This story is from the comments by /u/Mindless_Low_1047 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not show clear red flags of being inauthentic. The user's posts are consistent, detailed, and reflect a long-term, nuanced personal history with transition, detransition, and the surrounding community.
Key points supporting authenticity:
- Personal Narrative: The user provides a consistent and detailed backstory spanning over 20 years, including specific medical procedures (orchiectomy, gynecomastia surgery), medications (spironolactone, estradiol, methyltestosterone), and the physical and emotional effects of these experiences.
- Complex, Nuanced Views: The comments express a complex perspective that has evolved over time, criticizing both the trans movement and the stigma against detransitioners. This is consistent with a passionate individual who has lived through the experience.
- Internal Consistency: The advice given is repetitive in its core themes (e.g., cautioning young people, focusing on health, the difficulty of finding intimacy post-transition) but is tailored to different questions, which is typical of a person with strong, settled opinions.
- Plausible Motivation: The user's stated motivations—such as prioritizing physical health and rejecting what they see as the "social contagion" aspect of modern transgenderism—align with common sentiments expressed by other detransitioners.
While the account is highly active and opinionated, this is not inherently suspicious for someone who is passionate about a deeply personal and often traumatic life experience. The comments read as the perspective of a real, if very forceful, individual.
About me
My journey started from a deep discomfort with the drives and expectations of being male, and I lived as a trans woman for over twenty years. I had surgery and took hormones, but after my orchiectomy, estrogen made me weak, foggy, and unhealthy. I realized I needed to prioritize my health over a trans identity, so I found a doctor who helped me switch to a low dose of testosterone. Now, I live comfortably without defining myself by gender, and I've regained my strength and mental clarity. I believe true contentment comes from finding stability in life, not from medical transition.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated. I’m over 50 now, and looking back, it started from a place of deep discomfort with the drives and expectations that came with being male. I never felt like a "real" trans person who was born in the wrong body. For me, it was more about being overwhelmed by testosterone—the constant lust, the morning erections, the feeling of being a slave to my own biology. I just wanted it to stop.
I was openly trans for over 20 years. I took hormones, had a bilateral orchiectomy at 40, and had some facial surgery. I thought medical transition was the answer to finding peace. After the orchiectomy, I stayed on estrogen, and that’s when things went downhill for me physically. I gained a lot of weight, developed gynecomastia that made me look unhealthy, and became incredibly weak. I went from being able to bench press 150 pounds to not even being able to lift an empty 45-pound bar. I also felt a mental fogginess; I worked in tech and felt my cognitive skills weren't as sharp.
I reached a point where I looked in the mirror and asked, "What the hell did I do to my body?" I realized I needed to prioritize my overall health over a "trans health" paradigm. The effort of maintaining a full-time feminine presentation became exhausting. I got tired of wearing makeup and realized I was perfectly happy with what I saw in the mirror when I woke up. I also became disillusioned with the trans community itself. I saw a lot of immaturity and felt that transgenderism started recruiting children, which I wanted no part of.
I knew I needed to change course, but it was hard to find a doctor who understood. Most endocrinologists just wanted to keep me on estrogen. Thank god I finally found one who listened. He took me off estrogen and put me on a very low dose of methyltestosterone. It wasn't anywhere near a typical male level, but it made a world of difference. My bone density came back, my strength returned, I lost weight, and my mental clarity improved. I also had gynecomastia surgery to remove the breast tissue, which was a straightforward procedure that helped me feel comfortable in my body again.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's fluid, and people change. I don't believe medical transition is the right path for young people. Adolescence is a confusing time for everyone, and adding medical interventions on top of that is a mistake. I’ve seen many people come and go from the trans community; it’s not a fixed state. For me, the key was finding a middle ground where I could be comfortable without drastic medicalization. I don’t bother telling people I’m trans anymore. If someone asks, I shut the conversation down. My goal is to live a healthy, productive life, not to be defined by my gender.
