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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user.
The comments demonstrate:
- Consistent, passionate beliefs aligned with a specific detrans/desister perspective.
- Personal anecdotes (e.g., mentioning HOCD, experiences with therapists) that suggest a real person's lived experience.
- Engagement in nuanced debate and the use of complex, multi-paragraph arguments, which is atypical for simple bots or trolls.
- A clear, sustained focus on the user's core issues with LGBT narratives and therapy, consistent over many months.
The user identifies as a straight male who did not medically transition but experienced distress from societal pressures, fitting the definition of a desister. Their tone is angry and conspiratorial, but this is within the realm of a genuine, highly passionate individual given the subject matter.
About me
I never felt I was born the wrong sex, but I got swept up in confusion and outside pressure. My anxiety started with intrusive thoughts about my sexuality, fueled by constant online messaging that made me doubt my reality as a straight man. I found clarity when I learned about HOCD, which described my distress perfectly, and I see similar patterns in how the trans movement targets vulnerable people. I was lucky to find a therapist who helped me manage my anxiety without pushing an agenda, though it showed me how hard it is to find honest support. Now, I’ve stepped away from the online noise and regret the time I lost to mental anguish caused by pervasive cultural propaganda.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started not because I had some deep-seated feeling of being born in the wrong body, but because I got caught up in a wave of confusion and outside pressure. I'm a straight guy, and I never actually transitioned, but I went through a period of intense anxiety about my identity that I now see has a lot in common with what a lot of detrans people experience.
For me, it all centered around something called HOCD, or homosexual OCD. Around 2014, it felt like you couldn't go online without being bombarded with messages about sexuality. Everywhere I looked, especially on sites like Reddit, the narrative was that if you felt different or didn't fit in perfectly, you were probably a closeted gay person. I started having these intrusive thoughts, wondering, "What if I am gay and I just don't know it? If I were closeted, I wouldn't know, right?" It caused me severe anxiety and depression. It was an epiphany when I found information about HOCD; it described my experience more perfectly than anything else I'd ever heard. It’s a condition where people get severely distressed by doubts about their sexuality, and it’s often more unsettling than actually being a closeted homosexual.
Looking back, I see how the constant pro-gay, and even anti-straight, messaging in the media and online created this environment where I started doubting my own reality. It felt like there was a sociocultural agenda at play, tapping into young people's natural desire to feel special or find a community, and twisting it into support for a specific political movement. I see a lot of similarities in the trans movement. They use special, cult-like language to attract young people and create an unfalsifiable narrative. If you question them, you're just told you can't understand unless you go through it yourself, which is a lot like how some religions talk about faith.
I was lucky that I found a good therapist to talk to about my anxiety, though it had nothing to do with gender. He had some unusual religious beliefs, but he was reasonable. Still, I was reluctant to bring up certain things because I was worried about how he'd react based on his beliefs. This made me realize how hard it must be for people dealing with gender issues to find a therapist who isn't just a "cheerleader" for transition. So many therapists are afraid to say anything that could be seen as critical of the LGBT narrative, and that does a lot of harm. People need someone who will be direct and honest, not someone who uses insinuations that make you doubt your own perception of reality even more.
I believe that a lot of people, especially young women who are actually lesbians, get pushed into identifying as trans because butch lesbians aren't really represented or talked about anymore. Kids are isolated and live online, stuck in echo chambers that reinforce these ideas. I think it's a lot more common for repressed homosexuals to identify as trans than people want to admit.
My thoughts on gender are that while there are minor, average biological differences between male and female brains, the overall effect is small. The idea of a "male brain in a female body" or vice versa isn't scientifically solid. It's a complicated issue that gets oversimplified for political reasons. Society, like a bad therapist, now infers that traditional gender roles should be abandoned, but there's nothing wrong with someone naturally identifying with their birth gender. Critics of traditional roles often claim they don't discriminate against people who follow them, but they absolutely do.
I never took hormones or had surgery, so I don't have regrets about a physical transition. My regret is the time I lost and the mental anguish I went through because of the pervasive cultural messaging. I benefited from stepping away from social media and finding a therapist who, while not perfect, helped me work through my anxiety without pushing an agenda. The whole experience made me deeply suspicious of the power dynamics at play, where claiming a minority identity can be used as a political tool.
