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There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic persona. The comments reflect a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally resonant personal narrative that aligns with the perspective of a desister (someone who stopped identifying as trans without medical intervention). The user's story about internalized sexism, media influence, and reconciling with being a lesbian is specific and plausible. The passion and anger are consistent with someone who has experienced this specific type of harm.
About me
I'm a lesbian, and my confusion started because I had this strange idea that only men could truly love women. I think I absorbed that from media, where female characters were rarely the powerful heroes I wanted to be. For a very short time, I thought I might be non-binary, but I quickly realized that path wasn't for me. Now I understand my discomfort came from internalized sexism, not from being the wrong sex. I'm proud to be a woman and a lesbian, and I've learned that my strength was inside me all along.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this was more of a short trip that ended before it really began, but the thoughts behind it were very real. I’m a lesbian, and I think a lot of my confusion started with that. I first came out as a lesbian when I was 13 or 14, but I didn't actually want to claim that title. In the back of my mind, I had this idea that only men could like women. It was weird because my parents were totally fine with me being gay; they already knew, I was living in a "glass closet." I think the media and society are to blame for planting that idea.
I saw how women were portrayed in movies and TV shows, and it really got to me. Their stories always revolved around getting a guy, losing a guy, or getting back at a guy. Even lesbian stories often ended sadly, and I think a part of me tried to walk away from being a lesbian because I was afraid my life would have a sad ending, too. I never felt like I could relate to those characters. I always identified more with the male characters because they were the ones who were powerful, independent, and the main heroes. Women were often just the support character—the medic, the healer, the kind one who doesn't want to hurt anyone. I wanted to be strong and powerful, not sidelined.
This led to a kind of internalised sexism. I didn't want to be female because, in my mind, it meant I was 'lesser.' I didn't even realise that was a form of sexism at the time; it's really not easy to recognize in yourself. For a very brief period, I thought I might be non-binary. I only went by they/them pronouns for a single day. It shocked me to see people in non-binary online spaces talking about transitioning because, to me, being non-binary meant there was nothing to transition to. Hormones would make you look more male or female, not magically non-binary. I realized that path wasn't for me.
A big moment for me was watching the new She-Ra show. I was crying because I wanted to be as powerful as she was, and then it hit me: I am powerful, and so are all other women. That show had me loving all the lady characters, and I realized we need more stories like that. I also really connected with Entrapta, a geeky female character, and I wish there were more women like her in media.
I never pursued any medical transition. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I didn't even really transition socially. I just had a lot of confusing thoughts. Even now, I don't always love my breasts, but I've come to understand that not loving every part of my body some days doesn't mean I'm not female. I can be as powerful and strong as I want to be. The problem is with society's limited views, not with me.
I am happy and proud to say now that I am a lesbian. I don't regret exploring these ideas because it led me to a better understanding of myself and the world. I don't regret not transitioning because it wasn't what I truly needed.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13/14 | Came out as a lesbian, but felt uncomfortable claiming the identity. |
| 22 | Briefly identified as non-binary and used they/them pronouns for one day. |
| 22 | Realized my discomfort was from internalized sexism and societal pressures, not gender dysphoria. |
| 22 | Reclaimed my identity as a lesbian and began working on self-acceptance. |
Top Comments by /u/Natural-Ruin:
Thank you! :) I appreciate your sub so much. I am glad it's still here. Honestly though, I see myself as more of a detesister as I did not do anything medically or socially. I ended up only going by They/Them for 1 day, but I appreciate the open arms welcome.
Thank you! I am happy as well! I didn't think I faced sexism, but I actually did. Because I didn't want to be female, because it meant I was 'lesser'- hence sexism. And they are really not easy to recognize at all. Thank you and I am proud to say that I am a Lesbian. A title I didn't want to claim since I came out at 13/14. Thank you everyone here for your stories and courage. <3
YES! THIS! When I was younger I thought I was transgender (when it meant what it meant in early 2000's. Meaning having Dysphoria and medical cures for like a few weeks), because in the back of my mind, only men could like women. Which was weird, because my parents were totally fine with the whole lesbian thing. I actually was living in a 'glass closet' as it was said, because they already knew. I think media is to blame for this and the greater society at large.
And yes, it's SO hard to 'feel' like a woman when the experiences of women that you see on screen or anywhere revolve around getting a guy, losing a guy, getting back at a guy- not needing guys, etc. AND what is worse, most lesbian/gay stories ended sadly. T_T And maybe the lesbian thing I tried to walk away from was the idea I would have a sad ending. :(
Same! I was watching She-ra and crying, because I wanted to be as powerful as she was. And amazingly enough, I realised I AM and so are all other women. I agree- I am usually one who identifies with male characters in media and this show had me loving all the ladies. We DO! I need more lesbians!
I think that's a huge part of this. Women in media are seen as second to the men. The support character. Medic, healer. Kind, doesn't want to hurt people. I think those roles and tropes really hurt women IF not balanced out by women who are fighters, independent, etc. I am a writer, so I cannot say I think all female characters should be X,Y, or Z. I have female character who are kind and all. I just think that it shouldn't be the ONLY kind of women in media.
I personally adore Entrapta and I wish there were more geeky women like her in shows.
Honestly, I didn't really count NB/GF as trans, because to me that means one has something to transition to, which NB/GF don't have. It shocked me too, when I went to GF Reddit or Tumblr and people are trying to transition. It was to a youtuber that that pointed out there IS nothing to transition to if one is NB/GF. Because HRT will only really make you a guy or girl. It's not going to make you magically NB. (Honestly, something I was never going to do.) And if desisting means throwing that concept in my own garbage and accepting my sex, then yes. I suppose I belong here. Thank you so very much.
It is a bit. I am now attempting to become more accepting of myself and yes, I still don't LOVE my boobs someday. But that doesn't mean I am not female. So, yeah. It is. I can be as powerful and strong as I want to be and society has issues, not me. :)