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Based on the provided comments, the account "NamelessDragon30" appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting this is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The user's history demonstrates:
- Personal, detailed narrative: They share a specific, multi-year journey of transition and detransition, including personal motivations, medical details (T for ~5 years, top surgery), and evolving feelings over time.
- Internal consistency: Their story is coherent across multiple comments spanning years, detailing a shift from identifying as a trans man to realizing they are a masculine woman/agender person who transitioned for the wrong reasons (social pressure, escaping enforced femininity).
- Complex emotional reflection: The comments show deep self-analysis, regret, and the nuanced struggle of navigating social perception post-detransition, which aligns with the known experiences of real detransitioners.
- No scripted rhetoric: The language is personal, varied, and conversational, not repetitive or using common bot/troll phrases.
The account exhibits the passion and lived experience expected from a genuine detransitioner.
About me
I'm a masculine woman who transitioned because I thought it was the only way to escape forced femininity. I lived as a man for years, taking testosterone and having surgery, before realizing I had confused wanting to be masculine with needing to be male. The constant pressure to perform as a man became exhausting, and I finally understood I could just be myself. I stopped hormones and socially detransitioned back to living as a woman. I'm now comfortable in my own skin as a masculine female with no regrets about my surgery, but I wish I had known this was an option sooner.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started because I was a girl who just wanted to be masculine. From a very young age, I hated being forced into dresses and told how to act like a lady. My family, especially my mom, was completely against me expressing myself in a masculine way. I remember wishing I could get rid of my breasts as soon as they started growing when I was about ten years old; I even thought getting cancer would be a way to have them removed. I felt trapped.
When I learned about transgender men at 18, it was like a lightbulb went off. I thought, "That's me." It seemed like the only possible way to escape the femininity that was being forced on me. I socially transitioned at 19, started testosterone at 21, and had top surgery a few months later when I was still 21. For a long time, I was 100% sure this was the right path. I passed completely as a man and for a while, I was happy with the changes. I loved having a flat chest—that was something I never doubted.
But after a few years, around 23 or 24, I started having thoughts about detransitioning. I would push them away, blaming my bad mental health or depression. I told myself it was impossible to go back, so I shouldn't even think about it. A queer friend I confided in even told me I didn't really want to detransition, which made me ignore my feelings for even longer.
The real turning point was the pandemic. Working from home and being alone with my thoughts, without the constant social pressure to "be a man," made me realize how exhausting it was. I was always worried: Is my voice deep enough? Do I look masculine enough? Am I being clocked? I just wanted to exist without this constant performance. Around the same time, when we started wearing masks, people would sometimes gender me as female, which was a huge shock. It made me realize that being seen as a woman again was actually possible.
I started to understand that I had transitioned for the wrong reasons. I didn't have body dysphoria, except for my chest. I never felt I needed testosterone; I just took it because I thought that to be a masculine person, I had to be a man. I confused wanting to express myself masculinely with needing to change my entire sex. I realized it was perfectly okay to be a masculine woman. That was the core of it all. I could wear men's clothes, have short hair, and be myself without having to live as a man.
I stopped testosterone in mid-2019, but I didn't start socially detransitioning until late 2020, when I was 26. Telling people was hard. I didn't make a big announcement. I just slowly started changing my social media, using a version of my birth name, and asking close friends to use she/her pronouns. It felt awkward and cringey at first, but with time, it became more natural. I worked on training my voice to be higher by singing and consciously speaking from a higher place in my throat.
Now, I'm a woman. I'm comfortable with that. I still present in a very masculine way—I shop in the boys' section, never wear makeup, and have short hair. I love my flat chest and have zero regrets about top surgery. But I no longer feel the pressure to fit into a box. My body has changed since stopping testosterone; my fat redistributed and my face softened, though some things, like my voice and some facial hair, are permanent. I've had laser hair removal, which helped a lot.
Looking back, I see that my transition was almost inevitable because of my unsupportive family. It was the only way I saw out at the time. I don't regret the journey because it ultimately led me to a place where I can be comfortable just being myself, a masculine woman. I do regret not realizing sooner that I could have been this person without medically transitioning. The pressure online and from certain communities to transition immediately is real, and I think if I'd had more support to just be a gender-nonconforming girl, my path might have been different.
