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About me
I was born male and was a very feminine child who thought I’d grow up to be a woman. Learning about being transgender at 18 felt like the answer to all my confusion, so I medically transitioned for over a decade. I now see my discomfort was with society's view of men, not my body, and I was trying to escape that. I deeply regret my irreversible surgery, which left my body feeling permanently altered and wrong. I’m now a straight man living with the painful consequences of a decision I can’t take back.
My detransition story
My name isn't important. I'm just someone who walked down a path for over a decade and has now had to turn back. I'm writing this to make sense of it for myself and maybe to help others see some of the signs I missed.
I was born male, but from a very young age, I was feminine. My parents let me be myself; I had long hair, played with dolls, and was often mistaken for a girl. I think that made me feel different and set me apart from other boys. I remember genuinely believing as a little kid that I would just magically turn into a woman when I grew up. When I realized that wasn't going to happen, I felt a deep confusion. I thought, "Well, I must be gay, then." But that didn't feel right either.
When I first learned about being transgender, it felt like a lightbulb moment. It explained everything: why I felt different, why I was feminine, that childhood belief. I completely bought into the idea that I was a girl trapped in a boy's body and that medical transition was the only way to be happy and authentic. It felt like a solution to all my problems.
Looking back, I see now that my environment played a huge part. My parents separated when I was very young and they still hate each other to this day. I never had a positive male role model in my life. The message I got from the world around me was that men were basically violent, stupid, and evil, and that women were probably better off without them. I internalized that. How could I want to be part of something that was painted as so terrible? Transitioning felt like an escape from that.
I medically transitioned. I took hormones for years and eventually I got irreversible surgery. I thought it would finally make me feel complete. For a while, I think I convinced myself it had. But the feeling of peace never really came. Instead, I was left with a body that feels permanently altered and wrong in a different way. My family is devastated by what I did to myself. If I had only transitioned socially, I think they would have been relieved when I detransitioned. But the physical changes are a constant reminder.
I don't think my understanding of gender is very complex. I fell for a very simple story: you can be born in the wrong body. Now, I see that my discomfort was with puberty and the expectations placed on men, not with my body itself. I hated the idea of becoming a man because of all the negative baggage that came with it. I think a lot of my struggle was really about low self-esteem, anxiety, and a deep longing to escape from a world that felt hostile.
I have many regrets. I regret not looking deeper into my feelings before making permanent changes. I regret not questioning the influences around me. I regret the irreversible surgery most of all. My sexuality is mostly theoretical now; I've never been in a relationship, but I know I'm only interested in women, which makes me straight. It's strange to admit that after living as a woman for so long.
This journey has left me feeling like my body is a consumer product that was modified, and that's a deeply upsetting feeling. I see now that the ideology I followed was, in some ways, as arrogant and unhealthy as the worldviews I was trying to escape from. The world feels indecent for letting this happen, for not offering better answers to kids who are just confused and hurting.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Very Young | - | Allowed to be feminine, had long hair, played with dolls, often mistaken for a girl. |
| Young Child | - | Believed I would magically turn into a woman when I grew up. |
| Early Teens | - | Realized I wouldn't become a woman, assumed I must be homosexual. |
| 18 | ~2014 | Learned about transgender identity; it resonated deeply and decided to transition. |
| 18-28 | 2014-2024 | Took hormones for over a decade. |
| Mid-20s | ~2020 | Underwent irreversible "bottom surgery". |
| 29 | 2025 | Detransitioned. Living with the permanent consequences of surgery. |
Top Comments by /u/Mishiranu_Tenjou:
Was anyone here raised gender neutral? To what extent?
Yes, I was able to keep my hair long, play with dolls and engage in whatever feminine activities I wanted. People have initially assumed I was a girl for most of my life.
Did it influence your decision to transition?
Probably. Being feminine made me feel different and alienated me from many. I remember as a young child thinking that I would magically turn into a woman at some point. Later when I realized that things do not work that way I wrongly assumed I would become a homosexual. When I was exposed to the idea of transgenderism it obviously resonated with me and my prior experiences.
How did your family react to your detransition?
I had an irreversible surgery so they are devastated. If I had not done so I think they would have been relieved.
You called people "potatoes", you made fun of healthy males (that you call "unmodified") and you called post-op mtf genitalia "desirable" and "all that is needed for sexual fulfillment". I view this as mean-spirited, disrespectful and fetishistic. You also self-identified as having gynandromorphophilia, which, as far as I know, is a fetish for feminized males.
I am not looking to get into an argument or to change your mind, this is not why I created this account. I sincerely hope I am not causing you any distress by answering your questions.
Calling my genitalia "a specific make and model" and comparing it to a smartphone as if it's just some consumer good, that is very upsetting to me.
Me not understanding half of what you say has less to do with the English language and the vocabulary that you use and more to do with the ideas that you are trying to convey. I transitioned over a decade ago essentially because I bought into the idea that I was a "girl trapped into a boy's body" and that this was the only way for me to be happy. What you are writing about is much more complex and feels very removed from my experience.
They probably were convinced that "gender-affirming care" is "life-saving medicine" like trans people themselves. This is the message continuously affirmed by all the major authorities in the health care system. If they ever feel doubt, they have a strong incentive to engage in self-delusion. Abandoning this belief would not only amount to career suicide, but also force them to confront the horrifying moral implications of having destroyed the lives of hundreds or even thousands of patients they were meant to help.
When one think about the particulars of transition it is hard to fail to realize how insane it all is. Maybe this has simply become routine for them.
This world is so indecent.
What you wrote is so disrespectful, so fetishistic, so mean-spirited, so unhealthy, it makes me very uncomfortable. It also reminds me of how insane and arrogant I was when I transitioned.
I still want to say that I agree with some of what you wrote. Like how the lack of positive heterosexual relationships in our lives or exposure to anti-male rhetoric can lead us towards a transgender identity. My parents separated when I was very young and still to this day they hate each other. I have never been to a marriage or been close to a new-born and there has never been a positive male role model in my life. The overall message that I received from my environment -- and society at large -- as I was growing up was that men were violent, stupid, evil, and outdated, women probably were better without them. How can one develop happily in such a world? It's just so wrong.
I do not understand half of what you are saying now and I find the other half is starting to upset me.
My sexuality is mostly theoretical at this point. I have only ever considered being in a romantic relationship with a woman so that would make me straight yes.