I have regrets about taking estrogen because of the negative health effects it had on me. I don’t regret the orchiectomy because it achieved my main goal of eliminating the sex drive I found so distressing, but I do regret not understanding the full physical consequences beforehand. I would tell anyone considering this path to slow down, especially if they are young. Ask yourself hard questions about your sexuality and what you really want from life. Transition doesn’t bring euphoria; it’s a short-term event in the long span of your life. True contentment comes from finding stability and putting energy into life itself.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 40 | Had a bilateral orchiectomy. |
| 40-41 | Took estrogen after orchiectomy; experienced significant weight gain, gynecomastia, muscle weakness, and brain fog. |
| 41 | Stopped estrogen and found a new endocrinologist who prescribed low-dose methyltestosterone. |
| 41 | Underwent gynecomastia surgery to remove breast tissue. |
| 41+ | Focused on overall health through diet and exercise, regaining strength and mental clarity. |
| 60+ (Present) | Live a comfortable life, no longer actively presenting as female or involved in the trans community. Focused on long-term health and contentment. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Mindless_Low_1047:
It was not like this 10-20 years ago. people came and went from the trans community all the time and we respected the decisions.
Now with the trans-minors and phony woke support, personal decisions are no longer respected. Transgenderism is imploding before our eyes. It has strayed so far from what it claims to be.
>You should under no circumstances get surgeries unless you are 100% sure you need it.
This is why I have always supported trans people paying for their own care. When you have to save and plan the finances, you get a much better cost, harm, benefit analysis in your head and avoid regrets.
>I think my friends would all judge me
I ask not you, but young people, where is all this coming from? Has trans become a clique club.
I am over 50 and have known many who stepped back and away from transgenderism and everyone understood and wished them well and always welcomed their continued friendship. I knew folks that invited me over to meet their wife and kids, have dinner after they gave it up. Something has gone wrong with the TG if those who walk away are judged.
I will be blunt
Men like real vaginas.
They like trans women as a kinky kick, like a hooker. Most see trans-women as easy prey, sluts for their libido. (there are exceptions)
If you become post-op trans, you are most likely going to be a trans-bian or some other alternative.
Back when I was involved in gay night life as a trans woman, I would hear hetro-trans women speak as if there were men out there waiting for them. And I would say, men can sniff out women like a blood hound, if there were men eager for trans women, they would be lined up outside with hot cars waiting for us.
Nothing wrong with this book, it should be considered.
Anyone who thinks they are trans, who starts being trans, knows someone who is trans.....
Needs to read up and become an informed person on all perspectives of transgenderism, the good, bad, and ugly.
You are 18, culture is promoting experimentation.
40, 30, 20 years ago, experimenting with gay, lesbian was a thing.
It went like this....If you think about it, try it, you might be gay...
I have no problem with those who are, but implementing transgenderism is not like kissing and hugging on another girl for one night. It is irreversible body alteration.
Stop! Do not be swayed by social media trends on transgenderism.
You are fine being upset.
Who knows what cooperate training they are given to be tolerant and show verbal acceptance to everything. Customer service should really just be polite and give good service, beyond that comments on a person's appearance life easily flop. Unless customer initiates.
The damage to the intestines from SRS is not unusual. It does happen where bowel is perforated and function lost or even where feces comes into the created vaginal cavity.
If you want to be trans is one thing, I really suggest you think long and hard (few years) about SRS.
I don't really see how getting my facial hair removed is really that much different than shaving every day
I'm still a virgin, I've never been intimate with a woman and wouldn't know what it's like
Please stop any idea of HRT or transitioning at this time, my advice is you have not discovered yourself sexually and are not ready for transgenderism and what it brings
There is a LOT of immaturity in the trans community. The desire to find group acceptance and love by going along with everything is quite strong.
Been my experience 20+ years after being openly trans, the path to trans happiness wherever you go or land is being true to yourself. To think there are TERFs against you and being swept up into antagonist conflict is analogous and productive as being swept up into a discussion of White vs Black.
Stick to long term goals and I mean real long term...like staying healthy and living to 80+ as trans, to being a productive member of society making a contribution through work, family, financial security as you get older. You will soon realize how trivial TERF vs others is as compared to YOU vs Human Life in this competitive world.