that's the moment I realize it isn't about being comfortable. It's about gaining validation from everyone else and disturbing others' lives to get it.

I don't think I've ever resonated with a post on this subreddit more than I have just now. For me, though, it was my freshman year of high school (I am now a junior).

I was also friends with a lot of lgbtq people who had a giant influence over me. And my parents, like yours, weren't big on this either and never talked about it, nor did they know about what my friends' influence was doing to me.

For me, however, it was two friends in particular who made me think that I was genderfluid. Both of them ran and still run with the belief that being homosexual and/or transgender makes you ten times cooler. And that if it makes you euphoric to call yourself the opposite sex, then you must be trangender (something that, even now, I still fail to understand the reasoning behind). For one of them, if it wasn't gay, the excitement wasn't thrilling enough.

I dragged myself out of that situation quickly after learning about detransitioners, and after watching Matt Walsh's documentary 'What is a Woman?', - the most notable trait about it being the people's inability to recognize that there is a vast, vast line between trans- men/women and men/women.

The other friend, actually argued with me when I brought up detransitioners when I was talking to her about my new conclusion and the trend that I've noticed when it comes to minors identifying as lgbtq today; I see it a lot more in females than I do males, and it's typically the emo, socially awkward kids that do it. In her own words, the amount of detransitioners is "only, like, one or two people." The stupidity of it all being that she claims minorities are just as important as majorities. The lgbtq community is a minority, and detransitioners, a minority off of that, why do we talk so much about one, and nothing about the other? And why is it okay to leave out the detransition and desister rates when discussing the topic, but it isn't okay not to talk about it at all in school's curriculums in today's world?

The whole thing is honestly still so surreal to me. Sometimes, I feel like I'll wake up to find it was nothing more than a crazy dream.

Embarrassing as it may seem, this is such an important part of yourself to rediscover. Redefining your womanhood and what that truly is has grown to be such a hard task in our current times. And although you may have lost some, and are bound to lose more if you decide that detransition is right for you, you will find those who will respect the leaps and bounds that you underwent in order to come to this revelation. On top of that, realizing that you may have pushed this on those close to you is huge. I believe that this is a good start on your road to recovery, if not a great start. Look into yourself before looking to those around you in search of answers and I believe that this will go better than you think.

There's either a lymph node or a gland in your armpit (I can't remember what it's called exactly). But it'll inflame for certain common reasons. I get this as well every now and then, I think it has to do with blockage in your pores or something like that, but I could be wrong. It is normal, though, and there is nothing to be really worried over. Your body is likely just reacting to a common ingredient in deodorants. I used to get this every now and then, typically after shaving and then using an old deodorant I used to use.

Honestly, who are the people you are close with and talk with most? and are they passionate about any narratives around the transgender topic? What are your morals?

For me, personally, my friends, back when I socially transitioned before realizing my mistake, had, by that point, drilled it into my head that being transgender was "so cool." And that being euphoric about thinking of yourself as the opposite sex meant you were probably trans.

Also, you should ask yourself under what circumstances would transition be necessary and why? Being gender dysphoric should not be the sole circumstance for doing such.

Definitely this. Answering these questions and understanding why we differentiate between men and women so heavily will be helpful to figuring out whether transition or detransition will be the right path for you.

I hope you are able to come out on the other side of this feeling more sure of yourself, OP.

Objectively, yes. Depending on how you, as an individual, saw it, no.

Women have obviously gone through a lot of discrimination throughout history, both modern and old. We had to fight for the ability just to vote, to have our own sports, our own private facilities, etc. When men come into a head space of transitioning into a woman, for me, personally, it all boils down to whether or not they are respectful. If you are a male in women's spaces, even if you genuinely are trying to transition, if a woman is uncomfortable and asks you to leave, you should because no matter how much society tries to push this narrative that trans women and men have different agendas (and also the fact that any man can now just say he's a woman and get a stamp of approval), you just fundamentally speaking do not belong in that space. Whether your intentions were innocent or predatory, it doesn't matter. You just don't.

If, genuinely, you had no intention of harm and did what you could to avoid it at all costs in that area of your life, then, as an individual, no. Your transition did not. The problem is not individual transitioners; it's transitioners as a whole who have suddenly forgotten about those societal boundaries that were put in place to protect women from men of all kinds, not just the sex-offender or peeping-tom down the street. They were put in place to create comfortability away from men. Period.

Future girls and women have a right to spaces that aren't invaded by transwomen. If they don't, then these private facilities, by definition, will simply cease to exist. That is my main concern with trans women and men transitioning in our modern political landscape.

Thank you for saying this. Though I don't agree with every single little piece, I've made a promise to God that I would help those around me to see the love that He has for all of us, no matter where we come from or what we've done, we are all children of God, it just takes some of us longer to realize. He will heal the broken and give strength to the weak.

I am so glad that I've come to find peace in him. I ran from Him for years, telling myself that I didn't believe, and yet, as it would turn out, I was simultaneously talking to Him with every step I took when attempting to walk away. He gave me peace last year, and now I can finally breathe. Accepting Him into my life was the best decision I've ever made. I grew up in church, but never have I felt him the way that I do now. I pray every day that those suffering could find peace in Him as well.