My thoughts on gender now are that it doesn't have to be a big deal. I'm a woman because I'm female, and I'm comfortable with that. How I express myself is just how I am. I wish more people knew that you don't have to transition to be happy if you're gender-nonconforming. You can just be.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 | Started feeling intense discomfort with breast development. |
| 18 | Learned about transgender men and immediately identified as one. |
| 19 | Socially transitioned to male. |
| 21 | Started testosterone. |
| 21 | Had top surgery. |
| 23-24 | First thoughts about detransitioning began, but I suppressed them. |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone (had been on it for about 4-5 years, on and off). |
| 26 | Began social detransition, reverting to female name and pronouns. |
| 28 (Present) | Living comfortably as a masculine woman. |
Top Comments by /u/NamelessDragon30:
Finally a post I completely agree with.
I think you expressed it perfectly well and in a very respectful way. Problem is, that most people who start identifying as trans or are otherwise submerge into "trans culture"(? - idk what to call it) tend to be way too defensive about anyone or anything that challenges their ideals even in the slightest (myself included like 8 years ago, I realized now what an a**hole I was).
So, even though you express yourself in the best way anyone can, they will still not take it well, and there's nothing anyone can do about it but watch those people experiment further with whatever they feel at the moment and see what happens, even if that goes down the path of regret.
As you mentioned, it is definitely an online issue more than anything. There's such a pressure to transition literally AS SOON as you consider, even if for a millisecond, that you might be trans, without ever exploring being comfortable with your sex assigned at birth while presenting however you want. And that needs to change. No idea how, no idea if it'll ever change, but it should. Everyone (and especially kids) should be able to experiment without being pressured to either transition or not. It should be taught that it is absolutely okay to be a masculine woman or feminine man. Or maybe just a masculine person who's AFAB if they don't like the "woman" label, etc. So many people would have been comfortable before transitioning if they hadn't been pressured into it one way or the other. Not to mention that the pressure (online) is disguised as support, so not helping.
Also, maybe detransitioners are not as forth coming as trans people who first transition; meaning that the known average of detransitioners (deemed as extremely uncommon) may not be uncommon at all, just unknown of.
Not only that, but don't ignore detransitioning thoughts because you think it's too late either. Or "oh, it's just my mental health tricking me". No, some part of you wants to stop and shutting it down is only hurting yourself.
Funny, I was 100% about surgery, which I in no way regret and am glad I had it, but hell was I having doubts about T. And then blamed detranstioning thoughts on depression and loneliness (as advised by a queer "friend"). Took me too many years to really listen to myself.
People should really truly learn to listen to their inner selves more, and from an early age. Rather than putting so much importance into peer pressure, society, internet, etc.
As a few others have said, you can never undo it, but you can do it later if you're absolutely 100% without a single doubt sure. Even if you can "undo it" with yet another reconstruction surgery, it's by far not the same and you'll have butchered your body and sacrificed the ability to breastfeed and likely to feel any type of sensual response on that part of you body (not to mention double reconstruction doesn't look great, gotta be honest) for no good reason other than peer pressure from the wrong people (and this even includes doctors who are affirmative of you going through with it without explaining jack sh*t).
What you need (speaking from personal experience) is time away from everything and everyone that might influence your decision. Screw trans people, screw us detrans people too, screw family, doctors, friends, absolutely everyone and specially the whole internet on itself. Get away from us and be one with yourself. Really get to know you, who are, what you want, what truly makes you happy. You'll find that who you are on your own and who you become to fit society are completely different people. Always choose you, not the version of you created to please other or fit into this social world.
The pandemic and me being with myself without socializing much is how I realized " what the heck am I doing?" after already going through 5+ years of hormones and top surgery. It's insane how much society and the internet can influence us in such a way that we truly believe these thoughts and decisions are coming from us when they're really not.
Good luck and hope you really do take my advise and enjoy your solo time discovering yourself.
This would have helped me So Much before i transitioned. I feel a lot of the things you described and am now trying to be okay with just being a masculine female. I don't have to identify as male or female, i just want to be comfortable being me, a masculine person with a now mixed body who used to be female.
I really wonder how common it was for last year's events to help trans people realize detransitioning was right for them. She mentions quarantine and being alone with her thoughts helped her get to that point and I can 100% relate to that. Not having the pressure from society to "live up" to masculine standards and having to constantly check if I was being masculine enough, it made me realize how absolutely nonsensical it was for me. And I've seen this mentioned by others too. So, it seems that the more we're alone with our thoughts, the more we can maybe think more rationally about ourselves or something? Not trying to say trans people are irrational or anything, but I personally feel like my thoughts were quite so before.
