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About me
I am a female who transitioned because I felt like a failure as a woman and believed becoming a man was my only escape. I took testosterone and had surgery, but it only gave me temporary relief and left me with permanent, painful regrets. Through non-affirming therapy, I finally confronted my underlying trauma, depression, and internalized homophobia. I now understand my discomfort was psychological, not something surgery could fix, and I accept myself as a homosexual woman. I am finally finding peace after believing my life was ruined.
My detransition story
My journey through transition and detransition was long, complicated, and rooted in a deep unhappiness I didn't understand. For me, it wasn't about a true, innate sense of being the opposite sex. Looking back, I see it was a way to escape from myself.
I am a homosexual female. When I was younger, I hated my body, especially going through puberty and developing breasts. I felt uncomfortable and out of place. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia, the social discomfort of being a butch lesbian, and a deep-seated low self-esteem. I didn't fit the feminine ideal, and I felt like a failure as a woman. I thought that if I couldn't be a good woman, maybe I could try to be a man. I think internalized homophobia played a big part; it felt easier to be seen as a straight man than a gay woman.
I took testosterone for several years and had top surgery to remove my breasts. At the time, I was convinced this was the solution to all my problems. It felt like I was finally taking control. But the relief was temporary. The changes from testosterone were permanent, and the surgery left me scarred, both physically and emotionally. I am now infertile because of the hormones, something I didn't fully consider at the time.
I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy after my transition. A good therapist helped me unravel everything. She didn't affirm my trans identity; instead, she helped me look at the underlying reasons for it. We worked through my depression, my anxiety, and my trauma. I had to face the things I was trying to escape from. It was incredibly hard work, but it was the only thing that actually helped me find peace.
I have serious regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I regret not understanding that my discomfort was something that could be worked through psychologically, not solved surgically. I regret that no one ever seriously challenged me or asked me the hard questions before I made those irreversible decisions. The medical professionals I saw were too quick to affirm and provide treatment without any real exploration.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe you can change your biological sex. Transitioning changes your appearance, cosmetically and superficially, but it doesn't change the fundamental reality of your body. I think telling people, especially children, that they can change their sex is cruel and pathological. It sets them up for a lifetime of difficulty and medicalization.
I also have a professional background that gave me a unique perspective. For over twenty years, I worked directly with men who had what is called autogynephilia (AGP)—a fetish for dressing as women. I am an expert in fetishism and have even served as an expert in criminal trials. In my professional experience, this is a fetish, not a sexual orientation and not the same as being transgender. The vast majority of these men were heterosexual, married with children, and enjoyed cross-dressing as a secret, occasional activity. Their focus was on the garments and the taboo, not on any deep-seated identity as a woman. It is a serious error to conflate this fetish with being transgender.
Seeing this from the inside, both personally and professionally, I've lost faith in the institutions behind this. The research seems biased, and the ideology has taken over. There's no concern for the people who get injured along the way. People who raise concerns are immediately shut down and called transphobic. It’s a weapon used to stop any real discussion.
I hit rock bottom after my detransition. I was utterly alone and even lived on the street for a time. I believed my life was over and ruined. I came terrifyingly close to ending it all. If you had told me then that I would eventually have the best years of my life and an amazing family, I wouldn't have believed you. But it happened. I held on, and I found a way through. My message to anyone struggling is to please hang on. Please keep pushing through, even when it seems hopeless. There can be a future you can't even imagine yet.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Began to feel intense discomfort with puberty and developing female body. |
| 19 | Started to socially identify as male and use a male name. |
| 21 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 27 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
| 28 | Started non-affirming therapy to address underlying trauma and mental health. |
| 30 | Came to terms with my identity as a homosexual female and began to find peace. |
Top Comments by /u/Multidimensional0:
Reading the other Reddit groups discussing the WPATH files- of course it’s just a right wing conspiracy according to them. There is no concern for injured people, no concern towards making sure people are getting the best care. Their only concern is to make sure “right wingers” are wrong.
Please don’t give up. Please keep pushing through it even if it seems hopeless. There was a time in my life I hit the bottom of the bottom. I believed my life was over and that I was done- ruined. I was utterly alone, living on the street to top it off. I had nothing and definitely nothing to lose.
If you told me at that point that I would eventually end up experiencing the best years of my life and would even have an amazing family for the first time- I would not have believed you. I came so scarily close to exiting my body. Had that happened I would have denied myself what was to come which at that point I couldn’t even begin to imagine it as a realistic possibility. And yet it was.
Hang on. Please keep hanging on.
These people don’t know what they’re doing. It’s called “a practice” for a reason. We need to understand we shouldn’t assume or presume any doctor knows what they’re doing without earning the trust. This is a society that basically worships the position of medical professional. It’s no wonder many of them think of themselves as having the power over life and death. You think that they would be humbled by it, but I don’t think most of them are.
These lawyers are up against what amounts to a Goliath. Are they getting paid now? Who is paying them? Cases like this are a massive amount of work. The medical establishment has much deeper pockets. We can’t accurately assign motive without hearing directly from the people involved. Guessing doesn’t cut it. I know there are a lot of people who genuinely care about the people being injured.
What “Rights” (I’m not sure if people understand the meaning) do trans identified people not already have?
There are “privileges” being thought of as “rights”.
Buck Angel makes an excellent point in saying: “Just because you transitioned doesn’t mean you get everything you want”. Usually stated in a conversation about trans women competing in women’s sports or the use of women’s private spaces.
