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The user's comments are highly personal, emotionally consistent, and reflect a nuanced, introspective perspective common among detransitioners. They describe a specific, painful realization (the inability to become a biological woman) and offer detailed, repetitive, but not copy-pasted, advice that stems from their own lived experience. The passion and frustration expressed align with the genuine trauma of the detransition experience.
About me
I was born male and always felt different, wishing I was a girl to escape my discomfort. I transitioned to live as a woman, believing it was my only solution for years. I eventually realized I could never be female and that living that way felt like a hollow performance. I have since detransitioned and am working on accepting myself as a man while addressing my underlying depression and anxiety. I'm now learning to see myself as an individual, not just an idea of what a man should be.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I was born male, and from a young age, I was always a bit more feminine than the other boys. I felt different and awkward, especially when puberty hit. My teenage years were extremely uncomfortable; I started to hate myself and my body more and more. I remember wishing I was a girl from a pretty young age. I think a lot of it was about wanting to be different and escape the negative feelings I had about myself.
For years, I tried to cover up those feelings and just fit in as a normal guy, but that just made my mental health worse. I became really unwell and finally decided to transition. I thought that was the only way to fix the deep discomfort I felt, which I called dysphoria.
I lived as a woman for years. I tried to live as truly as I could. But eventually, I hit a wall. I had to face a simple, brutal truth: I am not able to actually be a woman. I will never be a biological woman. I can't have children. The surgeries are serious, come with complications, and don't create what I was truly longing for. I realized I had been comparing myself to other men and women instead of just thinking of myself as an individual.
Living as a trans woman started to feel hollow, like I was an actor in a play, just wearing a costume. Even if you "pass," that feeling of it being an imitation never really goes away. It’s a lonely existence. Dating is incredibly difficult and relationships are a real pain. You’re always aware of what you're not.
I decided to detransition. I'm going back to living as male. It’s not always easy and I still have doubts and struggles, but I'm working through them piece by piece. I'm learning to deal with my gender dysphoria by understanding why I felt that way in the first place, instead of just trying to change my outside to match a feeling inside. I'm working on fixing the root issues, which for me were low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. I'm learning to see myself as an individual, not just as part of some collective idea of what a "man" is supposed to be.
I do have regrets about transitioning. I regret not facing my deeper issues before making such permanent changes to my life and my body. I wish I had tried to understand why I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin instead of rushing into medical changes. My advice to anyone, especially young people, is to be very wary. Really dig deep and figure out the "why" before you do anything you can't take back.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Young Child | Felt feminine, wished I was a girl. |
| Teenager | Puberty was extremely awkward and uncomfortable. Developed severe self-hatred and gender dysphoria. |
| Early 20s | After years of denial and declining mental health, I decided to transition and began living as a woman. |
| Mid/Late 20s | Lived as a woman for several years but realized I could never be a biological female. Felt a hollow, "fake" existence. |
| 27 | Made the decision to detransition and return to living as male. Began working on underlying mental health issues. |
Top Comments by /u/Mountain-Rip-8546:
I realize I am not able to actually be a woman. I am.not.able to have kids. Surgery is serious with issues and not really as effective. Basically I am not able to be a biological woman, and I only realized that after transitioning. I'll never have the same experiences or life. It feels fake, so i want to be myself without doubt. An issue is that i always compared myself to men or women instead of thinking of myself as a individual.
Plus relationships are a pain as trans.
Nothing. There really isn't a true trans. I had severe gender dysphoria and transitioned. Now I am going back because it isnt enough. I want to be the true me. You can deal with gender dysphoria by learning why you feel that way and working on fixing it.
Even if you don't know, Most men are taught to be respectful to their girlfriend, so it shouldn't be an issue for the OP. I feel like a lot of MTF can be weird, at least for a time. That's my observation
OP should be more firm if she is not being treated right.
Ths truth is you'll never be a woman, and I eventually wasnt able to accept that. It just feels like a hollow existence where you are an actor within a play costumed for your role, even if you pass. At that point I started coming to terms with myself and being able to see myself as male again. I still have doubts snd struggles, but I overcome them piece by piece.
feel free to ask anything!
I'm not a twin. You are in a tricky situation because coming out as trans takes a level of confidence and strong will that makes changing someones mind quite hard. If you are too against it, he will likely reject any of your words and transition, and being too supportive means he will go ahead with greater confidence. You can ask a lot of people here; coming out gives people a bit of a high that feels like freedom. The Euphoria can be very powerful.
To answer your question more directly, i recommend trying to being open minded and getting to know exactly what thought processes triggered him to begin transitioning. The reasons are important too, but the steps he takes to reason why he needs to transition and thinks he should be a woman are important to counter his reasoning. Liking feminine things, women's clothing, and being jealous of woman does not make a woman. Transitioning, assuming he even passes, will feel like a really hollow existence. Does he have other mental illness or past issues?
From what you already posted, he is jealous of woman due to their femininity (clothing as an example), their expressiveness, and how they carry themselves. He probably has some idealized version of woman he wants to mimic to get rid of the negative feelings he might carry about himself. One suggestion could be to show him you can act "yourself" without trying to transition. Maybe buying men's clothing that is more "feminine" or stylish, acting more expressive, or doing activities he might feel he isn't able to do. He doesn't need to snuff out himself to act a certain way. It sounds silly, but trying to get him to stop is hard, and that might be the way he is thinking.
Let him know the real struggles too. Is he interested in woman? He wouldn't be able to have children. All of this transitioning will never make him a woman and will turn him into a life long medical patient. Even if he passes, he will still feel hollow from not being an actual woman, not being able to have kids, and having to live life like it's a play he is acting in. Dating is going to be super hard as well, and being lonely is horrible. He will also never have the same socialization, experiences, or life an actual woman would have.
Feel free to ask me anything. If you have more information on your brother, please let us know so we can try to help.
I had bad experiences as a child and was feminine as a kid, but I covered it up to fit in. Really started hating myself because i slowly felt worse and worse. I wished I was different and would wish I was a girl from when I was young. Teenage years were also extremely awkward and uncomfortable, so I slowly developed dyaphoria. I denied it for years and refused to face it until I was super mentally unwell and decided to transition in the middle of that. I wished I faced my issues to figure out why I felt that way before. I did and am doing it now, so I'll be back to my old me and at peace. Be wary of what you do
I am in a similar spot and decided to detransition as well. I am not able to be a biological woman, so I knew in the end it wasn't for me, after years of living as true as I could. feel free to ask any specific questions!
remember to always view yourself as a individual. just because you are a man doesn't mean the collective view of men is what you are. That thinking helps me.