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Reddit user /u/Moshegirl's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 20 -> Detransitioned: 25
female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
now infertile
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
suspicious account
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About me

I was born female and started feeling a deep discomfort with my body when I hit puberty. I transitioned in my early twenties, taking testosterone and having top surgery, thinking it was the solution to my pain. I now see my struggle was really about depression and internalized homophobia, not gender. I have serious regrets about the permanent changes to my body, which I see as a kind of trauma. I'm now focused on healing from the underlying issues with the help of a good therapist.

My detransition story

My journey with gender started when I was very young, though I didn't have the words for it then. I was born female, and from the moment puberty began, I felt a deep and profound discomfort with my developing body. I hated my breasts; they felt alien and wrong on me, like they didn't belong. This wasn't just teenage awkwardness; it was a deep-seated feeling of my body betraying me.

Looking back, I can see that a lot of my feelings were tangled up with other issues. I struggled with depression and very low self-esteem for years. I now realize I was also dealing with internalized homophobia. Accepting that I was attracted to women felt impossible in the environment I was in, and I think on some level, transitioning felt like a more acceptable way to navigate those feelings. It was a form of escapism from myself.

I found a lot of my initial information and community online. The ideas made sense to me at the time and offered a clear solution to my pain: I was a man trapped in a woman's body. My friends were supportive of this new identity, which felt validating, but also cemented the path I was on. I didn't get the exploratory therapy I truly needed. Instead, I found a "gender-affirming" therapist who, after very few sessions, wrote the letter I needed to start medical transition. I knew exactly what to say to get that approval.

I started testosterone in my early twenties. The changes were rapid and, at first, felt exciting. I was finally taking control. But the underlying problems—the depression, the anxiety, the feeling of not being right—never went away. They just got quieter for a little while, masked by the novelty of change.

My biggest regret is my top surgery. I had a double mastectomy. I now see it as a permanent, irreversible solution to what were largely temporary and psychological problems. I was physically mutilated by a system that was supposed to help me. I am now infertile, and that is a profound loss I have to live with every day. I see my experience as a kind of PTSD; I was a victim of a horrible, life-changing car wreck that I willingly got into, but without understanding the consequences.

I benefited enormously from finally finding a therapist who was not captured by trans ideology. She helped me work through the trauma, the internalized homophobia, and the root causes of my depression without just affirming a mistaken identity. That kind of non-affirming, exploratory therapy is what I needed from the beginning.

I don't believe my struggle was ever truly about gender. It was about trauma, self-hatred, and a desperate search for an identity that would make the pain stop. I was influenced by a society and medical community that offered a quick fix instead of deep healing.

I have serious regrets about transitioning. The physical changes are permanent, and I have to find a way to make peace with a body that has been forever altered. But I’ve also learned to not put all the blame on myself. I was young and vulnerable, and the professionals I trusted failed me. I'm now on the other side, trying to heal and live with a wisdom I never asked for.

Age Event
12 Began puberty; intense discomfort and hated my developing breasts.
20 Began identifying as transgender, influenced by online communities and friends.
21 Started testosterone hormone therapy after receiving a letter from a gender-affirming therapist.
22 Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy).
25 Realized transition was a mistake; began the process of detransitioning.
26 Stopped testosterone. Began therapy focused on underlying trauma and depression.

Top Comments by /u/Moshegirl:

6 comments • Posting since September 11, 2022
Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) explains why they reject the term "transphobic," arguing it is not a real word, functions as an in-group slur, and inaccurately implies a fear of trans people.
45 pointsJan 13, 2025
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Never been comfortable with the term “transphobic”. Outside adherents of trans ideology it has no meaning. It’s not a real word. Sure, it has meaning among adherents of gender ideology. It’s like a peer or in-group term. In English a phobia refers to “fear”. So when a person or thing is is called transphobic is the accuser saying that one is afraid of those who are trans? I don’t use the word because using that term validates name callers. Too, the term trans says nothing about the kind of transition another is experienceing.

Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) explains that SRS regret is not solely the individual's fault, comparing it to a young person joining the military without understanding the consequences. They advise the OP to see themselves as a victim of a mutilating event, to seek non-ideological help for PTSD, and to focus on healing.
38 pointsJan 13, 2025
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Look….i believe that therapists, prescribing healthcare workers, surgeons and society and your youth are largely responsible for the choice you made. It’s like a young man who joins the Marines to seek adventure yet not having a clue. Please don’t put it all on yourself. Just take a slice of responsibility. You could see yourself as a victim of a horrible life changing car wreck, was physically mutilated, and must now learn to deal with the consequences. It won’t be easy but others have done it. I see PTSD in your writings and should you ever seek a therapist/ psychiatry/ lawyer be certain that they have not been captured by trans ideology. Give yourself time to heal my friend and you will come out the other side with wisdom you did not ask for.

Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) discusses a lawsuit against a therapist and gender clinic, suggesting legal action can be healing and hopes for future class action suits against Planned Parenthood.
21 pointsNov 22, 2022
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I might consider going further and suing that therapist. It’s being done here in my hometown in a situation similar to yours. There is an organization who is funding her attorneys fees. Both the therapist and the gender clinic are being sued. I’m a therapist and I support this victim 100%. My hope is that eventually there will be class action suits brought against planned parenthood and their therapists. I often wonder if bringing legal action against these hacks can be healing.

Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) explains how therapists are pressured to approve transition and how patients know what to say to get a diagnosis, also criticizing Planned Parenthood's informed consent model.
12 pointsJan 13, 2025
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Unfortunately, most psychologists/ psychotherapists are captured by trans ideology and support medicalization. I know this to be a fact. Few therapists have the courage to refuse writing a letter of “gender affirmation or diagnosis of gender dysphoria. Besides, most people come into the therapists office knowing exactly what to say to get that letter. Too, here in the states, many Planned Parenthood clinics will gladly start a person on HRT meds believing they will be saving a life. What a lie.

Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) explains that SRS regret is largely the responsibility of therapists, surgeons, and society, advising the OP to see themselves as a victim of a mutilating event and to seek help from professionals not captured by trans ideology.
6 pointsJan 13, 2025
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Look….i believe that therapists, prescribing healthcare workers, surgeons and society and your youth are largely responsible for the choice you made. It’s like a young man who joins the Marines to seek adventure yet not having a clue. Please don’t put it all on yourself. Just take a slice of responsibility. You could see yourself as a victim of a horrible life changing car wreck, was physically mutilated, and must now learn to deal with the consequences. It won’t be easy but others have done it. I see PTSD in your writings and should you ever seek a therapist/ psychiatry/ lawyer be certain that they have not been captured by trans ideology.

Reddit user Moshegirl (questioned awhile but never ended up transitioning) advises shopping for a therapist, recommending against "gender affirming" ones and suggesting to call and ask for exploratory gender therapy upfront.
3 pointsSep 11, 2022
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Good choice Q ! Shopping for a therapist is like shopping for any other service. I recommend staying away from so called “gender affirming “ therapists. Shop around. Call them and ask for what you want prior to making an appointment. If you are asking for exploratory therapy related to gender then simply say so.