Here is a timeline of my experience:
My Age | Year | Event |
---|---|---|
Early 20s | Around 2014 | Started experiencing severe anxiety and intrusive thoughts about my sexuality (HOCD) due to constant online messaging. |
Early 20s | 2019-2020 | Found information on HOCD, which perfectly described my experience. Began participating in online detrans communities to understand the parallels. |
Early 20s | 2020 | Sought therapy for anxiety, learning to manage my doubts and recognize the influence of external propaganda. |
Top Comments by /u/Mr_82:
Yes, very true. I wrote a long comment about this last night, describing how LGBT norms perpetuated by the media make it hard to find a decent therapist who won't just assume detrans people are really trans but "closeted" about it, or are otherwise reluctant to say anything that could be interpreted as even roughly critical of the LGBT narrative. That last part especially tells you there's a systemic problem due to the way certain narratives dominate the discussion and are intolerant of those not conforming to be something they aren't; just look at the way trans people harass detrans people, as so many posts here show.
Even when one doesn't have a "prickly" opinion or position, it's hard enough to find a therapist or person you can talk to who isn't just "cheerleading" or trying to lead you somewhere you don't want to go.
Not really disagreeing with you, but I find it curious because if you extend this logic to the notion of "coming out," which the LGBT similarly describe as something of a transcendent experience that outsiders supposedly can never understand (even though we all have various revelations in life, and they don't have to be about something so simple as sexual orientation) well that would expose a lot.
Personally I believe the only reason they claim no one else can understand the "coming out" ritual is just so that they can construct an unfalsifiable narrative: anyone who questions them is simply told "you can't understand anyway unless you go through it yourself." Which is also quite similar to the way religions describe things like faith.
That's such a mild comment too, which makes it incredibly clear that sub engages in propagandistic behaviors intended to advance the LGBT agenda silence anyone outside it. Why else would they silence people over such a harmless comment?
I got banned from that sub just for asking similar questions also. If the LGBT really wanted to be seen as good, make allies not enemies, etc they wouldn't do this; so the fact that they do kinda suggests religions were right about homosexuality being morally wrong, as that's exactly how they're acting.
Yeah I think it's a lot more common for repressed homosexuals to identify as trans than the left wants people to believe. Statistically, gay identification is much more likely than (true) trans identification or intersex conditions
Just from the stray posters in this sub alone, a lot of LGBT people seem to question their gender identity.
I think it's (sexual exposure) contributing to everyone's over-obsession with sexuality and LGBT issues, and overall has harmful effects on society in nearly every area. I think nearly all of today's moral decay can be traced back to this issue.
Sorry I don't have any real advice to give you here, but good luck. Staying away from social media might help though.
True, though our society now is kind of like a bad therapist in that they infer and project from this that traditional gender roles should be abandoned. If someone matures and identifies with their birth/natural gender more, it's not just just the "fault" of traditional gender roles: many just are that way naturally, and there's nothing wrong with it. Critics of traditional gender roles, often LGBT and non-binary identifiers, will tell you they don't discriminate against traditional gender roles and people "following" or exhibiting them, but most absolutely do.
Yes it's very bad, but I believe it's more propagandistic than merely childish. One of the hallmarks of cult-like behavior is the implementation of special, often euphemising terms to attract young people. And quite often the same people who would call religion cult-like turn the other cheek in this context.
I'm a guy, but I do understand what you're saying. Unfortunately it's unlikely you can really do anything to stop someone from hitting on you. (I've been hit on by men-well, that's probably a euphemism from their perspective- and it's not fun). Know what your boundaries are and tell them to fuck off if you want (might make you feel better). You control your response to it but you can't control their actions, to an extent anyway. I would probably avoid telling them you're a lesbian because any discussion of sexuality will probably just be spun into a further "attempt" on their part. (It's well-known that a lot of guys fetishize lesbians, which hopefully you know)
I'm sure there are but they've been suppressed
Edit: I wish you the well but that should go without saying; unfortunately modern society is pretty screwed up, and people expect virtue-signalling from everyone, which creates ambiguity since most people virtue-signalling don't mean it. (So I tend to avoid it because I do.)
I'm curious though, how did you not know about butch lesbians? If you're relatively young, that makes this all the worse, as I don't have kids or anything like that but I imagine kids today would from isolated and mostly live online, leading to echo chambers, partly responsible for why people unfortunately make mistakes. Not blaming you but post-marxists. I've had my own awakening about post-marxists as well.
Yes, while others' advice here is somewhat effective, it's actually the presence of estrogen and not the absence of testosterone that causes breast tissue (among other things). And having high testosterone (especially at unnatural levels, and well, we're on detrans, where many will agree that "unnatural" applies to transitioning) leads the body to produce more estrogen as well, leading to gynecomastia.