Unless you are personally close with Elliot Page, how do you know his journey began December 2020? He came out to the public at that time, but no one outside of his personal life know show long he's been out to his inner circle and planning top surgery, etc.
It's unreasonable to judge him based on the media.
There are breasts products intended for MTF; they're inserts you put in a bra to fill them and feel like you have breasts; they look quite realistic, feel realistic to touch and come in a variety of colors and sizes. You could try those out and see how you feel.
Fucked up society expectations and screwed enforcement of gender roles based on what genitals one has.
If people were allowed to be happy expressing however they want regardless of their body without getting so much crap from society, I really think there would be less people transitioning. *Especially* children and teens.
First of all, you sound like such a wonderful parent. Thank you for simply existing in the way you do, truly!
How long ago did he come out as trans? I ask because the first thing that trans people need to do is experiment, and by that I mean mostly socialize as the gender they identify as. Has he been socializing as a man for long? Because if not, I'd be worried too. Another question he needs to dig deep into is why does he feel that he can't be himself without hormones? It could be for the wrong reasons, in which case that's not the best path for him, or it could be for completely the right reasons and he truly needs it. There's no way for anyone except him to know if medical transition is the right path.
I also want you to know and understand the general experience and thought process that trans people go through in this stage of pursuing hormones. (This is generic and may not apply to him, but it also may; and when you mentioned you tried talking to him about it and he stopped talking to you, it got my attention as he is most likely going through this). Whether it is the right path for him or not is not even a debate for him. He might be fully fixated in absolutely needing hormones in a life or death manner because there's nothing else that matters more than looking like a man. He may not think that there is any other way he can exist expressing himself the way he wants without the physical masculine features. And when someone challenges that, his whole soul may just explode like dinamite inside.
It is obvious that he has your support and I'm sure he appreciates that. But any slight disagreement and he might feel like you don't believe him and want him to "drop it".
Again, all of this is a general idea of how the though process of a trans person looks like - for most of us, not all. So it's very tricky to try and express concerns when a person is in that state of mind.
The best advice I can give you is to 1000% reassure him that you see him as the man he is (even if at some point it turns out he isn't, it doesn't matter) and that hormones doesn't make him any less or more of a man. Reassure your love for him and how you'd obviously hate to see him struggling and being unhappy. All you're asking (at least that's what it seems from your post) is that he digs a little bit deeper as to why he feels he needs hormones, just to make sure it's the right decision. Make sure he understands you're not trying to keep him away from it, you're not trying to discourage him, you just want what's best for him because his mind might be too fixated in needing to medically transition to see what's going on underneath it all.
Edit: Forgot to mention that in the end, no matter how much you or anyone else tries to make sure he makes the right decision, he will do whatever he feels is right at the time (it's important that he thinks about what the rest of his life will look like after hormones, by the way). And there's no way you or anyone else could have done anything about it if by any chance it turns out to be a bad decision. If he's happy and glad to be on T for the rest of his life, then absolutely great! But if he's not, it's no one's fault really, he did what he thought he had to do and that's it.
This is long enough, so I guess that covers it. I just want to express that I'm one of the people who took hormones for years and just now am realizing it was not the best decision and it was just a way for me to cope with trauma inflicted by completely unsupportive parents because they made me fully suppress who I've always been (which is a masculine person, but not a man). So, I truly truly truly appreciate people like you being so loving and supportive of their child. Thank you again for being so wonderful!
My sexuality bounced from one to another a few times, and I was also pushing my trans narrative. Changed my name twice, technically three times (but the first one didn't last long). All to end up being a straight cis female. Is it embarrassing? absolutely. But I think it's something that just needed to happen for me to finally get to a place where I'm comfortable being myself without gender/sexuality occupying any space in my head.
I think the way I handled it I did it to prevent being seen as embarrassing. I just let people find out and eventually confirmed it. No big come out. No talking about it. In fact, I specifically didn't wanna talk about it and people knew that. I just slowly started looking more female and eventually told people to go back to my birth name and she/her.
If I had tried to generally come out again, my face would have fallen off. I'm honestly sorry for everyone who's had to put up with me through so many changes. But it's only embarrassing if we make it so. And I didn't make it so. I just smoothly changed like it was no big deal.
What I'm trying to say is, try to find a comfortable way to do this without projecting your embarrassment. It's absolutely possible.