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About me
I'm a female who started transitioning as a teenager because I was deeply uncomfortable with my developing body and struggled with depression. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, believing it was the answer to my problems. I later realized my desire to transition was fueled by internalized homophobia and a need to escape my other mental health issues. I now live with permanent changes like a deeper voice and infertility that I regret. My journey has taught me that true peace comes from accepting yourself, not from changing your body to fit in.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with my body during puberty, especially developing breasts. I hated them and wanted them gone. I also struggled a lot with depression and anxiety, and I had very low self-esteem. I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere.
I found a lot of information and community online, and that's where I learned about transitioning. It felt like an answer to all my problems. I was told that if I changed my body, I would finally feel happy and like myself. I decided to transition. I chose to take testosterone, and I chose to have top surgery to remove my breasts.
For a while, I did feel better. But after some time, I started to feel unsure again. I began to see more research and hear from other people in detransition communities about the side effects and irreversible changes. I remembered that when I was a teenager, adults had warned me about these exact things, but I didn't trust them back then. I thought they were just being conservative or hateful.
Now, I don't truly believe in transgenderism. That's just my personal opinion based on my own experience. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from not being comfortable with who I was. I was a female who was attracted to other females, and I think I had some internalized homophobia. I felt like it was bad or wrong to be a gay woman, so becoming a man seemed like a way out. I also think I was using transition as a form of escapism from my other problems, like my depression and low self-worth.
I don't blame anyone else for my choices. I made the decision to take hormones and have surgery. I think the system is flawed because it allows people who are mentally unwell to make such drastic decisions too easily, but ultimately, I am the one who did it.
I have some regrets about my transition, especially the permanent changes. My voice is permanently deeper, I have more body hair, and I am now infertile. These are things I have to live with. My advice to anyone questioning is to go to therapy and really work on your other issues first. Try to clarify your mind before you make any big decisions about your body. You don't have to change yourself to fit into society. It's okay to be a masculine woman or a feminine man. Just try to be yourself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. |
| 16 | Found online communities and decided I wanted to transition. |
| 18 | Chose to start taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Chose to have top surgery to remove my breasts. |
| 24 | Began to feel unsure and started questioning my transition. |
| 25 | Stopped taking testosterone and started identifying as detransitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/MishuLeChat:
As someone once told me when I was in your situation: Detransition is not for everyone. Nowadays I don't truly believe in transgenderism, but that's only my opinion, if you're happy living being a trans guy, then it's okay. You don't have to force yourself into trying to be something else, it sounds like you are struggling with a couple of problems besides your gender identity, I suggest you go to therapy and try to clarify your mind, then you can think about yourself and who you are.
I had a similar experience. Trans people usually get mad when I tell I'm not completely sure of transitioning, or that I'd rather be called with my birth pronouns. I thought the detrans community would be the same, but when I expressed the insecurity I felt about being trans and some other experiences, they helped me and told me everything was going to be okay and that I should search for my happiness and confort being trans or detrans.
Perhaps it's because you were raised by a conservative culture that didn't allow you to express who you are, and you've been overthinking about it. But, being a gay man is not bad, having girlish actitudes neither. You don't have to change to fit in society, just try to be yourself and express how you want to express.
I wouldn't know what to think, 'cause everyone usually are listening what they want to listen. When I was a teenager, I was told about the irreversible and bad changes my body would have if I was on HRT and puberty blockers, but I didn't trust them. Nowadays, I've seen more research about the side effects and Detransition communities, but when I tell anything about that to a trans / supportive person, they usually get some studies contradicting what I just said, and then I find other studies proving my point, and I usually end up desisting because people will always believe what it's convenient to them
Okay, my opinion might be unpopular or misunderstood, but... They didn't made your mistakes, you did it. You chose your surgery, you chose to take pills and you chose to transition. Of course there is a lack on a system that allows mentally ill people take drastic decisions that easily, but you can't own up them for something that you did to yourself.