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The comments display a consistent, nuanced perspective on detransition, gender ideology, and misogyny, particularly from the viewpoint of someone in a developing country. The user shares personal observations and asks specific, detailed questions that reflect a genuine engagement with the complex, emotional realities of the topic. The tone is passionate and opinionated, which is consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
I started transitioning because the sexism and homophobia in my country made me feel that loving women as a woman was impossible. I took testosterone and bound my chest, believing becoming a man was the only way to have an acceptable relationship. I now realize my journey was driven by a desire to escape oppression, not by a true male identity. I regret the permanent changes and the time I lost. I am learning to accept myself as a lesbian woman and see that my body was never the problem.
My detransition story
My journey into transition started from a place of deep discomfort, not necessarily with being a woman, but with the sexism and limitations that came with it in my country. I am a lesbian, and here, being attracted to women is often seen as a sign that you must actually be a man. That external pressure, the idea that my love for women wasn't valid unless I was a man in a straight relationship, was a huge influence on me.
I think for a lot of us in developing nations, transitioning can feel like an escape route from systemic misogyny. It wasn't so much that I had a deep, internal sense of being male, but that the world seemed to treat me better when it perceived me as one. I wanted to be a lesbian, to just be a woman who loves women, but that felt impossible under the weight of all that judgment. Transitioning offered a way to make my relationship socially acceptable, to make it look straight to the outside world.
I started binding my chest because I hated my breasts; they felt like a symbol of everything I was trying to escape from. It became a huge complex for me, and I was constantly worried about how to keep them flat and hidden. I looked into top surgery, seeing it as a permanent solution to this problem I felt I had.
I took testosterone for a while. When I thought about detransitioning, one of my biggest worries was my voice. I was concerned it would be permanently deep and that I'd need to take estrogen to fix it. But then I remembered that many women who never take testosterone have deep voices naturally. An ex-girlfriend of mine could easily pass for a man on the phone. That helped me realize that a deep voice isn't the end of the world and doesn't make me any less of a woman.
Looking back, I don't think my transition was driven by a true transgender identity. It was driven by internalized homophobia and a desperate desire to escape the oppression that came with being a lesbian in my culture. I've seen similar patterns in others, too. Some men, influenced by incel ideologies, transition to female, but when they detransition, they often return to those same misogynistic views. It shows that for some of us, transition can be more about anger or escape than it is about a genuine and stable sense of self.
I do have regrets about my transition. I regret not being able to see that I could be a happy, whole woman who loves women without having to change my body to fit a narrow social idea of acceptability. I regret the time I lost and the permanent changes I have to live with now. My thoughts on gender now are that it's often used as a way to enforce social rules, and for people like me, medical transition can be a drastic solution to a problem that is ultimately social, not medical.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Age not specified) | (Year not specified) | Began binding my chest due to discomfort with my breasts. |
| (Age not specified) | (Year not specified) | Started taking testosterone. |
| (Age not specified) | (Year not specified) | Stopped taking testosterone and began my detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/National-Cucumber-28:
It’s like 'transracials' using people with vitiligo or albinism to justify their identity (like Rachel Dolezal not the transracials adoptee)
I'd like to ask you a quick question, which you don't have to answer if you think it's too indiscreet. Did you use a binder at the time? How did you manage to keep your breasts in shape? Did you have to have surgery? It's become one of my biggest complexes.
I have a question: when you detransition, are you on estrogen? Or do you just stop taking testosterone? On the other hand, a lot of women have a deep voice. One of my ex-girlfriends, who was never on testosterone, could calmly pass herself off as a man on the phone. Having a deep voice isn't serious, don't worry.
Are you from a developing country? I am.
In my country, most women don’t transition because they’re not aware of gender ideology. However, once someone introduces the concept, it can influence them to consider transitioning to escape sexism.
It’s particularly difficult for gnc lesbians, because being attracted to women is often misinterpreted as meaning you’re actually a man.
You can be a woman and love women without any ideological influence but I can't say that about transition.
You can be homosexual without external influence, but many FTM individuals in developing countries transition largely as a way to escape systemic misogyny. Reddit users often claim the opposite, but this is something I’ve personally experienced and I know I’m not alone. For lesbians, transitioning can sometimes feel like a way to make their relationship with another woman appear straight, which makes it more acceptable socially. I’ve also observed a pattern where some men influenced by incel or red pill ideologies transition to MTF, but when they detransition, they often fall back into the same misogynistic beliefs. Simply saying “I want to be a lesbian” doesn’t make someone one it can reflect anger at men more than genuine same-sex attraction.
I get them. Have we done any studies on this? I don't want to question or dismiss your qualifications or your experience, but it wasn't so long ago that doctors could say things that weren't... Sh... Like hysteria or not recognising the clitoris. Etc. or like currently, the medical field don't take PCOS like a real hormonal disease but mainly like reproductive illness for example. I tried looking on the net but couldn't find anything.