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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic and not a bot. The user demonstrates a consistent, highly specific, and passionate viewpoint developed from personal experience ("now that I have Detransed") and long-term observation of trans communities.
There are no serious red flags indicating it's a fake account or a bad-faith actor. The language is natural, arguments are complex and build on previous comments, and the perspective aligns with a specific, albeit highly critical, sub-faction within the detransitioner community. The use of derogatory slang ("hons") and the focus on AGP (Autogynephilia) are common, contentious tropes in these spaces and are not in themselves signs of inauthenticity. The account exhibits the anger and stigma mentioned in the prompt.
About me
I was a feminine boy who felt deeply uncomfortable and started identifying as a woman in my late teens. For a while, transitioning felt like an answer, but I became cynical about the community and realized I was deluding myself. I eventually understood that changing my gender wasn't solving my real problems with anxiety and self-esteem. I stopped hormones and resumed living as a male, which was a difficult but necessary process. Now, I see my journey as a form of escapism, and I'm learning to accept myself as an individual beyond restrictive gender ideas.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was deeply uncomfortable with myself. I was a feminine boy who didn't fit in with other guys, and I felt a lot of anxiety and had low self-esteem. I think now that a lot of my discomfort with puberty was just a normal part of growing up that I misinterpreted. I also believe my heavy consumption of porn played a role, feeding into fantasies and an escapism that made transitioning seem like a solution.
I started identifying as a woman in my late teens and began taking hormones. For a while, it felt like I had found an answer. I was able to be the feminine person I felt I was inside. I even had relationships with men who identified as straight, which at the time felt validating. But looking back, I see the self-deception in that. A straight man isn't attracted to a biological male, no matter how that person dresses or identifies. I was deluding myself and them.
Over time, I became cynical about the whole trans community. I saw a lot of people, especially older transitioners, retconning their life stories to fit a narrative. They'd claim they "always knew" or had tried to transition earlier, but it often seemed like an extension of a sexual fetish rather than a true identity. I started using terms like "hon" to describe this phenomenon, not to be cruel, but because I found the absurdity of it all darkly amusing. It became clear to me that many people online, particularly those attracted to women, were driving a lot of the conversation, and their experiences didn't match the reality for everyone.
I eventually realized that transitioning wasn't the right path for me. I detransitioned. I stopped taking hormones and resumed living as a male. It was a process of understanding that my problems weren't solved by changing my gender. Since detransitioning, my perspective has completely changed. I now have sex with trans women myself, and I see the other side of it—the men who pursue them often have their own conflicts and denials about their sexuality.
I don't really believe in gender the way I used to. I think it's a social concept that people use to group themselves, but it leads to a lot of generalization. I'm an individual, and my experiences were my own. I do have regrets about transitioning. I feel like I was influenced by online spaces and didn't fully consider the risks and permanent downsides. I was running from myself, and transitioning was a form of escapism that ultimately didn't address the root issues of my anxiety and self-esteem.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Started identifying as a woman and began taking hormones. |
| Early 20s | Lived as a trans woman, had relationships with "straight" men. |
| Mid 20s | Became disillusioned with the trans community and began questioning. |
| Mid 20s | Stopped hormones and detransitioned, resuming life as a male. |
Top Comments by /u/Mundane_Vacation4989:
Do you ever discuss with your male patients how their porn consumption could influence their sexual and gender confusion?
Male masochistic emasculation fetishes are becoming more and more common. And an ever greater percentage of young men are sexless and daily porn consumers.
I would guess it rarely comes up because people are not normally comfortable talking about embracing sexual feelings
There are many trans woman that still identify and participate heavily in gay culture. They may not “identify” as gay but they live their lives not a ton different from the average gay femme except maybe getting more trade/downlow dick.
Majority of trans women in western countries are agp so they will never identify much being gay.
Why are you putting your self in some massive group. You are an individual.
I will never understand this thinking.
Also I feel you are leaving out a lot about your motivations for transitioning. Are you even feminine like a femme gay man or are you a straight guy who thinks he’s feminine because he’s not as masculine as the typical straight man.
I assume you are attracted to women because you seem to be obsessed with men being viewed as threats to women. If you were attracted to men you would not give a shit how women saw you.
Stop generalizing so much, it’s pretty cringe. Most men are great people.
Are you serious right now ? They aren’t straight if they want to fuck a dude dressed like a girl. Is this really that confusing to you?
Yes Iv been with “straight” men. And btw now that I have Detransed, I have sex with mtfs and they think I am a “straight” man as well. You are deluding yourself
How do they define parameters ? You can never trust trans people to be reliable narrators. I’ve lost count of the number of Hons who claimed they tried to transition at 18 and had to repress bc of xyz and now at 48 they are ready to be true selves. (They tend to tell these stories to scare questioning people into transitioning). Would these types of people be considered in this study? Because those are not detransitioners
It’s just something you pick up the longer you interact in trans spaces. Also they have done studies and female attracted MtFs outnumber the homosexual variant in most studies. Female attracted MtFs are also HEAVILY more represented online. So in online communities you will find even more high numbers of “lesbian MtFs”
You realize trans people retcon their histories all the time. Outright lying is a mischaracterization of what I said. Just like everyone “knew when they were 5”, all the hons have a “I tried transitioning as a teen but xyz got in the way” story. And yes most of them are not true attempts at transitioning just extensions of acting out sexually. So I would be concerned if accounts like those are included in the data. If they cut the age off at say 35 it would weed a lot of those hon types out of the data and be less distortionary
My evidence is interacting with trans people for years and seeing how much they lie to themselves. Especially the older generation
Man straight guys must really be desperate if they are “straight” and want a gay boy dressed as a girl. Just sayin.
This post is all about you feeling great as a trans woman. So why not do that. This sub should not be telling people not transition as a rule, it’s simple for sharing experiences.
I think what’s missing in your post is a discussion and the risks and potential downsides of living as a “trans woman”. Maybe that is what you should explore rather than only discussing the negatives you feel accompany your male presentation and identity
Tbf online “trans spaces” are heavily over represented by female attracted MtFs. MtFs primarily (since childhood, not as a result of identity validating pseudo attraction) attracted to males are less likely to spend all day terminally online. Especially as adults.
Right wing politics people don’t like women? What does that even mean. All men want women. Vast majority of men cherish a woman cuddling next to them. What do you mean “don’t like women”. You think right wing men enjoy sausage fests? Are they gay, they just want to cuddle with themselves ?