The trans athletes say “we just want to compete”however, no one is saying they can’t compete!
It wouldn’t be the issue it is, if trans women would compete in the category of their biological sex.
Clearly they want to believe that transitioning changes biological sex and in turn they demand that we all accept this and believe it. THIS is a violation of the rights of people who don’t consent to their belief system. It is FORCING a belief system. It is oppressive.
Transitioning does not change biological sex. It changes superficially, cosmetically- it changes appearance.
It is believing a lie to think transitioning changes biological sex. This is where a huge majority of people get off the train.
Telling children they can change their biological sex is pathological. Cruel.
We could have a transgender division. But wait! There’s not enough athletes for a whole division you say? There’s so few trans girl/women athletes?
Why should millions of girls and women be forced to allow the small population of MTF athletes into their divisions? Feelings? Their need to believe they’ve changed their biology? So they feel better? The feelings of trans identified are more important than the millions of girls and women? I’d like to know exactly what they believe justifies this. This is where I wonder about some of these people being narcissists. It’s incredibly self motivated and lacking empathy which are features of narcissism.
No one bothered to ask for consent. They’ve been forcing things. We hear that they just want to coexist, but if that were true we wouldn’t even be here. It wouldn’t be a TAKING of space by FORCE, where there’s zero concern for the millions of girls and women.
Those women on the swim team at the university with Lea Thomas- who found out a biological man identifying as a woman would be using their locker rooms because Thomas was just suddenly there (it wasn’t discussed with them prior) were told they needed psychological guidance (therapy) and were directed to LGBTQ orgs for this- not only were their feelings disregarded and totally devalued- it was suggested they attend what amounts to a reeducation process where their feelings would be used to shame them into submission. Don’t tell me those LGBTQ orgs would have respected and acknowledged their needs and feelings. It would be yet another lie.
It’s so frustrating and infuriating. Having been alive as a young LGBT person, during the time when people were being attacked outside of gay bars on a consistent basis, every time you walked down the street you risked being attacked- I had men in cars pull over and yell to me that I wished I had a dick, calling me a butch dyke, rolling up their sleeves trying to get me to fight them, I got very skilled at avoiding such situations… there was no legal protections for LGBT.
We had come so far….
We literally had fought to survive to get to where we had come….
People saying there’s a genocide now? This is being said because they’re not getting their way! Not because a genocide is actually happening. it’s part of a histrionic tantrum.
My career has had me working directly with autogynephilia. Literally many thousands of men of varying ages during a twenty three year period.
I am an expert in fetishism. I have served as an expert on fetishism during criminal trials.
In the vast majority of cases (where I was directly engaging people one on one) it is not a “sexual orientation” as some have claimed. It seems people are starting to revise known science based in their belief systems as opposed to evidence based science, or what is grounded in reality.
They seem to want to include people who have a fetish for dressing as women into the category of transgender. Perhaps they hope this would help bolster numbers and therefore their arguments? Even without assigning motive- based on what I have observed over a 23 year period- it is error.
I have engaged many thousands of cross dressers. Cross dressing is a fetish for many more men than some would like to believe.
It was extremely rare that one of these men would express a desire to be a woman full time, to live as a woman.
The vast majority of these men enjoyed it as a lifelong occasional activity. Some even have personas (or numerous) that they develop personalities for, along with complete wardrobes. Nonetheless it is a FETISH for them.
Most of them: secretly.
Most of them have been married with children.
They love their wives and family but also felt compelled to act out their fetish.
Many had attempted to do so with girlfriends and/or wives. Most partners were not into it at all. Occasionally there were wives who engaged some even dress up with their cross dressing husbands, but this wasn’t common. Some experienced very nasty divorces where their fetish had been weaponized against them.
A large portion of them had developed the fetish as children. A family member had dressed them up, or they had dressed themselves to look in the mirror. They grabbed a female family member’s underwear to try on, etc. I always asked many questions regarding how their fetish developed.
For many of them the fetish is greatly attached to the garments being worn not to the idea of the body itself being female. When a boy grabbed his sister’s panties- it wasn’t about being a girl, it wasn’t about the sister- it was about the panties. This is a very important detail.
It could even be argued that oftentimes the focus is completely on the garments and the taboo connected to a man wearing the garments, with no emphasis at all on “gender” despite the fact that a man is wearing female clothing.
I have spent thousands of hours with men who have this fetish. It is a FETISH.
Out of over 23 years I can count on one hand how many men I encountered, who were experiencing gender dysphoria. These people directly expressed that they wanted to be women, that they were struggling with it, and how they badly wanted to transition. Notably, these were all men age 50 and older who had stated this. They had struggled for many years.
There is a lack of research. Though I’ve lost faith in the institutions involved with research. I am observing related research going on right now and the people doing it are neck deep in the ideology. There won’t be unbiased evidence based datas to learn from. Just more indoctrination disguised as science.
You think that sums it up? I’m not a transphobe and I know we need these cases. Other regions of the world have experienced this process and it has paused or greatly slowed down the machine. America lags behind. It’s not a pretty process let alone an easy one. This (what was stated in the OP) could be the result of a lack of knowledge/awareness combined with a lack of best practices and communication. They’re doing this for the first time. People are overwhelmed. Have they told these people what they need? If they’re informed and yet do nothing that’s another story. It’s just that I’ve seen time and time again humans aren’t communicating. There are a lot of people being called transphobes who aren’t. That’s a weapon used by the people who promote children being transitioned to shut down opposition.